Why can guys have sex with strangers? what does it mean when they are sexually attracted to a girl?

so i had 2 ONS with 2 different guys. i didn't have the desire to kiss them or touch them or anything, i dont think i was aroused by them. cuz they r strangers! i felt uncomfortable etc. but why are guys capable of being sexually attracted to strangers?

i have a special friend who i had sex with multiple times, but chances of us being together is zero... he's apparently very attracted to me sexually.. but other than that he seems very cautious and would not share his emotions with me. constantly ignores any of my msgs that tell him my feelings. i dont understand. doesn't physical intimacy lead to emotional intimacy? and this brings me to another question.. when a guy hires a prostitute for many times, or gets a sugar baby or something, is he capable of not investing any emotions in the situationship at all?
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  • Yeah, I used to think physical intimacy had a connection with emotional intimacy, but for most young men, it doesn't. They are out to spread their seed and they're terribly horny.
    Babies are "accidents" and young men don't want to be tied down by a baby or the woman who has one. He'll be financially tied down for 18 years, but he doesn't have to invest anything emotionally.
    This is irresponsible, but YOUNG MEN ARE SEXUALLY IRRESPONSIBLE! And emotionally immature.
    Don't waste your time messaging this man because he's TOLD YOU he doesn't want to be invovled by IGNORING YOU. He wants sex. Yes, he can divorce himself completely of any investment with you once he has his orgasm. Don't allow yourself to be used this way. Leave him alone.
    Good luck finding someone who is AVAILABLE. This guy ISN'T!

  • Not everyone connects sex and emotions as directly as you and most women do (and sure also some men). For me there is not that strong a connection. I need to be attracted, feel safe and get along well with a man, then I can have sex with him. I do not need more than an evening to tell that.
    Sex can just be a physical act, two bodies touching and pleasing each other. I had sexual relationships that went on for months without emotions evolving. I did care about the men, but not in a way that made them more special to me than others I hang out with.

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  • O think the key difference between us guys and you girls is, you girls are the ones who carries the baby.

    Hence instinctively (I hate cave man stories hence I use the word "instinct"), we guys just "sow" (our wild oats), while you girls are cautious if you were to get pregnant, who will care for you and your kid.

    I think this subconscious instinct pave the way we seek out sex partners, especially in a free dating world, much different from the one-to-one marriage of the pre-1920s.

    A little correction: us guys have feelings too. And trust me, when we bleed, it's red blood too.

    Hence most guys even here in G@G agree that sex with emotion is better than ONS.

    To conclude, we love sex, both male and female. We agree that sex is better with emotions. The main difference is, guys don't get pregnant and thus more ready to fuck free. That's all. (Don't you like it when I avoided caveman stories? LOL!)

  • We want to experience a girl reacting to what our dick does to them. The reaction is entirely physical, by all appearances, which makes it entirely possible to have sex with a stranger and enjoy it thoroughly.

  • I don't know cause I would hate to have sex with a stranger

  • Guys only need looks, girls need an emotional connection

    • No not necessarily. Shut shaming keeps women in line.

  • Physical intimacy usually leads to emotional intimacy, but some people csn separate the two

  • If you didn’t like them, why did you fuck them? I call Bullshit ! You like to get laid just like we do.

    Guys can fuck a chick and not care anything about them... ever.. Nothing ! Girls? Not really.. maybe a small few of them.
    Every girl that I’ve been with , that said, that they only wanted to have a good time, eventually had emotions towards me and got extremely jealous, when I talked about or brought other chicks around them...

    Prostitutes/ whores.. No idea., I’ve never paid for sex and will never pay for it.