Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
In today's society, casual sex is something perfectly normal. Yet I feel like women who admit to having many sexual encounters with various men are looked down upon. This myTake is inspired by some of the answers to this question: https://www.girlsaskguys.com/sexual-behavior/q2158014-men-of-gag-your-23-year-old-girlfriend-just-confessed-she-has-had
When men have a lot of sexual experience, they tend to take pride in it. They boast about it.They are seen as players, studs and womanizers, which are all rather positive descriptors. However, when a woman behaves in this way, she will be labeled as slutty, dirty, easy and unworthy. Many guys will not consider her to be girlfriend-material, just because she engaged in casual sex in the past. So what if she's slept with more people than you, it doesn't mean that she has an STD and that she is unworthy of your glorious penis. If anything, she has experience and knows what she's doing. I myself had 7 sexual partners and I'm 19. Never had an STD and I'm as tight as ever. At least I learned how to suck dick in the process, I see that as a plus.
It is quite hypocritical, if you ask me, to want a lot of one night stands but bash the women who do the same thing. Also, how do you expect to get girls to sleep with you if they feel like it will make them feel unwanted in the future? Sex is a part of our everyday lives, I don't see why it should be so taboo for women to enjoy it casually.
The lock and key analogy might be a counterargument. A key that can open every lock is a master key, but a lock that's opened by every key is a shit lock. (If you don't get it, the keys represent the men and the locks represent the women). It is quite a clever metaphor, but here's why it's bullshit: we are humans, not pieces of metal. Women who let "a lot of keys open their locks" aren't "shit locks", they simply enjoy the feeling of a key inside them; what's so bad about that?
Bear in mind that this is just my opinion on the matter. I know a large part of the G@G community values virginity above all and want's to keep it for the person they marry, which is perfectly fine. However, I don't see a reason why a woman should refrain from something as enjoyable as sex, especially if it's only to be deemed worthy by men. I by no means meant to offend anyone and I'm sorry if I did so :)
What Girls & Guys Said
24 99It's not really a double standard.
Men get to decide what kind of sexual histories they are willing to tolerate in a girlfriend and women get to decide what kind of sexual histories they are willing to tolerate in a boyfriend.
It's not like all men demand a virgin and all women are totally cool settling down with a manwhore. There are men who will happily marry sluts and women who want their husband to have a number in the single digits.
Sure, on average women are more accepting of mens sexual-behavior than men are of women's, but its not like anyone forced it to be that way. Its not mens fault that you are on average, more willing to overlook promiscuity.
That is a very fair take and I totally agree with your resentment of society's double standard.
Because, just because, deal with it, it will never change , bye.
I really hope you have the same attitude in another 12 years !
It's really not that hard to see why though I look at both genders equally in this regard, not just women.
1. For women it is a way more risky behaviour than for men. Risk of hooking up with the wrong guy, risk of pregnancy, higher risk of STDs, etc.
2. Promiscuous behaviour is directly linked to plenty of mental issues and illnesses.
I like this
Your opinion is irrelevant. Promiscuous women tend to look down on virgin men. Virgin men tend to look down on promiscuous women. These are not absolutes but they are real and whether it bothers you or not doesn't matter. Most men are not very promiscuous so the fact that you've had sex with 7 guys by the age of 19 is going to mean that many guys won't want to date you, that is your own doing and it's your problem to deal with. If you want to be promiscuous then date a promiscuous guy.
Though you might disagree with me, it doesn't make my opinion irrelevant. If you're not interested in what I have to say then don't read it :)
It is irrelevant because wanting men to stop disliking promiscuous women won't make them stop disliking promiscuous women. Us guys might as well petition for women to stop disliking short men.
Promiscuous men should be shamed too, it's only fair.
They are.
this is a kick ass article sis, I wish a lot of women can think like you if you really met what you try to state in this article.
however I'm not an advocate of slut shaming but the thing is that in today's society casual sex is not what is cracked up to be. I said this numerous of times in the past but most women do use casual sex as collateral to get free stuff such as free rides, free food at fancy restaurants, free drinks at bars and many other thing that can't be even paid with money itself. so in a way I think is kinda fair in a way if society keeps casual sex as a taboo for most women
There you go sweetie.
Hahahaha this myTake is hilarious.
Fun fact, men that sleep around with multiple women don't judge and don't care about how many men women have slept with. They just want their piece of the action.
