Why can't I cum without riding a pillow?

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Sangita93 · Accepted Answer

Your partner might not hitting or stimulating you clitoris and other sensitive parts during sex and it might be keeping you unsatisfied. Tuning between partners and strong feelings to satisfy partner is a must for pleasant sex. Riding pillow for sexual satisfaction is a type of masturbation, and masturbation is healthy for sexual happy life. Nobody knows better than you – ‘what pleases you more and how it is enjoyed the best way’. You are not doing any dirty or silly things, it is natural. It is pleasant because it allows you to go at your own pace and pressure and you can also let your nipples rub on a pillow while you do it which makes it even better. You can go fast slow or hard or soft whatever makes you feel good and enjoy the most personal moments until you cum. During sex with your husband / boyfriend you completely or partially concentrate on pleasing your partner and try to do what he like. Masturbation is moments enjoyed solo in totally privacy and you need not to do anything for your partner.

Riding pillow stimulates the clitoris which is the main place for pleasure; most females cannot orgasm without at least a bit of clitoral stimulation. It is very stress relieving. And it also helps for good sleep. Riding / humping and thrusting, grinding, are different methods of getting pleasure. Also sometimes when humping a pillow the pillow is touching a sensitive part of a girl’s body, like her inner thighs which can make her orgasm / cum faster and/or better.

One of my kitty-party friends had asked me similar thing and she also said that her husband wants to see her masturbating this way, and she is embarrassed that she cannot do it normally and feel silly. I find out by talking with her that she was masturbating enthusiast1y from puberty. I assured her that it is not silly; to masturbate for your pleasure the way you like is normal and acceptable thing. As you are married, (and monogamous relationship culturally) her husband will be pleased to see her making yourself happy for him whatever way you do it. Many of my friends ask me their sex related issues for resolutions – believing me sexpert. I worn her not to tell this matter to others because might be doing the same thing, but they probably will laugh about it. It is a social taboo almost round the world. Privet activities must remain privet and secret from close ones too.

laurieluvsit · Accepted Answer

You're reverting back to your childhood... lol

Makeushiver · Accepted Answer

Have you ever used toys designed for the same stimulation? Another possibility is the fact that a small percentage of women are capable of orgasm, single or multiple, from fucking. A far larger percentage usually cum from getting head. There is also a much longer warm up period before women are truly turned on. Most guys get hard from anything as stimulating as a sneeze. Women, in my experience, need/want non-genital stimulation. What makes many women cum is akin to french-kissing ther pussy paying , more attention to their clit. If a lover provides direct stimulation to your clit before you are fully wet the sensation is too much. Any fondling or licking needs to be done a bit indirectly- using your delicate inner labia as a shield. The same stimulation is far more of a turn on once you're completely wet. The stimulation you get from a guy who knows how to give head is likely the same pressure and same place that you may have found too uncomfortable when done before you're fully ready. Don't be shy about using lubricant if you don't seem to ever get wet enough naturally. Once you have a fairly skilled lover than pretend hos face is a pillow and do the exact same thing your doing now with a pillow. Not every guy is that into it but i've always thought that getting and giving head should be completely reciprocal. I happen to very much enjoy going down on most women to the extent that I lost my tongue virginity before I lost my dick virginity- both at age 13. Feel free to DM me should you need any clarification

mrmonogamous · Accepted Answer

You have conditioned your self to have orgasms that way. Lie back and relax and just use your hand. Or, get on all fours (like doggy style) and reach under between your legs. There are lots of different positions on message. Don’t get yourself conditioned to just one or you will have Muscle memory for that one position.

Guy13 · Answer

Maybe everything will cum around in good time. Live and try new stuff 🤷🏻‍♂️

summiter · Answer

Maybe try getting some sex toys like a vibrator. Do you have a boyfriend? Can he help?

20yearsolder · Answer

If you try rubbing your clit with your hand, that doesn't work? It's the friction against the pillow that's getting you off. Maybe you're not rubbing firmly enough

Msputiton · Answer

Because of reasons, and things

JPresidente · Answer

I'd reexamine how you're flicking the bean.

shanshu · Answer

Because you know what gets you off, share next time when your intimate with someone what you would like them to do down there that will help you orgasm

Guardian45 · Answer

Cuz you crave being a cowgirl?

Nahid1707 · Answer

You love a pillow

Rudon00 · Answer

Try not to be tensed and focus on being relaxec

OnTheLevel · Answer

Maybe a pillow gives you just the right pressure and friction in just the right places.

bananathunder · Answer

because it's what works for you... just keep doing it if it makes you happy

jimmy2 · Answer

Lol me either

QuietRunner · Answer

It is the way you learned how to orgasm

KindManHere · Answer

Dont you need a hard dick instead of a pillow?:)

Anonymous · Answer

the friction of an object on your clit

Anonymous · Answer

I’m guessing you’ve masturbated using a pillow since your youth, you need to find a position/angle that can stimulate you the same way riding a pillow does. It’s funny I started masturbating using a pillow too 😂