Because it's well known by science that women want a man to be at least seven inches in length and at least six inches in circumference ("girth") and that 85% of women cannot orgasm through vaginal penetration.
We all know 7" is the passing (and Gold) standard for a penis, according to women. And that 6" circumference is the minimum women want in "girth." Anything under seven inches is mediocre/small/unwanted by women. And science proves that, but let's be real; we don't need data to know women don't want "short-dick men."
Women also notoriously lie about this all the time. When with a man, she'll give him BS like "size doesn't matter." But when with female friends (thinking these females won't "spill the tea") or breaking up with the guy, then definitely make fun of his penis size. O replay him songs like this.
If penis size didn't matter and women didn't care about wanting big men, then why do things like this exist?
"But have you actually been rejected by women in real life due to your penis?"
Yes! I've been Noped out of bed twice for being too small. (First woman was Asian, second was Black.) I'm 6.5" x 5.5", by the way. No, I don't like being small, but my actual physical height bothers me infinitely more than just having a small penis.
I may be a "short dick man," but at least I have the balls to admit it, ironically. Doesn't that count for something? (No.)
I really appreciate you sharing your real experience. Thank you. I'm frankly shocked to hear you have been regected even though you have what in my opinion is a big penis.
Big cocks, just like big boobs are impressive. Anyone who sees them says "Wow! Holy shit!" Guys love getting that reaction from girls.
But aside from being eye catching, big isn't necessarily better. For example, I, personally prefer nicely shaped, medium-size boobs. I even prefer small, pointed and perky to too large. I suspect that women feel the same way about cocks.
Women obsess about their appearance. "Are my boobs or ass too small?" It's hard to convince a woman that her small boobs are delightful. The thing about women's bodies is, they are fairly visible even when clothed. And they feel bad when men ogle the women who have big tits and prominent asses, even though many men choose less voluptuous women as partners.
Many men are insecure about their penis size, but at least their cocks aren't on display for everyone to judge.
There are a couple of factors: One is general size. The other is, there are growers and there are showers. Guys with showers can wag them and walk with confidence. Showers look impressive when flaccid but aren't necessarily huge when erect. A dick that's a grower looks like an acorn when it's flaccid, especially when the guy is cold or nervous. When skinny dipping or in a shower room, a guy with a grower can feel inadequate compared to some other guys. In high school gym class, he might even get ridiculed. That's devastating to a guy's self esteem. And he might develop a fear of receiving similar ridicule from girls. But some growers can be above average size when erect.
Before porn, few guys ever saw another guy's erection. So they went out in pursuit of girlfriends without being concerned if their cocks were adequate. And if a girl liked him enough to get into a relationship, his dick size wasn't a huge factor in her attraction to him although, I suppose if she was experienced, she could be disappointed if he had a very small penis.
Women in several studies were found to prefer an erect penis size of about 6.4 inches in length and five inches in circumference for one-time partners, but the number was slightly less for long-term relationships.
Interestingly, only 5% of penises are over 6.3" long. The average penis size is 5.16" long and 4.6" in girth. I have a feeling that that size corresponds to the average woman's vagina. And, although vaginas are elastic, not many women enjoy having their cervix pounded regularly.
I guess I'm slightly above average - 5'75"+ in length and maybe 5" max (probably a bit less) in circumference. But I'm a grower and was a bit insecure about my size, even though I had quite a few girlfriends, beginning at age 16, and satisfied them all. One in particular was 5'2", hypersexual and orgasmic. I was with her for over a year when I was 37. That was pre-internet. She was 30 years old and experienced. I could flick her cervix with my tip and drive her wild. She made me feel like a sexual god and, because of her, I lost any insecurity I may have harbored about my dick size.
Then porn became easily accessible and every guy compared himself to porn stars, whose dicks are way above average. What's interesting about guys with big cocks, though, is they rarely fuck a woman balls deep. To me that would be a curse. I LOVE pounding a woman deep and hard.
