Why are girls so traumatized by rape?

Look , I know it's an evil and heinous act but I don't really understand. I am not trying to make light of it. I can understand woman being very upset and mad but it's only a guy cumming. It's not death or dismemberment. I know you don't consent to it , I know it's wrong but it's not murder. I know woman can be injured during it but if you just went along wouldn't that help prevent any violence? Should you really need counseling and all that after the event?
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OK look all you jackasses who can't read and comprehend. Read my question. I do not in any part condone or approve of rape. I do say it is eveil and heinous. I only asked why would you need counseling and why is it so traumatizing.
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I understand it can be hurtful and terrible but so can getting jumped on the street and beat up and robbed. You don't need counseling after and all that. I'm trying to understand the female thought process. And no it is not the same as being forcell
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  • As kids our parents explain that our virginity and sex in General is the most special and important thing in the world. They fill out heads and talk up sex like crazy. To the point where it consumes out life. Sex is one of the only ways women feel worth something (it's sad yet true). So when someone takes away something turbos one of the most important things it destroys you. Sex is supposed to be the most intimate thing two people can share and give Each other, then someone just comes along and takes it. It's the most special thing we can do with our body and he just took out. Like it meant nothing, like I was worth nothing. He took sex, he took my worth. Also when your getting raped you dot know if they're going to kill you. They could it's the same as being robbed and held at gun point (at least I assume), but the whole time I'm thinking he might kill me.
    Also there's a huge fear he's going to come back and do it again. Or if you tell he might kill you, even if you don't tell you think he's going to kill you. Every guy you meet after that is a potential rapist in your eyes. Your dad, your brother, your friend, your boyfriend. Anyone and everyone is dangerous in your eyes.
    Also your scared to talk. What if everyone calls you a whore. What if everyone says you deserved it. What if your friends ostriches you. And even if others don't say that to you, you start saying it to yourself. Replaying the moments over and over again thinking that ever second wa brought on to you yourself.
    And if you know him, what I you see him everyday. He walks around unphased yet your broken inside.
    And your scared if your pregnant. Why are you going to do with the baby. Why if you have it and it looks like you. How am I going to raise a baby on my own. So many things your not even ready for.
    The main thing they wound is your soul. Your piece of mind. Your self worth.

  • Rape is traumatizing because it's forcing women to perform an act that they may view as intimate against their will. It can be painful both physically and emotionally. It is typically violent and horrifying for someone to experience. It can cause psychological trauma because someone is forcing themselves into the person's body and violating them. No one should be forced to have sex against their will. As someone else here mentioned, how would you feel if someone raped you? I'm sure your perspective would change. Rape can cause PTSD and Rape Trauma Syndrome. Victims may blame themselves, have feelings of guilt or shame, fear being alone in the future, have a decreased sense of worth or self-esteem, etc. Please, educate yourself.

    "Not only is there the element of surprise, the threat of death and the threat of injury, there is also the violation of the person that is synonymous with rape. This violation is physical, emotional and moral and associated with the closest human intimacy of sexual contact. The intention of the rapist is to profane this most private aspect of the person and render his victim utterly helpless. The character of the event is thus connected to the perpetrator’s apparent need to terrorise, dominate and humiliate the victim."

    Source: rapecrisis.org.za/.../

  • Why only ask this question "to understand the female thought process"? Do you think only girls get raped? What about little boys who don't understand anything about sex and are molested by their uncles, cousins, grandfathers, babysitters, teachers, or other figures of authority? Do you think they're not traumatized by their sexual abuse when they grow up?

    It's not "just a guy cumming". You don't understand that sex can be unwanted, unpleasant, dirty, and shameful... You're lucky you never had to experience that. You're lucky you view sex as something great and pleasurable, as it SHOULD be. So why is rape so traumatizing?

    Imagine feeling like you have NO control over your body. The most intimate part of your body that you've been protecting, that you only willingly share with someone else AS YOU DESIRE, is being violated, and you cannot do anything about it. You're the most powerless, helpless, and vulnerable person in the world. Your own body is not yours. You're practically nothing. Imagine feeling another person's body directly above you, entering you violently without permission, and you feel the worst kind of pain and fear take over you. You feel like it's gonna go on forever. And in a way, it does.

    Tell me if that's not worse than getting beat up and robbed.

