Why can't I have casual sex?

It's seems I am unable to spread my legs casually to a random guy I've met in the bar. And it bugs me. Why? I have many female and male friends that are casually sleeping nights away. Changing parners, living life - as friend of mine would say. But me? Nope. I did try, of course. But then I imagined, how it would really go. Bam, bam, some random guy takes me home... and in the middle of the deed I start crying. Screaming: I MISS MY CHILDHOOD. Or puking. It would be sad. So, in the era of casual sex rulling our beds, am I the only one not doing it? Is this a turn off? What do you people think? AM I THE ONLY ONE? (Come on, world, do not do this to me).
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Most Helpful Girls

  • I hear you! It's fine! I have never done casual either. I am in my thirties, and have slept with two people. My last one. I met at uni. He lived next door to me. For 2 months, he would wait on his front balcony for me to come home so he could talk to me for 2 minutes. We finally went out after 2 months, and were together for 12 years. I am sensitive/caring and get attached to people. If I ever had a ONS, ( which I wouldn't) I would probably call the poor guy after, to ensure he got home alright, and was feeling ok. Lol 😂

  • You're not the only one, I don't have casual sex either. It's nothing to be ashamed of. Then again I'm different and I'd rather stick to a long term relationship with one person instead of possibly catching a disease that won't be diagnosed till later since it rarely shows the symptoms of the disease, if you have it, years later

  • no, you're not the only one not into casual sex.
    I don't see anything appealing or mildly arousing about the thought of sleeping with a random guy. (idgaf if a guy feels turned off by the fact that I have standards. It's his loss, tbqh.)

    • That's because you aren't sexually attracted to the male body in and of itself.

    • @bekkesmash I love the male body and having sex with my boyfriend. What I don't love is the stigma and STI's that come along with random fucks.

    • You would find at least the thought of sleeping with a random guy arousing if you were sexually attracted to the male body in and of itself.

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  • You're the only one. Literally every single other person in the world is out having casual, random encounter sex except you. Even the babies. Even the old people in nursing homes. Every single able bodied person.

    • At least they are not puking. Or crying, for that matter. The sheets are clean.

    • That's what you think. If every single person is busy having random sex, who's changing the sheets and bed pans?

    • Me, of course. After all, I am the only one not doing it. It's the superpower of the only person in the world that doesn't have random sex.

Most Helpful Guys

  • It is not a turn off.. especially for someone who shares the same mindset as you.
    The "Era of casual sex" as you would call it, doesn't draw me in either.. I can't enjoy any sexual actions without a partner, I genuinely love and that's totally fine.
    Just because you have friends who'd do it, doesn't mean that you'll have to join in.
    If you don't feel up to casual sex, then don't worry about it, for it's not abnormal.. Many, me included, would appreciate to find a girl like that.

  • Only in a society that circles the drain would you see a question asking ''Why can't I join them? what's wrong with me''. No wonder the aliens never invaded...

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  • I've never had casual sex. I'm just not the type I suppose. Every sexual encounter I've had has been in a relationship. I don't regret it at all

  • I want to wait for marriage so I find those who sleep around to be a turn off big time. Depends who you meet. Don't pursue Pleasure. Don't become a slave to your impulses and desires. Have some slef respect and save yourself for someone who truly matters. Your friends are just giving themelsevs away.

  • You're not the only one. I enjoy casual sex but I would say the majority of other women prefer a relationship. Just keep yourself comfortable and don't worry about it!

  • and why this should be something bad? life with it, banging random dudes from the bar won't make your life easier

    • hat's of... buddy... really🤗🤗🤗🤗

    • ? wut

    • thinking... is too high you have

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  • Yeah I wouldn't want to have that. Just seems wrong.

  • You're not the only one, and it's not a bad thing.

  • Don't meet guys at bars. Try online. Go out first (when you are sober).

  • Okay... I never ever pick a girl from a bar to sleep with because ill be drunk and won't really be in the right state of mine.
    sleeping with a stranger shouldn't be forced meaning you shouldn't force yourself.. he has to make you feel comfortable and the attraction should be sky rocking... You will feel the passion or the attraction but if you go to a bar and pick a random guy and make his day you won't feel anything not even one orgasm

    • . I never ever pick a girl from a bar to sleep with because she'll be drunk and won't really be in the right state of mind.

    • true that

  • do what makes you happy not what others do.

  • You are not the only one.

  • I think you're being a smart girl by not sleeping around. Personally I'm not a fan of casual flings.

  • Uh I'm sure you're not the only one.

  • I would do it if it was easier and there were more hot girls around. Only about 15-20% or so of all girls are truly hot.

  • I don't. I'd rather wait till I'm at least dating someone.

  • Deep down your not ok with it.

  • maybe its because you want to feel some passion and emotions before tou do something lile that if not. you can never get yourself to do it.

  • You'll find someone. 😊

  • That's good. You're not a sloot

  • Because you are a decent person. Keep it that way.

  • This doesn't mean you can't enjoy sex, you just might feel uncomfortable around people that you haven't known for a reasonable time. This is normal and many people are like this.

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