The other thing is, guys want to make women squeal and gasp exclamations when they enter and fuck them. They fantasize about women saying "You're cock is so big!" or "You're fucking my guts!" Guys want to take women to the limit.
It's devastating to a guy's ego to feel inadequate, or worse, to be rejected or ridiculed by a woman for his cock size.
Guys are competitive and their egos are fragile. And to them, their dick = masculinity. So I guess that's why they are concerned about dick size.
This was a very well-written opinion. I think you should get MHO. @TheSpicyWench
I honestly have NO idea! If I were to make an educated guess, I’d have to say that watching porn has given men an unrealistic expectation as to what women actually want, as well giving them as a completely distorted view of how big the average penis really is…. Which by the way is 5.5 - 5.75 inches (13.97cm foot the rest of the world!) And YES that is for ALL racial groups! The trope that “black men are “bigger” is just another racist stereotype! And yes, even generalizing about something that many believe to be a positive thing, is STILL racist! Women, well… most women just want to be treated with kindness dignity, and respect. We want to be treated as an equal, as an intelligent thinking being with hopes, wants, and desires just like men. We also REALLY want to find a man who will communicate with us! If guys spent half the time communicating with their lover that they spend obsessing over their dick size, they might actually learn what she actually likes and how she like it… do THAT and you have a very satisfied woman!
I can tell you, that with as many (unsolicited) “my cock is x inches” comments I get in my DMs that almost all guys have SAID they have around 8 inches, to which I always reply “ouch, sorry dude that’s WAY too big for me!” Sure, I guess SOME women prefer bigger men, but the majority of us just want a nice, honest, decent man with a great sense of humor, who treats us with respect, is mildly good looking, and if he had some muscles that would be nice too, but it’s certainly not required. But most of all we want a man who will treat us well, and communicate with us, yes about everything, but especially about “bedroom” stuff! (Or kitchen stuff, dining room stuff, back row of a concert stuff, and hood of car stuff, if he’s adventurous).
Smart girl. In my experience, I think you're right.
@Lliam Thank you very much! I really appreciate that.
Most of it is insecurity. They grown up thinking that their penis size is what determines masculinity or manliness.
Some people have been rejected, yes, and that makes them even more insecure.
They also are concerned about how well they will preform, because men are very judged by it.
As a guys who been rejected for that very reason it’s hard NOT to be insecure … and yes guys do get performance anxiety
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!The same reason guys are asking if their dick is big enough questions 7 days a week here. Because they don't have a large one.
Your photo answers the question. Imagine seeing that as man, what message does it send? It tells you that society sees small dicks as laughable, something to be mocked and ridiculed.
Now if you're fat you can diet, scrawny you can hit the gym, but there's zero you can do about your tiny dick and it's that lack of control that men can't stand.
I honestly have no clue. You always hear guys saying "all women want a big one" but I've heard that from waaaaay more men, than women.
Sure there's this perception that "bigger is better," and if you're small, then you're somehow less of a man. There are jokes, and people teasing others, saying "You/they must have a little dick," but 90% of the time, those insults come from other men.
The few women that do it most likely picked up on it because it's so prevalent, it's become normalized. It's simply a way to attack a person, simply because men have this ego about them, surrounding their dick.
If it were true that women only wanted big dicks, then genetics would have weeded out everyone smaller than 8 inches years ago, via just that kind of selected breeding, so it's simply not true, anyway.
As someone that's actually on the bigger side, myself, maybe I just don't understand "the struggle," but I do know that being bigger is not all it's cracked up to be, either. Not every woman enjoys being poked in the cervix, or hurting their jaw during oral sex. Anal sex is basically off the table beyond a certain girth, too.
It's almost as if the average is about 5.5 inches (length), and 4.5 inches (girth) for a reason. It would seem to be a relatively acceptable size for most, if not all, various types of activities, without being too big.
an age old thing, like women/ girl about their breast etc
Big breasts get in the way too Benefits to all shapes
@TANMAN55555 exactly
I personally think a lot comes down to simply lack of communication or Cummuication
A guy will not ask a girl what’s she’s actually wanting or liking, listens to others guys who says just pound her and you need a big cock.
they then do this and the girl does not orgasm from simply being fucked.
