Why can I only organ in only one position?

So I read online that it's not uncommon for this to happen but I've never had an orgasm during sex bc the only position I have been able to is in missionary with my legs together. My boyfriend makes me feel self conscious about it and feels like he's not good enough and I feel embarrassed trying to explain it to him. I don't know what to do about it.
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I saw a lot of people saying the same thing about clitoral stimulation so I bought a vibrator online. And 😅🥰 it's helping in terms of being about to orgasm with my legs wider or lifted. I haven't tried it with sex so we'll see.
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  • This is not a problem. A vast majority of women can not achieve an orgasm without without clitoral stimulation. You said that you can have an orgasm in missionary position when you keep your legs together. There are uncountable women who can not have an orgasm the way you do. They need to stimulate their clitoris to get an orgasm. Only penetration can not get them an orgasm. So, I want you not to think that you have any kind of problem or you are the only one.
    What you can do is touch your clitoris during penetration when you feel that you are not able have an orgasm or your partner may first stimulate your clitoris orally or with his hand and penetrate you with his fingers and help you have an orgasm and then he can do it.
    Communication is a key to success in every relationship. You and your guy must talk with each other and you should not feel embarrassed. Do you think your guy would have felt shy/embarrassed had he wanted to talk to you about sex? If not, you should also not feel embarrassed and if you think that he would have felt embarrassed, you guys should communicate more and more. This will help you guys a lot. If you think that you can not talk to him about sex, you guys may go to a professional sex therapist and talk to him/her.
    I hope that I have answered the question.
    Take care and good luck.

    • You've helped a bunch. For him, he thinks it's kind of weird that I can only get off this way and that makes me feel even more unrelaxed about it. And I've found that having my legs upward or open wider keeps me from reaching orgasm bc I'm used to them being together. I've tried to tell him that even when he jokingly teases me about it I feel uncomfortable bc it's something I'm really concerned about.

    • The more you become tensed the less you will be able to feel good. If he is getting the pleasure, you should get it too. Its your right because sex is never one sided. You must do everything to feel good and get pleasure. Sex is like a bicycle. When both tyres move, the ride becomes smooth and fun! Good luck, have fun and don’t be tensed.

    • Hi there! I hope that you are doing good. Here is a tip for you. You may use a vibrating ring. Do you know what that is? It is a ring that vibrates which is worn on penis. It helps in hands free clitoral stimulation. Take care and good luck.

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  • For u to orgasm u need to be comfortable turned on and the guys penis needs to be at the right angle to rub against the gspot.

    • What kind of angle?

    • Upward close to where ur pubic hair grows on the vaginal wall. It has a different texture.

    • What positions would you recommend doing?

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  • Maybe try to explain exactly what's going on. You can also experiment a bit to see what works, while still being pleasant to both

    • What kind of experiments?

    • With positions or even completely new things

    • True

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  • He should be understanding of that and want to ensure you orgasm during sex. Can you orgasm from oral?

    • No but He tries, he just feels like he's doing it wrong bc I overthink and it takes too long

    • So you overthink when you are in a different position or getting oral. Are you just trying too hard to will yourself to orgasm?

    • No I'll overthink about taking too long to have an orgasm or wondering if I'm making him feel self conscious and doing so I end up getting distracted from the pleasure. Overall I'm just used to having them in a missionary position bc that's how I've masturbated since I was younger and it just stuck. Anything else either takes longer or does nothing at all

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    • A couple of these we've tried out, others have said to try clitoral stimulation

  • Sorry off subject, but had to tell you your dog is so cute in sunglasses. Looks a little like my wife’s recent dog that unfortunately we had to put to sleep because of her age. We miss her we got another, which is my profile, we love her and she is spoiled to the point she became the boss. I know bad us but we can’t say no to those cute eyes. Sorry for the rant.

    • Oh thank you lol but he's not mine. Your did however is very precious and I'm sorry for your loss😔 losing a pet is never fun.

  • If you feel more comfortable in that position have him give you an orgasm like that and then tell him he can have what ever position he likes after

    • You should try different positions after you orgasm Maybe you will find another one you like and can get off with

    • He thinks it's kind of weird, so that makes me feel more insecure like something is wrong with me- making it even harder to feel comfortable.

    • Well you gonna keep having that problem unless he makes you or you talk to him about your comfort level

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  • I think it is simply an association. I think your body has associated a certain position with orgasm, and it likes it. So, don't worry about it.

    • But I'd like to have more of a “variety”, for lack of a better word.

  • Maybe try more positions, like on your stomach with your legs together

    • Hmm🤔 is there a name for it so I can look it up?

    • Rear Entry Similar to the doggie style, the rear entry is a sex position where the woman lies on her stomach as the man penetrates her from behind. Research published in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy found rear entry sex positions allows the penis to reach closer to the cervix.

    • Sounds interesting I'd give it a try

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  • Quite a few of my friends with benefits stimulate their clit when we fuck or want me to do it. It apparantly helps as they all cum. If that doesn’t work, have your friend eat you and suck on your clit. After you cum, fuck him but keep on rubbing your clit.

    • I'll try that next time

    • Think it will help you get. That Big O

    • I hope so 🤷😂

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  • Missionary is a good Position. You can look at his eyes and orgasm.

    • It's one of my favorites but I can't orgasm with my legs spread that far. Some people said try clitoral stimulation while doing it so I May try that

    • hahahaha... Yes. Try that. I hope it will work.

  • This seems like a relatively minor problem? Have fun, make you cum like that, toss you into another position that he likes. Everyone wins?

    • I guess but I'd like to have an orgasm from sex

    • I thought you said you are you just have to be in a certain position? One position where you orgasm is not much worse than two positions where you orgasm while being much much better than zero positions where you orgasm.

    • Without being too TMI: I can only orgasm really if I'm touching myself and my legs are together, I can't really orgasm from penetrative sex alone

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  • Out of pure curiosity what position is that?

    • On my back

    • So any other position doesn’t do anything for you

    • It'll feel great but I can't get off from it. I don't know if that's a conditioning thing or what. I'm fairly new to sex I've been sexual active for less than a year.

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