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Why clothes on curvy and average women always look more sexual, and why you shouldn't judge women on how they dress because of it.
The take that I didn't know was needed, but one that is deserved. So, here we are.
Right, let's get one thing straight. I do not endorse this new age Tess Holiday body positivity garbage. It supports this "woke" political correctness trash that simply gives SJWs a platform to be relevant for once in their lives who look and feel miserable. Do I wish people would stop trashing others for their appearance? Sure. But, like most I assume, I do not want to be told what is attractive for the sake of feelings. I am not claiming that one body type is more attractive than another. Everything has its own perks and its own shortcomings. As my savior, Ben Shapiro, once claimed: facts over feelings. Let's get to the facts.
The same dress dilemma
This is a model that appears close to the thin ideal that both most men and women constantly seek. She's not underweight. She has breasts. She's fine. I like this body, and it's healthy. What matters about this photo is that I like this dress, and I would definitely wear it. You'd easily see me in this as a casual look. Unfortunately or fortunately though, I don't have this body. I have something closer to the next photo's.
Ashley Graham. Not obese, perhaps slightly overweight if we're going off BMI, but super endearing and charming anyway. She has full breasts and a curve to her waist that gives her an hourglass figure. Her chest even stick out of the dress in such an obvious manner. The contrast is huge between this photo and the model's, which brings me to my next point.
Why is this girl considered elegant, cute, decent?
But this girl is described as trashy, inappropriate, and slutty?
See, the issue is that they're both wearing bikinis, but obviously one is not like the other. The girl with the brown bikini can walk in a mall with ripped jeans and a tight shirt with her cleavage busting out because her breasts are just that big, and be stared at as a sexual fiend. While someone like Gigi Hadid can wear something as equally "revealing" and not be scrutinized for it at all. I'm not saying those kind of bodies are not attractive, or cannot be sexual, but the girls that have full tits and a small waist are always the ones that are told what to wear, how to dress for "their body type", and most importantly, deemed as promiscuous.
These are the kind of girls you avoid like the plague because they aren't "wifey" material but they're the first choice to fuck. They're "alpha", they're "great sex", they have overflowing "sex appeal". I've heard it all before. If this is not your preference or thinking, this isn't directed at you, but I understand that a majority of men think lowly of women who dress too "sexy", even though it isn't the clothes that cause this perception, but the woman's own body.
So, what's the problem? And what's the point?
I don't want to be limited in my wardrobe because I'm considered too sexy, even when that isn't my intention and I don't feel that way. Of course there are some nights where I go out with friends or want to feel desired by a man, but on most days, I just throw on a v-neck, and I'm considered an easy fuck when I've never even had sex in the first place. I'm the gossip of the locker room. I shouldn't have worn "just a sports bra" in a gym. But no, other women can. I don't condemn men for the attention, I don't think a passing compliment is harassment, I even smile and strike up a conversation at times. But I'm over apologizing for how I look, and I don't think losing weight and a body that I love is the solution to make it all go away. I'm sure a lot of women who aren't model thin feel this way, and it isn't just a problem exclusive to this body type. So, don't scrutinize us for wanting to dress in clothes that thinner women can dress in just because it looks different, and more sexual on a frame with big breasts or an arching hip.
All in all.
People are human at the end of the day, and while sex is great I'm sure, take a chance to get to know the person in the bikini or dress a bit before you turn to your friend and giggle about how slutty that girl looks and must be, or how she should dress more appropriately due to an insecurity of your own. I like body positivity in that you should feel comfortable with yourself if you are. If you want to lose weight, lose weight! I'm here for it. If you don't want to, that's fine too. If you agree with this sentimentality, then apply it to yourself and don't bash those with body types that you don't have, and therefore, you don't understand. Every body has its own vices and virtues, and everybody is not how they initially seem. Don't believe that? Ashley Graham (the model above) abstained from sex for years before she met her husband. Thanks for reading, didn't expect you to read all of it, and thanks for hearing me out.