They then trigger their own insecurity by thinking it’s down to size of their cock.
Whereas if they spent time to talk to the girl who they are with, talked about sex, needs and what gives them release, they would soon find out everyone is different.
That and Porn and other guys keep the entire thing going.
EXCELLENT ANSWER! And SO “on the nose”! You are SO right, if guys spent half the time communicating with their lover that they spend obsessed with their dick size, they might actually learn what she likes and how she like it… do THAT and you have a very satisfied woman! I can tell you, that with as many (unsolicited) “my cock is x inches” comments I get in my DMs that almost all guys have SAID they have around 8 inches, to which I always reply “ouch, sorry dude that’s WAY too big for me!” Sure, I guess SOME women prefer bigger men, but the majority of us just want a nice, honest, decent man with a great sense of humor, who treats us with respect, is mildly good looking, and if he had some muscles that would be nice too, but it’s certainly not required. But most of all we want a man who will treat us well, and communicate with us, yes about everything, but especially about “bedroom” stuff! (Or kitchen stuff, dining room stuff, back row of a concert stuff, and hood of car stuff, if he’s adventurous).
@CrazyGirl2 thanks really appreciated, Also it’s not just the around 8 inches, it’s the fact they go to.3 They will say it’s 7.32 inches, clawing on that extra 0.2, 0.3 etc.
LOL 😂. That’s so true, I once asked a guy (who I can only guess was not prepared to commit to 8 inches, and told me he was something like 7.98 inches! I had to reply with “7.98? Not 7,97, not 7.99, but 7.98? What are you using to measure your penis? A cock micrometer?”
Are they? I don’t think that’s really true.
i have never cared. I Was Curious to know if I was average or above average but that was the extent of it.
I actually think it goes deeper than that if you read all the questions the guys asked about dick size on here first of all what they need to understand is it is what it is you're not going to change it by asking a question I think that they use that for an excuse for not knowing what they're doing or how to do it
The thing is that I don't understand first of all why are they bitching it is what it is
But then to make it worse not having common sense I think it's even worse you would think at some point in time he would think about this or want to learn something about women and how to please them
If a girl can take your very tip of her finger and bring herself to the best orgasm ever you would think that they would learn something from that so they're strike two the third strike is you don't have any desire I'm learning anything about how to please a woman so why are they asking the question
To drive a car where I live 16 and a half you can get in to learner's permit at 15 and a half I was studying for my test that's how bad I wanted it at sixteen I had a car that's how bad I wanted it at 16 and a half by the driving that car at Seventeen I was buying a new car
Now I should tell you the story about the first time I had sex but I'm not going to it was the same thing as a car you have to want it you have to learn everything about it and then you have to go out and get it and have the confidence no matter what size dick you have to please that person
So I would say before you start worrying about your dick size why don't you worry about pleasing and how to please a woman sorry just my thought about the whole thing I think the whole thing stupid at the same time I've never been there before so I don't know
I really don’t understand the emphasis of having a big penis or blah blah maybe because I haven’t experienced penetration with it. But my ex was really thick but not long and it made it so uncomfortable giving him head especially when he wanted to be deep throated. And it was so uncomfortable I kept wanting to throw up and I never enjoyed it just felt like a thick muscle stuffed in my mouth. With my new boyfriend he isn’t as thick and his length is the PERFECT size to be deepthroated by me without wanting to throw up and I really appreciate that. It makes me look forward to it.
It´s mostly the fear of either not being taken seriously or the fear of not being able to pleasure her.
Many especially young guys never had sex but have still clear expectations due to porn. So a guy wants to prevent a situation that is frustrating for both because he can´t make her orgasm because his dick isn´t long enough.
Another fear that´s coming is that a guy´s dick is smaller than your girl´s dildos/sex toys.
