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Why are people so ignorant?

Older woman use boys for sex just like men do, but some men think women can't use boys for sex even if they are underage which I think is bullshit and ridiculous.

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  • It's not a matter of ignorance, it's a matter of bias- they don't take women seriously, even as sex offenders.

    • Very valid point, one that the rest of the commenters should note.

  • Because many guys are idiots on topics dealing with sex

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  • Part of it is because of how one-sided sexual desirability/attention is. One side drowning in it while the other starves.

    But it also isn't so easy to change. I applaud women who include male victims when they speak out, because women's opinion of male victims carries arguably more weight than male opinions on the matter. It always carries more weight advocating on others' behalf.

  • Using another individual is something which can have a different definition depending on who you ask. The reasons for this situation vary, as do the ages. Exploitation of underage individuals sickens me, but obviously there are people in this world who have no problem with it. If there are some lines in your life, then draw them and let those who you are involved with know and understand those lines and limits.

  • When people say “used” what they tend to mean is misleading somebody into thinking that they want a serious relationship, when in reality they just want to have sex and then dump/ghost them.

    It’s also more about a person feeling used than anything else. A person who has been strung along and who has done something they otherwise wouldn’t have if they knew the other person’s real intentions will feel used. Someone who wants the same thing won’t feel used.

    The reason people don’t say that men get “used” for sex is because sure, a woman might only want casual NSA sex with a man too, she’s having sex with him just to get off, but men are less likely to feel like they were used. Women don’t exactly have to trick most men into bed, if a man is attracted to the girl he already wants to bed her.

    But that’s men.

    As for underaged boys, then yeah that’s fucked up and they are being used, because even though teen guys are constantly horny and usually are sexually attracted to hot teachers, they’re too young and dumb to be making that decision. That’s what the age of consent is there for.

    • The boys don't realise they are being used, even if they want it, it's unfair to them and wrong of the adult, makes them look like a predator

  • Cougars are fairly rare, it's hard for a female to use a male in a sexual way.

    • They are not rare, and they are not called cougars. It's just as easy for a woman to use a boy as its for a man to use a boy or a girl. Stop with this bullshit, you are fucked in the head

    • I had sex with 45-50 year old women when I was in my 20’s, trust me they’re out there

    • @Northernmost84 he is a fool, look at what he's saying

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  • You know, I heard that someplace…. Wait, it was in every one of your posts! Why is this the thing that you are stuck on? What happened to you that has left you shouting at everyone about this? Maybe if you talk it out to us, you will be able to move on?

    • Why are you going off topic and not answering my questions?

    • I notice you do this in many of my questions

    • You keep asking the same “question”—but it’s you trying to make some kind of statement. Why don’t you tell us what is really bothering you? You might feel better.

  • I would think that as a teenage boy its perceived as more of a fantasy come true since most males don't expect for their first time/early sexual encounters to be emotionally significant or influencing. So, as an adult it is more difficult to see him as taken advantage of since he would likely be the instigator if he had the confidence to do so. This is not to say its right, just about the perception of "using someone" which, as others have noted, would typically indicate misleading the minor. I know 2 females who were married at 13 and one married at 15 and one who tried to get married at 16, but her fiancee's father wouldn't give consent (at the time boys had to be 21 without parental consent), all are currently healthy and happy adults and three of them are still married to their original husbands. Its hard not to look at the relationships a little sideways and I certainly wouldn't recommend it for anyone, however they are examples of young relationships without people being "used". The 15 year old married a boy the same age and the 16 year old was with a 19 year old. That said, I know of no cases (other than the teacher who went to jail and afterwards married her hispanic student) where relationships have had long-term (apparently) positive results when the female is with underage males. It was noted in one study the 16-20 year old males have a sex drive most comparable with 28-35 year old females. None of this is meant to imply that I am in support of ANYONE having relations with underage people. I am in favor of prosecuting both male and female offenders.

    • Most of the time the predator seduces the boy, not the other way around, so that's incorrect

    • Any adult who seduces a child is using them which is taking advantage of them. This applies to most women. The teenager can enjoy it, but that doesn't mean much as they don't know what they are doing. It doesn't have to be misleading them, which I think you meant lying to them?

    • yes, i agree that predators are the initiators. my statement was meant to convey that the males generally did not view themselves as victims, but instead as fortunate. also that males of that age generally do not have the confidence to initiate with someone significantly older, but would initiate if they did have the confidence (meaning that they do not require seduction so much as permission). In the cases of the marriages that i am aware of, there was no seduction involved. from my understanding of male vs female predators males are more likely to lie outright (i love you,/ I'm going to leave my wife, etc) females tend to mislead males into thinking they are more central to the females life than they are. somewhat subtle difference. for instance i had an ex girlfriend that only ever lied by omission because, to her, if she didn't TELL a lie then she wasn't responsible for inferences drawn. EX: i can't see you this weekend, I'm having car problems. she left her car at the mechanic's for the weekend and went to a BnB with another guy. not technically lying. +

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  • So you're saying that men thinking women are wrong for using boys for sex, is wrong to think? Please clarify

    • No men think they don't use the boys

    • Oh. I get it. Why don't they think that? Kind of messed up. Does it happen often that women use the boys for sex?

    • All the time

  • Absolutely valid point.

  • Too many stereotypes. If one believes that them stereotypes are true, then their brain must be the size of a Korean penis. If ignorant means not knowing enough about a subject, ain’t everyone ignorant? I, for example, am ignorant of ancient China, but I don’t talk about it, at least. I just don’t assume.

  • I would like to be sex toy of a woman

    • You are an adult, and obviously that could happen if you found a woman who is interested in using you that way.

    • I don't found Quebec sucks no woman want

    • @Emiliamazing This guy supports female pedophiles, he told me it's OK for middle aged woman to have sex with a 16 year old or under but hates men for doing the same and told me he will get in trouble if someone from his country sees him supporting pedophiles. He is sick in the head.

  • I don't agree with anyone using underage people for sex...

    • That's not my question though

    • OK.. I don't think it's OK for older women to use under age boys...

  • who cares

    • I do

  • bThere may be mature people who want to have sex with me but too young age is not for me

    • What are you talking about

    • I mean my possibility is not quite picky

    • This has nothing to do with my question

  • Wtf. It’s not leagal.

    • It's not about legality

    • Ok but we’ll then I will say for me personally that’s creepy. I don’t wanna be with some underage kid.

    • What's wrong with these men who defend these pedo women?

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  • I agree, we need to put aside bias in regards to this issue. An adult having sex with a minor is wrong no matter what. I remember a few years ago I had a tinder date with a younger woman, I made her show me her ID lol 😂. Its part of getting proper consent for sexual activity.

    • It's not about being wrong but accepting boys are used and exploited by women

    • Sunny, you seem to be trying to peddle morality, stop trying to control and shame people for having sex. Both men and women may choose to have sex with an older or younger partner, as long as they’re adults it not your business to pass judgment.

  • Yes they do when I was 13 I got used by a 17 year old girl. And when I was 16 I was used by a 27 year old woman my sisters friend. Also when I was really young I used to lick my sister she called it bonding time kissing her special lips

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