Why are men more concerned with and disgusted by promiscuous women or women who have sexually been with a lot of men?

www.youtube.com/live/Q55MeOalDUo?feature=share
Why are men more concerned with and disgusted by promiscuous women or women who have sexually been with a lot of men?
Updates:
1 y
The podcast linked above talks about how promiscuity or sexually being with a lot of people more negatively affects women than men despite it being negative for both men and women. Also, it talks about subjects concerning paternity, pregnancy, infidelity, pair-bonding, and more being reasons as to why men and women are affected differently when it comes to this topic.
1 y
@MrOracleSums it up greatly!
0 0

Superb Opinion

  • 1. Paternity. Men don't want to raise another man's children (yes, exceptions...), and so sexual fidelity is important to assure paternity. This has been true for thousands of years at least.

    2. Women pair-bond when they have sex with a man - even if they don't want or don't intend to - as a rule they are unable to have casual sex without bonding, and the exceptions are mostly those who have had trauma at a young age. The ability to pair bond is diminished with each additional partner, and much beyond 8, and their pair-bonding ability is virtually gone. At this point, they can have casual sex without much loss or pain when it's over, but they also can't sustain a relationship, because they easily get bored and start looking around for something better, or just different. And in a serious relationship, this often comes at an incredibly high cost to the man.

    3. Women who are virgins when they marry report being happy in their marriage after 10 years at an 80% rate. Women with 5 partners report being happy at only 30% after 10 years. The more partners, the lower that percentage.

    4. More past relationships means more emotional damage and more baggage - she's much more likely to hold the new guy responsible for past trauma, and to have trust issues.

    There are plenty of studies that cover all of this, but, there is definitely good reason that men care about this.

    Most women, on the other hand, do not care about a man's promiscuous past (most men they find extremely attractive have incredibly promiscuous pasts, but that wouldn't slow them down a bit). Women care a lot more about other things, based on their actual actions and choices, despite what they might say.

    • Very well said!

    • What about a man's ability to pair bond? You can't tell me that a guy sleeping around doesn't make him less sensitive to other people's emotions..

    • @Juxtapose pair bonding isn't even real for humans. It's some shit that birds do to mate for a season or two. Doesn't even form a strong bond so it's really terrible thing to even compare a loving strong relationship in humans to.

    • Show All

Most Helpful Guy

  • I don't care

    I do care about STDS, unwanted pregancies, and legal trouble

    Also, if she's ever been with a guy who is considerable older than her

    Like 34 and 19. That means when he was 30, she was 15. That's pedophilia

Most Helpful Girls

  • When it comes to promiscuity, men tend to view the opposite sex logically while women tend to view it more empathetically. Men logically know that sluts are disgusting, they just choose to not apply that logic to themselves and thus are slut who look down on other sluts and want a moral superior. Women empathetically know that it would be hypocritical and borderline retarded to view someone negatively for doing something that they themselves also do, so they accept their equals.

    • Do you believe there are any evolutionary psychological and/or biological reasons as to why men and women feel and think about this issue differently?

    • Psychologically I would say that men already tend to choose logic while wen tend to choose empathy. I can articulate what I think of the biological aspect tomorrow if you want, but I'm at a point in my day where I don't feel like putting a lot of thought into my responses lol

  • Funny, as who do you think they are being promiscuous with? It isn't the family dog. Come to think about it, it could be. 🤔😂😆🤣

    • I really hope it's not the family dog.

    • @DubiousIntentions Well, I see what you are saying, but I do not think it is entirely the same from both the men's and women's perspectives. Many sources citing science, as well as testimonies from men seem to suggest men are more concerned and take more issue with this as opposed to women. Now, this isn't to say that there are no men who are fine with promiscuous women nor women who are concerned about a man's promiscuity, rather, it is to say that generally speaking it has been noted, studied, and observed that men are much more concerned about this than women are. The sources citing science, specifically evolutionary psychology, and biology talk about pregnancy, paternity, pair-bonding, and more as to why men and women are affected differently in this realm.

    • @AngryCarl2 keep your pups hidden away 🐶

Scroll Down to Read Other Opinions

What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!

What Girls & Guys Said

4 3
  • Most people would rather not be with someone that sluts around. I think what it comes down to is that women can look past a man that was slutty but a man can't look past a woman being slutty. So really just the fact that women are more accepting then men.

    • How about evolutionary biology and psychology? Do you think there are any possibility of these being viable reasons for why there is a difference between men and women?

    • I don't see any difference besides that women are more accepting

  • Instinct, 'mama's baby, papa's maybe' trope, and a man is like key, a woman is like a lock.

  • insecurity and jealousy. you don't have look far around gag for older incels only looking to date virgins.

    • I'll have to take your word on that.

    • Well, GAG is not particularly representative of anything to my knowledge. Also, the topic I'm talking about is talking about men, in general, using a variety of sources including other social media that may be more representative, formal surveys, etc.

  • It all comes down to the many insecurities so many men have.

    • your right there, I have had many men and written to a lot, but they all have the same type of question, which man had the biggest one, who cares as long as they doit right

    • @Nikki1989 Well, I do think insecurity plays a part in this question but I don't think it is the most significant reason why men are usually more concerned or disgusted by women who are promiscuous or who have sexually been with a lot of men. I think, as was mentioned in the podcast linked above, there are evolutionary biological, and psychological reasons that can be talked about for this topic.

    • Yes, we are insecure about women who cheat and give us STDs.

    • Show All
  • I'm a virgin and I am not attracted to men with a very high body count. I think they have lost the ability to bond.

  • Mostly because they are far more likely to cheat.

  • Bc they haven’t had the same experience. They want a female that makes them feel wanted. That’s all on the girl though