Men like to think if they ever had to fight someone and it all came down to who would humiliate the other more by causing them to make the more embarrassing "hurts so good" expression from being poked in the butt with the meatier cock, that they would have the advantage. Or at least that's probably how the instinct started ten million years ago when we ran around as naked animals fumbling for some way to establish dominance over one another. I suspect it's a comparatively recent thing to think women like a big cock and even that probably only happened from women ten million years ago watching to see who came out on top and thus mating with that one.
Also, it's something beyond our control that we assume we are judged for. And not just judged but rewarded with the thing we all desperstely want. We kind of assume a guy with a big cock could probably get sex any time he wants just by announcing that he has a big cock, as odds are some woman in hearing range will be curious enough to try. But of course if guys without a big cock tried to just say they had one they would be on the hook to produce it and might suffer humiliation if it isn't as large as they boasted. So guys want to hear that it is as large as they boast even if it isn't and most girls have learned that, because they don't actually care that much, it's fine to just go along with it.
I value virgins because a woman that sleeps around is a lot more likely to jump around than a virgin Plus it shows uncommon self control
@TANMAN55555 but if you aren’t a male virgin then the same can be said about you
Not sure what that has to do with my response but okay. Also, virgins are much more likely to "jump around" as they are prone to wanting to know what they are missing.
They really aren't
but look at how many women wear make up
a man is expected to do most the work in bed
there's many sides but its mostly a locker room joke
It makes me believe that they believe that a penis is all they can offer. It's like they're objectifying themselves
a man has to provide to pull a date A woman has to exist
@Sasha_Gee Sex is a big part a a relationship. And the penis is a man's most prominent sexual asset.
@Jamie05rhs and the most prominent asset in general is?
Well I think it also has to do with some females saying they only want 8 inches and above on social media outlets and above but the influence of porn of course as you touched on. The whole world these days is so messed up it is rather sad.
I have zero insecurities about my size, never have, never been rejected, and only ever had compliments and no complaints in 30 years of having sex.
@DonkeyDan How big is it (If I may ask)?
Just over 6 inches
A lot of it comes from porn consumption because all they see are guys that are the exception of average in action and the women they are paired with enjoying it and claiming to love it.
It takes a toll and creates unrealistic standards and for those who aren't big like them to go hand in hand with performance issues and anxiety.
Yes, there ARE size queens out there, but most of them won't have an issue with what a man is packing so long as he makes the experience fun and pleasurable for her. Case and point, my junk is nowhere near the sizes some or those pornstars are packing, but every girl I have been with have said I was more than enough for them.
But they only had to fuck you once. Or a short while. That is tolerable for them.
@Jamie05rhs bit presumptuous of you to believe it was short or one time only for all four of them don't you think?
@ShadezMcGee Well, you're only 29. However, point taken, sir.
The same reason most men want to be stronger than other men
Nsome are, not all. I'm average and none of my partners complained.
I've never heard any guy outside of GaG talk about penis size. What tends to happen on here is a question is asked, and guys are willing to answer that question. If you want to stop hearing about it, then stop asking guys about it. It's pretty fucking simple. If you don't ask guys about their dick, they for the most part will not talk about it unless they want to stick it in you. If you keep trying to figure out why a guy would know the measurement of something, and tell you when you ask a hundred times, then maybe you need to do a little self reflection.
I am personally don’t, I do recall that when I was younger in my teen years, the boys made plenty of generalised & rationalised on the certain typical stereotypes & stigma about the male anatomy: the reproductive system, (then make jokes, assuming information on someone or themselves too, for others even make rumours false or fake & true or real). I did have a feeling that they were discussing non-sense & illogical ideologies & beliefs, as I grew older, I started watch & listening to men & female perspective too, to have a better understanding, about the fact that different people have different preferences on the physiological characteristics & traits, of a human individual based on the persons orientation & preferences in dating world. Nowadays I don’t care about size of the boat it’s more of the motion in the ocean, which is what all the older peoples advice is, that’s the trend I have been observing & noticing lately.
legit question. I have heard more than one woman comment about penis size with regard to it being too small to give her any stimulation or having "fall out" over and over.
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