Why are so many guys just horny these days?

Like what happened to a gentleman? A man who speaks to a woman he finds attractive with *respect* and doesn’t feel the need to constantly post photos of himself naked.

Obviously I don’t mean full on naked but just showing off their muscles and sometimes in their underwear.

It’s weird cause those are the types of guys I attract apparently AND I AM A VIRGIN SO!!
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A lot of need to be more accountable for yourselves. Not all women are out to get you but we all avoid mean who wreak of insecurity because it’s the most unattractive thing in the world. I don’t care if I get hate for it because it’s simply the truth. There’s loads of good women out there. I’m one.
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  • To be horny is something normal and everyone gets horny whether it's a guy or a girl but the difference is that a lot of guys show the opposite sex that they are horny and make it look as if sex is all what they want which is true, the majority of guys only want sex!

    Women on the other hand tend to reveal her feelings to the opposite sex cause a girl wants a real man to love her, take care of her, protect her and in the end to marry her and at this point she will reveal how horny she is to her husband cause at this poiny they are a husband and a wife (a family) and they can have sex as much as they want...

    A respectfull man who wants a serious relationship won't be showing off on the net and popping his 6 packs to attract girls just so he can say that he's the gigolo and the king of sex, also bragging with his friends that he can get any woman he wants to bed...

    Such guys aren't the kind of men who are suitable for love and marriage!

    I don't have 6 packs and i consider myself a real casual man who seeks real love that leads to marriage and to live a wonderful life with someone who appreciates me and who is rich in morals and values, no matter how much horny i get, i always have it under control because in my mind "there is no sex before marriage", sooner or later i'm going to get it but i prefer to be loved 1st and to live a pure love to it's max and if everything goes well than i'll marry the one and at this point we will have sex cause sex will have a meaning at this point and the girl who will be having sex with me will be my wife and not just anyone and after all when we are married it means that we received the blessing from god and he made us one and a family cause we all know that marriage ain't just a contract on a paper, it's something sacred and it's real value is the union between a man and a woman in front of god and making promises in front of god whike signing the papers is just a routine that we have to do just so that everyone knows that we are married and for legal issues...

    Never get married or never marry someone who doesn't knows what a real marriage is, the couple have to be aware about it's positive and negative sides, also the meaning of it!

    • Perfectly said honestly!

    • Thanks for the mho miss alyssa rapunzel 😊

  • Traditional Gentlemen are in short supply because women have allowed it.

    Trust me, guys are prepared to do what's needed to win the girl. The problem is so many women are prepared to hand over the goodies for peanuts these days.

    And if you pay peanuts, you get monkeys.

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  • You're talking about the guys on social media and "dating apps" - which are NOT dating apps but rather hookup apps. The men you want are not on those apps. The men you want are busy living their lives in the real world.

    You are doing the equivalent of looking for a Vercase dress by going to shop at Ross or Marshalls - you'll never find what you are looking for because you are in the wrong place. You are finding guys who are only looking for casual sex because you are looking in places designed to cater to people looking only for casual sex.

    The other thing is: men are horny. They always have been and always will be. That's what makes us men. Men expect sex to be a part of an adult relationship, and if you are going to take that off the table, you need to make that clear from the very beginning. Yes, most men will pass you by because of that, but some won't. Those guys who will stick around aren't going to be 9s and 10s either, but you can find men who will stick around if you keep trying

    • I met these guys in real life as well sadlt

    • Sadly

    • Well, sure - most dating app users go out into the world too. But the opposite is largely NOT true - "relationship men" are almost never found on dating apps. And "relationship men" are almost never going to be the hot guys - the 9s and 10s that the majority of women want. Those guys have nearly unlimited options, and it makes no sense for them to limit their options, so they don't. But lots of women go after these guys - and ignore the "relationship men" because they are "boring" - and then can't understand why they can't get a hot guy to commit. The hot guys were NEVER going to commit - not to you and not to anyone. And just to be clear, that's not an accusation towards you - it's simply a warning. If you are fishing for saltwater ocean fish, you can't cast your bait into a mountain creek or a fresh-water lake and ever hope to catch the fish you are trying to catch, because they simply aren't there to be caught.

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  • No gender is a monolith. Some guys are really sexual at our age. Some are more gentlemanly. Some are neutral. And some are something else entirely. However, whatever personality we have chosen to have affects our life decisions, affects where we go, and affects the kinds of people we interact with.

    Clearly then, some people's personalities and decisions are leading them to you, while some others' are leading them away from you right now. But you'd rather have a different group. How do you do that?

    You can't change what they're doing, so you change what you're doing. What kind of man exactly do you want? Figure it out. Then, figure out where such men might be, and pursue them.

    I would like to think of myself as a gentleman. I don't post lewd stuff, am going to wait at least until I'm in a long-term relationship for a couple years to lose my virginity (maybe marriage), and treat everyone I meet with kindness and respect (or at least, I think I do.) So there's at least proof for you that people like that exist.

    So find them! I see another comment that says "Your profile pic shows you flashing. For most guys, that would indicate that you're probably not a virgin. It sends a confusing message." I can't really make out the picture, but if that's true, then yes. That might be a bad signal. If you sexualize yourself, you will attract people who are attracted to that aspect of you. If you want to be viewed a different way, be that different way.

    Does that make sense?
    1. Figure out what you want.
    2. Be what you want.
    3. Pursue what you want.

