Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
Another round of lunch and some wine with my crazy girlfriends this past weekend, brought up an interesting issue that many women have faced when they first became sexually active. How to ask for oral sex.
Almost every woman knows her clitoris very well. Knows how to pleasure herself and knows how to make herself climax using just her imagination. Once sexually active, masturbation is pretty important, to not only satisfy yourself but to show your partner what you like/need and how to be stimulated to reach orgasm.
Yet so many girls are afraid to even talk about this socially or in public, or even among friends, let alone ask their partner for exactly what they want, (when almost certainly they know what it takes).
A lot of women are sexually frustrated or unsatisfied because they cannot simply open up and be vulnrable or assertive and ASK for exactly what they want.
My girlfriends agreed, once they were able to get the courage to talk openly about their body and sexuality with a partner, asking for what they wanted without fearing rejection or felling guilt for being selfish, they felt freed sexually to a point of no return and have not looked back. They would NEVER have sex again unless they reached orgasm too. It was funny to share our stories of our first oral experiences, almost all of us had given before we learned how to receive and once we did, it was a kind of sexual emancipation that liberated our bodies and allowed us to have unrestricted pleasure, unashamed, unabashed, and unrelenting.
I think EVERY woman deserves the orgasm of her fantasies - and making that more acceptable and comfortable is every man's responsibility, if he really cares about satisfying and enjoying his partner fully.
You give some, you get some, Guys!
Girls - all you got to do is ask!
What Girls & Guys Said
13 25i love to give oral and dont keep score. if you are in a good relataionship it should work
You are spot on here... all you need to do is ASK !! The vast majority of men will be happy to give you some oral. Nothing beats a woman orgasming loads of times BEFORE having penetrative sex... she will come again during this ! The wetter the better !!. Sadly too many women have low sex drives & simply aren't bothered with anything remotely sexual.
I agree, I think they have low sex drives because they are not asking for what they want - if they got it - they would never say NO to an orgasm!
Men need to get educated...& women need to educate !! I've learnt ( since 16 years old... dirty little boy hehehe !! ) which buttons to press , in which order depends on the woman herself !!
My girlfriend just needs to ask and im down (pun intended).
We shouldn't ask. A real man does it without asking 😜
I have never really found this for have always been so turned on by giving oral, so, have insisted on it, and instigated it. Even in preference to me receiving. The only thing I find, is, some women do not desire it, whether they feel issues over it, or, maybe because most men have no clue how to truly orally pleasure them
Luckily for me, this has led me to put the woman at ease, working through her issues over it. Then I can indulge, blow her mind with my passion, and talent, and she is hooked, and is ravenous as i for it
I don't wait for her to ask. The first thing I do is eat her pussy. Once I make her cum, I stick it in and fuck her from behind.
I don't wait for the woman to ask, I like to take care of a woman of mine, just like I hope she enjoys taking care of me. It's always better to give than receive as the ole saying goes :)
From my experience guys actually love it when women ask to have oral. It shows your confidence and dominance and also its fun to be dominant in bed telling a guy what you want, how you want it and where you want it.
thats true! Its super hgot if a girl ask for oral sex :) I totally love it when a girl just say what she wants and like
I always go down even if she doesn't, i love doin it. but i never had a girl that didn't Do it.
So why is it OK for a female to insist that her partner go down on her or she find it elsewhere, but a male insisting he get oral is considered a scum bag for asking and the girl is told she should leave him for being a prick?
This double standard bullshit seriously.
I agree men should be able to ask for it as long as its equal
What if I'm completely afraid of receiving oral because it brings me bad memories but I'm totally in for giving it. I've trouble with this, I'm okay with going down on my guy and I enjoy it a lot. However when he tried to give me oral I felt horrible, couldn't accept it and he wants an explanation but I haven't felt like telling him my reasons, I just say that I rather pleasing him. Is not that I don't enjoy it its just that I can't. I've tried to discuss this with a therapist but it hasn't work. So I would never ask nor obligate someone to do so.
I was always afraid to ask guys for oral because I was always self-conscious about having that "womanly odor" that I FELT most men find gross or say that they don't enjoy the taste. It was to the point where I guy offered and I turned him down and it made the sex awkward. Later realizing that I was my own worse enemy, most guys will at least attempt to go down on you if you bring it to their attention or ask. My BF and I now have amazing oral, I know what he likes, he knows what I like.
If you have a clean diet and bath daily and before having sex then what ever odor you are referring to is your own "musk" and to me the smells FANTASTIC, some might say pungent but its all natural and good. Me personally I could stay down there for hours, that hot box is my fav place to be
@murphchapter2 Wow that's different :-)
another reason you should ask for oral is because you can mix it in with penetration to allow your man to "cool down". Make him go down on you when he's close. New ways of stimulation for you, on the same time as he'll be able to last longer himself. He could do that quite a few times before finally cumming. If he takes his time eating you each time you can potentially cum several times (depends on his tongue/hand-work) XD
win win, right?
In my experience from friends and my own I will say this is why
1. p*rn and commercials lead women to believe in perfect lady parts that smell like roses is the norm (not that it should look or smell bad I'll add!) so women might be insecure (I was until I learned from friends/health articles the truth)
2. Some BOYS are grossed out by it- my friend's bf wouldn't do it for exactly that reason. Ladies- ask anyway, if they don't then they don't get any either! Better yet, dump them, the body is beautiful, they need to get over it!
3. 'Sex shaming' especially on women in some cultures makes that seem dirty/weird to want. It's not weird it's awesome, we all like it. ;)
I agree with the you give some you get some philosophy, just be sure you tell that to all the women as well, many didn't seem to get the memo...
Same reason they don't ask guys out... cowardice.