Why can't I orgasm using my fingers while masturbating?

I have to hump a pillow to have an orgasm.
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It's like the pressure is not enough and I get tired.
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  • Because the input you are providing to your body is in a "closed loop". Pressure doesn't have to be a lot, it just needs to be applied to your body in the right way.

    This also explains why you can't tickle yourself, but you CAN be tickled by someone else. Your brain "knows" it is you- specifically, your fingers- creating the input, so it basically just ignores the input when you DIY. When you use a pillow, remote vibrator, a partner's fingers, or anything else NOT held by you, THEN that is an "open loop", and your body WILL respond.

  • Orgasm is sexual tension release, if you dont build up that tension then there is no orgasm. Humping pillow allows u to create more sexual tention that when reaches peak overflows and good orgasm is expierenced. Using fingers is releasing some of that tension already before it even builds up so even if u build up a little bit, it then releases and is not as intense. Try combining pillow to build up and when u reach peak try out finishing with finger and learn from there.

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  • Maybe your doing it wrong. Maybe you get to wet and their isn't enough friction. Try making a V shape with your index finger and middle finger and then pinch the tissue around the clitoris and start stretching your hand out and pull the finger up, it will create a tugging sensation on the clit. This may provide enough stimulation for you (my ex couldn't orgasm with her fingers which I found out after she orgasmed from me doing that to her (it was the first time she was able to orgasm with a hand).

  • Slow it down and do not try so hard to orgasm.. just focus on what feels good. Maybe consider getting a sex toy... like a good vibe. My fiancée has a vibrator and it works wonders for her.

  • I don't know the reason. But are you able to have strong orgasms with a pillow? Do you take your panties off or leave them on?

    • I get naked and the orgasms are better with a pillow.

    • I've watched videos of girls masturbating by humping pillows. (Very hot by the way.) Maybe there's just more body contact involved that simulates sex more than using your fingers, and maybe that physicality increases the pleasure.

  • So hump a pillow and cum hard..

  • I'd need to study the film to give you any specific suggestions

  • I guess it is the power of customs. You are accustomed to one feeling and not to another.

  • How the hell should we know? That' something you need to figure out for yourself.

  • Got to get some vibrators that's used to work for me when I use the foot massager heads

  • Do you get it from stimulating your clit?

  • Maybe you have it in your head you can't with fingers and aren't relaxing and enjoying the moment

    • It's not like that. I have occasionally had orgasms using my fingers but they weren't as intense.

    • Maybe get a finger vibrater

  • Felling that pressure between your legs is what gets you off.
    You’re fantasizing having a guy under you.

  • Lay on your back and use your finger and gently rub in an massaging way your clitoris in a circular motion or up and down however you may see fit and see it that helps.

    Masturbating is about taking your time to get to the point of climax rather than having an orgasm.

    Let me know if it helps.

  • I knew a girl that was also like this.

  • I would need to see you doing both to have an opinion... "call me"

  • Just different sensation it’s normal

  • As you have your 2 middle fingers inside use the palm of your hand to rub your clit.

  • you must not be doing right

    • What should I do?

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  • your doing it wrong!

  • You must like cowgirl position

  • I can't either that's why I play with my clit thats basically what you're doing when your humping

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