    If you're asking sociologically why guys are like this nowadays, it's because (1) pornography is popular, (2) women are more promiscuous than ever, and (3) casual sex is more socially acceptable and encouraged than ever. Therefore, (4) sex is much more attainable than romance or love. So the people who would be immature enough to go after lots of sex, can, without anyone telling them off for it (or being introduced to the concept that love might be better), and people who might be more interested in love get disheartened and turn over to sex because that's what everyone else does. It's a hole that's quickly deepening over time, though I think some people are starting to realize how bad it is.

    However, those are trends, and while trends concern the majority of a population, the world is big enough that minorities can be very significant and very discoverable. There are plenty of people who don't fit that mold, and some who fit that mold who are gentlemen at heart anyway.

    Just go for it! Get better company! Don't be afraid to pursue people yourself!

  • I always wake up really horny every morning because my wife always sleeps in her bra and knickers that's all and when I roll over and I see her laying there I get really turned on I must of the time slip her knickers to one side and then slip it in to her to wake her up she does love that haha x

  • Probably because the good men are mostly snatched up and not listed on dating platforms.

    • Probably right. I might these guys in real life as well

    • True. The gentlemen are busy working on their character as a person and do not have time to be seeking approval on social media platforms.

    • A real man won’t leave his wife for someone he met five minutes ago

  • Cause being respectful 9 out 10 times gets ypu in the friendzone, if women don't like the buff guy showing off his pekks then why do y'all fuck those guys? Self inflicted, sorry.

    Basically me caring gets me labed a simp or friendzoned.

    Lots of woman confuse brash for confidence, so a guy "confidently" saying he wants to tear that fine as up works better than me politely going on 4 or 5 dates waiting for you to make the first move for a kiss

  • It's society that's changed and they think is normal, there wasn't anything like that when I was younger. If you were interested in a girl you had to talk to her and take her out on dates etc and then hope that after a couple of dates she'd let you touch her tits lol if you were lucky she'd let you finger her 😂
    With the absence of the internet nobody did nudes or weird posses in photos, they would have had to have been Polaroids back then 🤣

  • Guy have always been horny? How do you think we arrived at 8 billion people?

  • I'm a gentleman and very horny.
    I know how to speak with respect while also seeing her as an object of lust.

    • Right! Like we women get horny too but we know how to talk to guys with respect

    • Some women are respectful, some are shallow, perverted jerks too, you just don't encounter them as a woman. Most people are very sexual. It is difficult to find a person who can think with their heart as well as their genitals. Keep looking, we do exist. I'm a loyal, loving, caring, sweet and thoughtful horny guy. We don't grow on trees though, some people don't have a conscience. My ex was just a selfish, horny, hurtful person.

  • One guy's opinion. It's trial and error nowadays. Men don't want to waste a lot of time and treasure getting a relationship started.

  • Yeah well when you're a virgin pretty much every guy gets turned on by that fact, just sayin. Every guy wants to be a girl's first. Or at least like a solid 8 out of every 10 men. Lots of guys will get turned on by the way you dress too. Humans are visual, not just men.

  • Agreed!!!

  • I think the real question you have is where is my hopeless romantic?


    All too often woman ignore the guy who would be her everything - her rock. For the fling of the day until she is ready to have a family - than she wants her rock - but someone else found him and became his everything.


    When I divorced my ex wife, at 35 a few woman from my past wanted to give it a go. Ha too late you wanted to be friends remember? I responded with, I need to heal just do me - best we stay friends.

  • I see a lot of younger people, men and women, posting photos like that these days. It is the direction the culture has taken. You don’t have to date them, but it might take longer to find someone who meets your standards of behavior.

  • Your profile pic shows you flashing. For most guys, that would indicate that you're probably not a virgin. It sends a confusing message.

    • It’s not me but I think it’s a cool photo

  • I don't think it's JUST THESE days!

  • I mean... look at how other women treat men. Would you want to form an emotional bond with someone who is constantly picking at you, degrading you, treating you like an inconvenience?

    Dave Chapelle has a fantastic bit about this. Basically, the answer is that feminism killed chivalry.

  • It's not an issue of being more horny.

    Being horny doesn't make people post photos of themselves online. Thats more a personality type thing of people who have insecurities (outside of getting paid for it).

    Also don't listen to people saying "don't use dating apps", the hookup culture in them was born from most good women refusing to use them.

    It would be nice if that changed, and hookup culture is worse in person, because you can't filter those people out via profile settings in real life, you can't even filter for single people only.

    Which is faster in non dating senerios? looking online for something you want on the internet? or walking around in real stores?

    Typically a quick search online is much faster.
    You are going to wade through a sea of guys you don't like to find one you want no matter what, the guy of your dreams is not going to just show up on your doorstep, you gotta hunt him down and put up with crazies and incompatoble people bothering you while doing so, thats just life.

    The question is, at what speed to you want to do it at? how fast do you want to reach the end goal? if it's at a snails pace, do it in person, if you want realistic timeframes, do it online.

  • ill tell you if you gimme a bj...😏

    • Jesus, does anyone know what sarcasm is? I'm obvi acting like I'm horny to touch on your point

    • I get it

    • atta girl

  • What do you mean "these days"? It was always the same all through history.

    Basically asking this question is like me asking: "ugh why are women so moody on their period" it's hormones. That's what hormones do to us...

    And if you ask what happened to gentlemen, the answer is simple: feminism, political correctness and social justice warriors. That's what happened. Those behaviors are not longer acceptable and actually frowned upon and framed as chauvinistic...

  • Nothing has changed for thousands of years.

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