Guys, why are some of you so obsessed with your girlfriends'/wives' sexual past?

I often feel like some men think that we are unable to love and respect them if we've had many sexual partners or enjoy sex with them if we've had extreme experiences with other men in the past. Why is that?
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  • The only obsession I had with my prior wife's past partners (30, she told me) was to hear about them, as it got me as hard as a rock for her to tell me about her past fucks. Any girlfriend I ever had was sexually experienced with one exception.

    A girlfriend, when I was in my 20's, broke off with me because I did not want to marry then.
    Months later, she called me and said she was not happy with the sex she was having with two other men, that she met at Goodrich Tire. (she and I had a long history, since her teens and me in my early 20's) We had a very open sexual relationship, including masturbating together, talking about other men/women that we saw that got us hot and that we jacked-off / masturbated to. As far as obsession, she told me about their penis sizes, how they fucked her, how long they lasted, if they would jack off for her and all of that kind of sexual detail.

    I answer your question like this, because I was never, and still am not, obsessed or jealous about my partner's sexual experiences. I like to hear about them and see how my sexual experience, penis size, sexual practice, compares with what she has had. I think it makes for a more exciting sex life, adds to the excitement of seeing how my sexual expertise compares with other men, what she has experienced, how she liked it, and what can I DO to make sex more exciting for her and me both.

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  • We guys are competitive. That could also be seen on all those alpha/beta/sigma what ever talk. We see each other as rivals, therefore we wanna know how many partners our girls had to get to know how many rivals we have to compete with. Because guys know or at least feel like they are compared with each other by women so if she had many guys before and really knows whats going on it could be harder to please her from a male point of view.

    • But, following this logic, what if you 're my best lover amongst 100 guys I've had sex with? Wouldn't you feel more proud of yourself than being the best amongst 10 guys or just my first?

    • I'd rather be your first than just being in your top ten and I think all guys want to be the best lover you ever had.

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  • Because research has shown that the more previous partners a woman has had, the more likely she is to break up/divorce her man. The correlation is very significant.

  • A woman with some sexual history is MUCH more fascinating to me than a girl with no war stories to tell.

    I don’t want to be a woman’s ‘first’, and I ASSUME that I won’t be her ‘only’ OR her ‘last’.

    I'm NOT belittling a woman who, for whatever reason, has chosen not to prioritize experiencing numerous sexual encounters with a variety of men before she bumped into me.

    But I won’t lie... She just isn’t going to be my cup of tea.

  • Love to hear about their sexual past in detail, turns me on, the more people the better.

  • Statistics show that to be true. The more past partners, the higher chance of divorce and the more difficult it is to pair bond emotionally.

    Plus, if someone did hook ups, even once, that shows that sex for them is just for physical pleasure and is not part of a special emotional attachment/bond.

  • the vast majority of us have a past, some have more than others, so if you don't think you are going to like the answer, don't ask.
    Maybe they don't think they could match the perceived expectation levels of your past partners, or maybe in some way you are disappointed that they didn't wait for you, or that they had more fun than you did.

  • I don't like to hear about it at all.

  • For me... it is exciting to know a girl's past.
    As long as she knows I wouldn't judge her and then that it excited me to hear the details... I used it to enhance our playtime and teasing.
    No shame.
    Even if there are regrets, learn from it and move forward.
    No shaming of the past.
    And... why not enjoy what you can from the memory?
    My wife and I really enjoyed sharing as many details as possible from our past.

  • Because in too many cases that's exactly what happens.

  • Diseases and the 'PMS' (private messages from exes)

  • Because I want to thank everyone who taught her everything she knows in the bedroom. She is amazing! Seriously I don't, it's really not important we all have our past and that's what makes us who we are today!

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