Why can’t guys last long?

I gave him my virginity like a month ago, he use to want to have sex all the time but could never last long. He would last long with a hand job though, sometimes wouldn’t even finish. Do I just not turn him on? Now I go over his house and he can barely last 20 mins. Did I do something wrong?
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20 mins is on a good day. It depends on the day. Sometimes he can’t last long, or we stop because he doesn’t finish.
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  • If he orgasms quickly, the sex doesn't have to stop. Go for round 2. He can go down on you for example until he's hard again. He'll last much longer in round 2. But 20 mins is pretty good lol.

    But also, how long (how many times) have you had sex and how often do you have sex together? You don't have to answer that, but look at it. The more often you have sex and the more comfortable he becomes with you, this should improve greatly. If this is still "new", he's just too excited and in his head too much right now, which can cause a quick orgasm. Another thing that might help (if you are able to) is try spending time just being naked together (again the comfort thing). Example watch a movie together naked. Nothing sexual, just being naked together.

    • Maybe like 20 times. And after the first round he is done. We just stop and then he is ready to go! I try to get him hard it works sometimes but he doesn’t want to go again he says! So what does that mean?

    • hmm, not sure. I love going again lol

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  • because if you think about that if it took guys forever to cum the human race wouldn't survive. When an animal has sex it is actually the most vernable for being attacked by another animal and having sex for any animalisnt supposed to take long. you ever see a horse, they're all 2 pump chumps

Most Helpful Girls

  • Girl are you really complaining because he can’t last more then 20 minutes be grateful because there are many many men out there who can’t last more then 5 minutes

  • Have you guys tried just normal foreplay or just dragging out the sex becuase if the actual problem is you're not having your needs met there are ways to help

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  • So your saying vaginal penetration for 20 min w/o him cumming is not enough? He cums at 19 or 20 and that is too soon for you?

  • he is inexperienced

    • dont lump all guys in just because your 1 guy does that. 20 minutes is not bad by the way. true not lasting guys are usually 5 mins or less. i have never been done in under 45 mins though, that was my quickest quickie.

  • yea i sometimes dont last long. sometimes do. all depends on mood and how things are going

  • he has no self-control. I take it he's a young guy too? with experience and practice, he could last much longer.

  • if you are talking about penetrative sex then 20 minutes are fine,
    foreplay isn't included in those 20 minutes, right?

    • No as soon as we get home we just go.

    • you both go for penetrative sex only?

    • Yes that’s correct

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  • 20 mins is a decent time. But it takes practice to b able to go for 30-45 mins or longer.

    • He just needs to learn to practice and edge himself.

  • Takes time.

  • When you say 20 mins do you mean 20 mins of nonstop thrusting? That’s pretty good if you ask me, particularly for an inexperienced guy. Maybe he needs to improve his technique to make you cum in those 20 mins. I now can last as long as I want, but when I was younger maybe it was 10 mins of continuous thrusting.

  • You are lucky you didn't get pregnant from it.

  • It's Nature... ladies last long although they take hell lot of time to get into mood...

    • True

    • Umhmm females rule

  • They aren't supposed to. You've forgotten the purpose of sex, because you're so focused on the pleasure.

  • Most guys can't last 20 minutes; best to find someone who can keep going after cumming.

  • You are fake. Because 20 minutes is enough for intercourse, more than 20 minutes continue , no any woman can handle.

  • He has premature ejaculating.

    • You have no idea of what is premature ejaculation.

    • @NYlatefun okay dude.

    • Well... you really don’t 🤷‍♂️And next time check your conjugation, it’s ejaculation, not ejaculating. 😘

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