However, men that don't sleep around with every person they see and women that don't sleep around with everyone will judge them, and rightfully so. If they've been able to practice abstinence then they can expect their partner to hold off and do the same.
With that being said, this take is false. It's actually the other way around. In modern society virgins are looked down upon and it is made to seem like there is something wrong with them. While people that constantly have sex and are active are made to seem like normal healthy people. In fact being sexually active is now labelled as a healthy lifestyle.
I've seen countless men get blown out the water because they're virgins and expect their future significant other to be the same. People tell them it's 'unrealistic' and he's being an 'asshole' because he won't accept a girl for making a mistake. I hardly ever see any women get insulted for being promiscuous.
As for the reason men don't want to date or marry promiscuous women, it's because they're promiscuous and show no signs of wanting to settle down or stop. They make it very clear that sex is a big part of the relationship to them and some men don't want that.
You say that women don't get blamed for their promiscuity, but they do. I've experienced it myself, I wouldn't write a whole article based on nothing. I don't think virgin men who want a virgin woman are assholes, but there are many who expect their future wife to be pure and innocent while they themselves have had their fun. Also, I don't think even virgin men have the right to judge promiscuous women. If they don't want to have anything to do with them that's fine. I just don't think anyone should be looked down upon because of something as banal as sex.
"something as banal as sex" There's your problem. For some people sex is a serious thing, you just view it as a fun sport. It's obvious out don't share their values so they will judge and abstain from a relationship with you. Also, you're 19, you're young and barely in college. If you've had sex with multiple people now then others are going to judge you. Most people your age have either done it with one person or are still virgins. Either way, people are going to judge anyone regardless. I don't think people should be judged for bing virgins, but they do. You're better off changing yourself and accepting that your actions have their consequences. Changing others is not something you can do.
Some people feel much better when they can look down on someone.
At, least I'm not like ___ who is "____*2___." is a way of saving their ego.
(Fill in the space "___*2___" with something about body, sex, race or whatever)
Well men dont look down on them thays women. Men just won't commit to a woman whos been around.
Quit offending the Bohemians, please. But I digress - - - -
They could be looked down upon because they might be found under the guys so often?
I agree about the hypocritical point, but not the virgin one: God saved sex for marriage.
Casual sex is just crappy sex. I have had it a few times, and I really don't enjoy it. It's like having a meal of paperboard.
So when someone says eating shit is the coolest thing about them, I just assume they are stupid. Like showing off that you have no boobs or short dick.
We live in a sexually repressed world because of the THREE ABRAHAMIC DEATH CULTS (Judaism, Christianity and Islam).
Before the white, pilgrim, Christian INVADERS came to the Americas, virtually **ALL** Native American Tribes were Polyamorous, and the Native women had more sexual autonomy than your modern Feminist.
The White Colonists did not understand this part of their society and they literally boiled MILLIONS of natives in hot water cauldrons, taunting them as 'CHILDREN OF SATAN.' We can only hope that this Abrahamic system gets wiped out. This sexual repression is not good for either gender!
A good mytake.
But i believe sex should be between partners and not boasted about or advertised. have as much as you want casual sex, or whatever sort.. but you dont have to advertise. And, we men dont take it as a positive when other guys boast of it.
Agreed. Heck, I think on a date talking about whether you've slept around, are a virgin, had sex recently before the date, or had a long dry spell would be weird to talk about anyways. It's just too much info and unnecessary in all of those circumstances. If I'm getting laid and it's just casual even, I still wouldn't tell a girl I had sex recently or had a dry spell in those circumstances.
Would you date a guy who saw prostitutes? Very similar thing. Guy loves casual sex and pays for it?
As long as he doesn't see prostitutes while we are in a relationship then yes.
Good. You get some really dumb fuck people who live promiscuity but don't factor that little curve ball in for guys. But that said. Promiscuity is a choice for women and an achievement for men. That's why a girl who is a slut is "easy" because it is easy and a guy is a legend because it's difficult for a guy to get sex on Te level of women.
I got blocked by Lumos. I'm just saving your logic here. That key analogy is how it goes. You can't make up analogies unless they are worth while. Why do you think some employees ask what animal you would be? Great analogies are how many philosophical debates are won and they sometimes use it in law too.
A key that can open many locks is a master; a lock that can be opened by any key is a shitty lock.