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  • Well not all rape is equal first off. I think you might be thinking of cases that aren't as bad as others. There is a wide definition of rape, some even include being slightly drunk (not unconscious or anything like) some are not as traumatizing as stay a stranger in a mask breaks into your house with a knife. He beats the victim and holds a knife to their throats while he tears off there clothes. Not only are they fearing for their life but they can't even say a or do a thing while they are being physically tortured. Knowing you are helpless and feeling vulnerable scars someone. Now not every rape is like that but it doesn't mean that what happened wasn't damaging. There are some people that don't go to counseling, they may block it out or try to forget it. They might not take it as hard. But there are many who do need help because of how overwhelming it was. If it was traumatizing to them I don't think anyone has a right to say it wasn't or they don't need help. Everyone is different and everyone copes in different ways. Think about soldiers coming home, some has PTSD while others don't. Many had friends who died besides them, others may have survived an IED and lost limbs. Not all of them have PTSD. You can't really judge someone unless you have gone through what they have. Even then the way you think of things and the way someone else does is vastly different. It's not important that you completely understand the way others act what's important is that you support them if they are hurting, whether you believe its not a big deal or not. Even if for some reason you think someone is exaggerating, showing kindness and compassion is never a bad thing.

  • Because it's something that shatters a person at their very core. It's not "only a guy cumming", it's the most brutal violation of one's intimacy, privacy and sexuality. It's something that deeply wounds the victim, both emotionally, psychologically and sexually. It's something that makes you feel afraid for years to come, something that may "imprint" your sexuality forever, something that can totally ruin a person. I'm usually fine with trolling but this... not cool man, not cool.

    • Excellent answer! I can understand that. One thing though. I never said rape was ok or not a big deal. I only asked about the counseling part. Your last sentence was not cool.

    • You're acting like its no big deal

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  • How would you feel if a man held you down and raped you in the ass? It's not that big of a deal is it? He's only cumming. . . it won't kill you, you could just sit there and take it so he won't get violent? Seriously dude? What a dumb question.

    • I think I'm in love with you #nohomo

    • I think so too #nohetero

    • I <3 you too LOL.

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  • Rape steals the security of a woman. Knowing you did not want something, and someone only cared about satisfying himself is scary. Having control over your own body gives you a sacred feeling about yourself. When someone takes away that sacredness, many lose their feeling of self-worth and now they see sex and relationships in an awful light. After such an event you begin to question whether people genuinely care about you, or just want to take advantage of you. You just don't look at love the same way you did before; when you thought it was something to be shared between two people who both share the same feelings.

  • So you would be totally cool with having one of your guy friends forcefully hold you down while fucking you in your ass, dry? You'd be totally cool with being attacked in the dark, when you're alone outside, by some stranger who decides to shove your face into his dick?
    I really hope you're trolling. Because otherwise, you're just plain fucking stupid. And I refuse to believe that anyone could be this stupid and cold hearted.

    • MHO for this girl

    • Apples and oranges. I would be cool if a girl shoved her pussy in my face. you are using a homosexual scenario. Your argument is flawed. AND I did not say it rape was cool. go back and read!!

    • it's not completely different. Both are unwanted sexual penetration. It's pretty much the same thing

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  • It's just being forcefully violated at your deepest and most inner identity, having who you are as a person shaken to the core, having all your worldviews and confidence levels completely destroyed and then being treated roughly by those trying to help you by subjecting yourself to a rape kit, having strangers poke around and further violate you to attempt to locate your rapist, face him in court, testify against him, be publicized so the entire community knows you have been violated, and have to pick up the shattered pieces of who you are as a person and attempt to put yourself back together - something that is nearly impossible.

    Yeah, what could possibly be traumatic about that?

    You aren't very bright, are you?

  • You need empathy or a psychologist, or both. Guys get traumatized by rape too you know. Why? It's not just "a guy cumming", a lot of times, it's actually a loved one or someone you know and trusted. A lot of times, it's not "stranger danger". A lot of rapes are done by someone the victim know, loved, trusted. It's not just rough or raw penetration, it's violating a person's faith in humanity, especially if it's a relative, not just their body. Not everyone is desperate for sex. Not only that, the victims are often left hating and questioning "was it my fault? Could I have prevented it? Why did my uncle see me that way? Should I have worn something different? Will anyone believe me? etc."
    Yes, you do need counseling. As I said, there's so many questions left. And many times, because of insensitive jackasses, victims end up getting all the hate and blame.

    I don't know if you're trolling, but learn empathy. It'll help more than you think.

  • I hope it's some kind of a joke dude... seriously I pray u never r raped but go ask the people who we're u can't even start to imagine what they go through just talking about it
    And dude go get a clue About ur pathetic life... rather than being a complete jerk
    please care about others to... have humanity

  • This is probably one of the dumbest questions I've seen on this site. Rape is an unwanted physical violation of the most private areas of your body. It's extremely mentally damaging as well. Many women who have been raped are very distrusting of men, even men in their own family. They spend years wondering if it was their fault (i. e. thinking what if I was in a different place at that time, or what if I was wearing something different, etc) when they don't need to be thinking in such a way because it's not their fault at all. There are rape victims who even go so far as to sleep around with a number of different guys because they want to feel that control again, and there are others who may not want to have sex again.

    There's also the thing about STDs, like what if her rapist gave her something incurable like HIV? Or what if she got pregnant?

