Why are so many men looking for women with no romantic past/low body count?

Why are so many men looking for women with no romantic past/low body count?
Do you guys really think women with a high body count are sluts or are they just not relationship material?

I've seen a lot of guys here on GaG saying they want a woman with no romantic past so that's why I'm asking this. Im tired of seeing questions about it and wanna know the reason for why guys want this so badly?
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  • Insecurity. They are afraid of being compared unfavorably to a past lover. That's quite stupid. If a woman has no experience with men and picks me, as she married she may regret her choice. A woman that has known a lot of men and then picks me is choosing me over the rest. She knows what she is getting and is happy with it.

  • They don't. It's probably an incel or r/niceguy thing.

    But most guys and girls understand that sexual liberation means you're not alone in sampling what's out there.

  • In my opinion, they're afraid that they will suck in bed. They don't want to be compared to anybody else

    • I was about to comment this. My thoughts exactly.

    • Great minds think alike

  • The guys who want women with low body counts could be influenced by religion. You can definitely tell they're influenced by religion if they want women who are virgins and want to save sex for marriage. The guys who aren't influenced by religion want women with low body counts because they see women with high body counts as not being relationship material. The guys who want women with no past relationships want them because they don't want women with baggage. They especially don't want women who are a rebound option for them. This isn't necessarily true for every woman but this is the way they see these women.

    • I think, you are right

    • Lots of good points.

  • I’ve never asked or been asked about my body count, except here on GAG. If a person has an extreme one, it usually becomes obvious because it’s an indicator of emotional problems and/or mental illness.

  • If the men wanting a partner with a low count, as long as he also meets the same standard I don't see how it would be a problem.
    Live up to the standards you expect from others.

    The only people that seem to have a problem with it are promiscuous people that lost their value to those kinds of men.
    I think good women should be the same way. They also shouldn't be accepting of a partner that has a high count or was promiscuous.

    Immoral people don't deserve good people as a partner.

    • "I think good women should be the same way. They also shouldn't be accepting of a partner that has a high count or was promiscuous." Laughable. As a man you have no say in what women want. Your only choice is how you and men react to whats available. in my opinion as a huge player, its given me more access to more innocent women than other men saving themselves. So i made the right choice. Male logic cannot be applied to female emotions.

    • @bamesjond0069 "As a huge player" shows that you are the immoral kind of person that should be avoided by anyone that expects a good partner for a long term relationship. You have exposed your immorality, which disqualifies you from having an opinion on what good people should do.

    • There is no "good" as i said elsewhere on gag. A woman behaves like a woman. I don't know why you expect anything else. Ofc they prefer players over virgins. So instead of saving myself to get a virgin... error does not work. I became a player and got much better results. My girlfriend was a virgin and therefore winner winner chicken dinner.

  • Because they don't want to compete with lingering love and they don't want to be murdered.

  • Beats me. Even as a man, I can't quite understand what the appeal is for "virgin" females or females with smaller body counts. If their reason isn't for concerns of stds or hiv, then... i really don't get their thought process. Even if that was their concern they could just get tested, and know for sure what they have. I personally don't care if my partner has slept with as many people as a high-ranking porn star, as long as we get tested and she's clear of any sexually transmitted diseases/viruses as am I.
    I might not quite understand why many men think this way, but my suspicion is that they may perceive women as some kind of property? Cus I do see men who actually see their partners as their property say that they wouldn't want a romantic relationship with a slut, even though they will be willing to have sexual intercourse with said slut. So maybe, if his idea of a romantic partner is that he owns the unbounded right to sex from his partner, even without his partner's consent, then perhaps he would want the least tarnished " sexual property" he can get.
    Also, it might be a social embarrassment thing, where other men could mock him because they know his partner has slept with a lot of people, and possibly even with them and so to avoid such an "embarrassment", he would primarily seek the most "pure" partner he can woo. Just my 2 cents, I don't know lol

  • So their partners don't realize how toxic, pathetic or shitty in bed they are

  • It's a cultural thing. Some cultures emphasize no sex until marriage while others do not.

  • Maybe because men dont want to be compared to her other partners in any way. They want to feel like they are the best she's had.

  • No experience at all seems a bit unrealistic but some people might just wanna play safe I guess, tbh I don't know

  • I guess they're afraid to get cheated on, some women have the same reasoning.

  • I wouldn't take the veiw of people on GaG as being truly representative of the population at large.
    Personally I've never really asked about a persons history. What's in the past has been and gone. I'm more interested in the future, and what we might have together.

    • Yeah I definitely don't take people's opinions here too seriously. The thing is I'm tired of seeing the hate here towards women with high body count. Maybe hoping this question will change some of their minds

    • @apple1996 G@G is a litmus of people who have axe to grinds.

    • *axes

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  • Short answer : misogyny

    Interesting facts : there are women like me who are disgusted by these virgin diggers and therefore wouldn't sleep with any man at all.

    I'm glad you see it too, Apple. You're like one of the most respected, influencing GAGster around here.

    I guess there is option of lying here. Many women have admitted that they actually don't tell their boyfriends the truth because it'd "strain" their relationship and I don't blame them.

    • Thank you didn't know I was so respected around here lol

    • Of course! Girl, we adore u

  • they’re dummy dumb

  • I don't think many people expect somebody with no romantic past except that one guy that just created a new account for himself.
    Going on dates is like trying on shoes. You have to try a few pair on for size before you find the one that fits. I figured out what I wanted after dating several people. None of them could make me happy. Although people with really high body counts could be a red flag. It might demonstrate a lack of commitment.

    • Ok, I am going to go a bit afield here with this response. I think that promiscuity reflects many things, none of them good: 1. An addiction to the neurochemical response (dopamine and serotonin mostly) that occurs in everyone experiencing novel sexual stimuli (everyone is chemically a bit different and that is the novel part of it) and as a consequence, increased and also different pleasant *and potentially addictive* stimulation. 2. A diminution of feelings of insecurity that unchanged are really aversive - an approach by or success with a new person reduces these feelings. This is particularly true for men since men are socially required to approach women, leaving them far more vulnerable and more likely to experience rejections. In plain language: That warm glow you experience when you have sex with a new person or one approaches you for sex is simply your brain response to increased levels of neurochemicals - and that response feels so good that you may begin to seek it out with others. In some cases, that behavior becomes addictive. and uncontrollable. Your feelings of insecurity and discomfort regarding your own desirability or lack thereof lessen when you are successful with a desired new person, or a desired new person approaches you for romance or sex. This is particularly true for men and less true for women because traditionally women do not initially approach men.

  • I have noticed a fair about of "body count" questions... first, I think that phrase is pretty crude... and believe the entire notion is from guys who are immature :)

  • I have no idea - figure they don’t know what they really want

  • It's more of a cultural thing. But it don't matter as most women will have relationships and sex and that's understandable.

    Women get flodded with DMs from handsome men all the time so they're going to get in those things.

    You can always hide your actual body count if your boyfriend is concerned with it I don't think anything is wrong with that.

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