What Girls & Guys Said
22 49I don’t ever judge a person by their choice of fashion or what they wear.
from left to right 8,5,8,7
it was too long to read the whole thing but from the parts i did read and from the pictures its part of what you are talking about. how a skinny girl can wear something but when a busty girl wears the same thing she is considered a slut or "too revealing"
I don't know why so low lol thats just what my brain tells me 😂 but 5 is average so its not like she looks bad. if i had to point it out i think its because of her hairstyle, her lips, nose, and thin eyelashes but I don't know just the whole combination of everything doesn't appeal to me that much
@miklail she looks a bit on the older side than the rest of the girls. but i do like her face shape and features. she also looks more dominant and i think i am more attracted to submissive girls. but she does look a lot more intelligent than the rest of the girls so she could be more better for a romantic relationship rather than just a sexual one
my favorite feature on her is her eyes
@miklail i think the reason she is lower is because both she looks older and more dominate
@miklail its all about what combination of features she has and who is the one that is rating her. another guy can rate her as a 10 but for me she is 5 maybe 6 if she had a different hairstyle 🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️
So, you have curves. Well, a lot of men like curves. A ton, including me.
Some guys like thin, or skinny. I don't blame them, but I don't care what they like. :D
It's not bothering me in the slightest.
The pics of thick women there are the ones I'd want to get to know. The slimmer women are alright, but don't get me going.
It is what it is.
If you're a man with 16" biceps you're going to receive more attention wearing a t-shirt than a man with broomstick arms. Gee - why is that?
It might have something to do with sexual attraction.
If she wasn't beautiful and built like a baby factory nobody would objectify her in that bikini. DERP.
Your "curvey" girl examples don't make me think sexual, they make me want to puke.
These women are not curvey hot, they are curvey obese.
so true, fat women make delusional statements like this so they can feel better
I can't tell y'all to dude what the like but nobody wants no bony ass girl anymore got to wake up and open your eyes don't tell me you're afraid of a little bit of Curves
Yeah, and you guys are both half a century old with your outdated tastes for little boy bodies. You've never been with a woman that looks like the ones I showed so you immediately bash it because it's foreign. You can have your opinion, but don't try to shove it down my throat. They're not curvy obese. And you and I both know it. Any thin girl with her ass sticking out bent over is not "curvy".
@JanetJa Preach mama tell them BIG GIRLS DO IT BETTER!!!
@bklynbadboy1 nothing wrong with a bit of curves. thin girls do not have to be bony, but not obese either. they can be a healthy weight.
Lmao yesss!
@DianaWest I can respect that beauty is beauty.
You're living in your own fantasy world. No one but yourself ever says those things about women ever.
First set of pictures I thought the larger girl looked better. Had nothing to do with the dress just skinny model was too skinny and I didn't think very attractive and second girl was cute but overweight borderline "thick". Thick Is fine but I'm iffy so she wins by default. The second set of photos the first girl I don't think it's cute at all she has a nice body though. And the second girl cute fast but little too much weight. I think you have those flipped by the way. No one would think the larger girl is slutty. The first girl probably so. Second girl they would just say they don't find her attractive and shouldn't be wearing that. Meaning they don't want to fuck her which is kinda the opposite of slutty.
So really you're just making all this shit up in your head. So stop doing it.
She’s not living in any fantasy world. People say this stuff all the time.
The only people I ever hear talk about beauty standards is women. For the instance of the pictures I've never in my life heard anyone call the larger "less attractive" women slutty for wearing a a bottom and a top. Usually it's just "please put a shirt on. i don't want to see that". It's typically the hot women that get called slutty in that attire and usually again by women whom are jealous or envy the looks of another women.
7/7.5/8/7
Sorry, but I need to disagree with you. You can have your opinion of course. In my experience, I'm a bit thinner than Ashley Graham, and I get sexual attention each time I leave my house. It's every time I'm with my friends, so much so that they get annoyed. I've actually had a lot of fights with them about this over their own insecurities. I dress in clothes that outline my body. That comic in the take is an accurate representation of what I'm constantly told, because I have a lot of cleavage, even when I'm simply wearing a shirt. This take was made off my own personal experience, so I simply do not understand why this is so difficult for you to believe? However, I won't resort to claiming any personal insults about you because I simply do not know you or how you live your life. It's a quality I hope you can carry. I've retained my virginity despite being asked to have sex upwards in the 100s right now. In my experience, men always have these hyper sexual but shallow feelings towards me, and blame it on the fact that I dress "revealingly" when I dress as any other woman. That is all. It's not that complicated.