    • No it's not dumb. I did not say I approve or that rape is not evil. I just don't understand the counsleing part.

    • They need counseling because rape is extremely psychologically traumatizing.

    • @ 2nd update: How do you know people don't need counseling after getting jumped, mugged and beat up on the street? Women who are raped are often attacked in a very similar manner.

  • To say that rape is "only a guy cumming" is the understatement of the century.
    It's way more than that... It's a violation of someones most intimate part of the body and a forceful act carried out without the consent of the victim, same as assault. The victims dignity is taken in a brutal manner and with that can carry serious psychological consequences. The memory of this crime can will stay with the victim rest of their lives.
    Could you live with that?

    • I only just realised this was troll, you got me... Congratulations you are 36-45 with the mental age of a 12 year old... the only joke here is you!

  • it's because you've never experienced it, so you don't understand the feeling from the combination of being scared and vulnerable to a powerful and intimidating horny bastard.
    You should just know that it is traumatizing, and yes, women do need counselling and "all that" after the event.
    It's severely psychologically damaging. It can be just as psychologically damaging to a 20 year old girl as a 5 year old girl screaming and crying when being molested by a 50 year old man in the bushes at a park after being lured away from the school grounds during recess. It's the same feeling. The same panic. The same vulnerability to the rapist, the same result.
    Although you do not understand how it is traumatizing because it involves sexual "pleasure," keep in mind, it's not pleasure at all. Sure, vaginas react to the rubbing, but that does not bring relief, or pleasure to our mind. It's scary as fuck. Do not ever rape a girl just because you don't understand how it's traumatizing.

    • Very good answer! You read the question!!

  • Well, if you want, I can hire a big black guy to come over to your house and he can show you.

    • Took the words right out of my mouth! xD

    • I would not need counseling which was my question. you racist jerk off. Why a balck guy is that the worst type of you can imagine. Shit head! Read the question.

  • We have a couple of options here: You're either a total fucking imbecile and you're serious, or you're a total fucking imbecile and you're trolling.

    Something doesn't have to be murder to be devastating. And it's not "only a guy cumming," you're thinking of what every woman who has ever had the displeasure of being bedded by you has said. Rape is an act of violence and it's the ultimate violation of bodily integrity.

    • I din not say it wasn't' devastating or good in any way. Another idiot who can't read. I only asked why counseling and truamatization. Idiot!

    • Oh god you're a total fucking imbecile and you're serious D:

  • Ever had a guy go to town jackhammer style on your dry asshole?

    If the curiosity factor from your question is really burning at you, you could probably arrange that sort of thing via craigslist or something similar, and then be able to better relate to female rape victims. Please report back with your findings :)

  • What, and guys aren't traumatized by it? I think you should re-word you question to "why are people so traumatized by rape?" And the answer is this: They are taking your body--your temple, the only thing you truly have as your own in this world--and they are violating and defiling it. They (the rapist) are treating you as less than human. They are taking a sacred act--sex-- and perverting it into an act of exerting dominance and power over the innocent. And it is especially traumatizing because often it is done by people the victim is supposed to be able to trust.

  • Shut up man. What a dumbass way to troll. Not funny at all your just being an asshole

  • Bruh how would you feel afterwards if a guy you knew and trusted, overpowered you (a lot of the times violently), ripped your clothes, and forced his self inside of you for as long as he wants until he cums? In this order rapes happen by these people sadly.

    Acquaintances
    Family
    Friends
    Loved one (relationship or marriage)
    Stranger

    You don't find that traumatizing?

    • oh gosh wtf hahaa

    • trauma of the highest degree

  • am not gonna attack you like all girls did but i will start by saying you'll never undrestand why, you are not a woman ! but i'll try my best to answer your question... women and men have very different bodies and when it comes to sex , men can have sex with anyone... really literally anything with legs cause they naturally have higher sex-drive , women can't... sex for us is more than just satisfying some sort of hungry desire besides the female body is so fragile and sensitive, any sort of violence like rape is just absolutely horrible. i just answered you question , can you answer mine , what got into your head to ask this kind of question? were you planning on raping a girl or smthg? if yes, would you feel more satisfied if you rape her instead of sleeping with her with her own willing? am just curious...

  • Picture yourself being raped and having your dignity violated by a bunch of men, it does happen... You'd be physically and psychologically traumatised. Scarred for life.

    Frankly, and I'm not trying to shame you, but if you don't get it, then you are severely lacking in empathy, to quite possibly psychopathic proportions.

  • Egads. I hope you're trolling.

  • Why would anyone want unwanted sex? Not only can you get pregnant or stds, it could also be painful. And for some women loosing their virginites is sacred to them so of course they wouldn't want to loose their virginity to an unwanted person. It can also be traumatizing for a woman who is pregnant. Also a lot of women feel ashamed after being raped especially if there in a realationship or married. being used as a toy is disgusting, no one should go through it.

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