Also, I'd like to say that just because you don't hear men speaking about this, as I don't imagine you do together. Please remember that you are not a woman and you will never experience anything remotely of this kind of attention or interaction. Of course men aren't staring at you, only to walk up towards you and ask you to go to bed. To say that just because you've never experienced such a thing, means that it doesn't exist, is the true absurd sentimentality here.
Okay thanks for that lovely story of how you're a woman and get attention and how if you dress like any other woman you get the same treatment b as other women. That fantastic. I'm sure it's true but it is also because you're a woman and it's going to happen. It's also not related to the situation at all but thank you.
You just said that "No one but yourself ever says those tings about women ever. So really you're just making all this shit up in your head. So stop doing it." And then when I disprove you by stating that these things happen in my daily life on a regular basis, you get defensive and insecure and say that it's not related to the topic? I responded to your claims. Grow up. Jesus.
thicker girls seem this way cuz more skin shows
Who cares if people judge them? Fuck them.
they look more sexual, because they're bigger
Off-tipic, but I hate sandals, especially the ones in the second picture.
Cuz it's not the clothes that sexy it's the body that it's on the more curves Sexy and You Are
I feel there is a growing push to make healthier women wear clothes which are smaller in size and represent the ad sexy looking and feeling sensual which is not the case in reality. In general, women form an adverse opinion about themselves. Even a slight change in weight makes them insecure and bad about themselves. By turning the concept around on its head the fashion houses are promoting their clothes on such curvy women, who are mostly movie actresses and models the fashion trends are being tweaked to do business.
Just see the clothes these models are wearing. Seems these are a size or two less than what an average curvy woman would feel comfortable wearing in real life.
Isn't this just body positivity masquerading as porn? Not that I mind.
I think the answer is obvious here.
because its appearance emphasizes the shape of the woman, with attractive breasts and buttocks. lol
Thank you lol
I feel complimented
I do still think skinny girls can pull off most outfits that are flowy and feminine like no other girl. Just look at models.
I completely agree. Meanwhile, the comment section filled with men is literally cancer lmao. Why are women so reasonable?
Ignore them , men on this site are just like that lol
I've definitely learned that today.
No they don’t.
Umm, the fat girls aren't the first ones we seek to fuck and they get more crap for wearing those clothes because it looks disgusting.
woah! calm down kid
you don't speak for me I like meat on a girl
@Logan_ yeah, you've been poisoned by feminists and your single mother who have been poisoned by rich industrial food conglomerates
I don't have a single mom and I'm not friends with any feminists. You must be a homo or a pedo if you like them skinny.
@Logan_ no, just like slim fit girls, like victoria's secret models
Men like women who don't look like guys or little girls. With your age, I suspect you are interested in children.
@Logan_ nice angle, but the whole modeling industry agrees with me
The whole modeling industry is full of homos and child molesters so you would fit right in.
Sorry, but I need to disagree with you. You can have your opinion of course but you don't need to come off so hostile towards another opinion. In my experience, I'm a bit thinner than Ashley Graham, and I get sexual attention each time I leave my house. It's every time I'm with my friends, so much so that they get annoyed. I've actually had a lot of fights with them about this over their own insecurities. I dress in clothes that outline my body. This take was made off my own personal experience, so I simply do not understand why you think you represent all men when I am simply sharing a common occurrence in my life. Thank you.
@Logan I'm dead😂😂😂😂😂
Dude you couldn’t get a Victoria secret model
@Rissyanne For real! These guys on here like they're packing 10s and 9s when they're just fucking incels that don't know anything about human anatomy.
Incels... another word for loser
wear what you want and please take pictures for us!
Curvy doesn't mean fat ffs.
There are plenty of women who are in denial of being fat while calling themselves curvy
curvy rocks
@miklail Top 3 are my favorites.
@miklail Not sure but the bottom one isn't usually what I would go for.
And I agree.
You realize the same model is the second photo and the last, right?
I love women and I wouldn’t label any of them as sluts based on clothing or behaviors
Really appreciate hearing that!
No problem