Why couldn't he stay hard?

[Anonymous]

hey guys! so I had this recent sexual encounter with this guy I've had a crush on for sometime. Here's some basic information regarding us both, I'm 18 quite attractive "not to be arrogant or anything" he is 20 on the shy side abit geeky but I like that. Anyways we get together and things escalate and we get into it. Problem is everytime he tried putting on a condom he would lose his boner. This was a blow to my ego like damn maybe he didn't find me as attractive as I'd hoped but he tried to reassure me that be did. anyways I give him head, and I start jerking him off and before I know it he starts cumming. so yeah no sex cause I had to be home. why couldn't he stay Hard? thanks

[GingerGuy]

Could be a few things (asking him will be the only way to know). Anxiety, nerves. Could have been the feel of the condom. Maybe it just happened, one of those days, it happens sometimes. If he already ejaculated that day (masturbated) that sometimes effects it. Do not take it personally though, I can almost guarantee it's nothing to do with you at all.

[jacquesvol]

There's that internet legend or bro legend that a condom makes a guy lose his erection.
Once a guy believes that, it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.
A Nocebo thus: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nocebo

[nudestsara]

Sometimes the act of putting on a condom can ruin the mood a bit cause it seems so clinical. I've encountered this problem before. Not everything goes perfectly the first time around.

[Rollin88z]

If the condom is too small it really hurts and totally kills the erection fast.

also performance anxiety

[guy532]

Nerves for sure

[thatguywithakeyboard]

It's quite simple. Bit to much porn and bit too much fapping (the all mighty "Dead Man's Grip"). The again I have hard time myself staying hard or cumming with a Condom. Kind of feel like my penis lost the freedom and that creates some emotional blockade.

[jacquesvol]

The "Dead Man's Grip" blocks orgasm. Not erection.

[thatguywithakeyboard]

@jacquesvol the effect of over excessive porn watching blocks erection as you seek out more darker and hardcore sexual activities. For example, vanilla porn is no longer effective, person results to golden shower, then anal and in the end some odd Japanese beastiality where woman fuck snakes, eal's and dogs :)

[jacquesvol]

Japanese or just hillbilly trash?

[thatguywithakeyboard]

@jacquesvol hillbilly you say? Nope, JAV like some supper fucked up hardcore shit, you will find interesting things browsing the darker places on the web. All hail Tor

[jacquesvol]

I don't have Tor: the deep web is scanned by the NSA. I don't want to be regged and get the FBI at my door.

[thatguywithakeyboard]

@jacquesvol LOL. I'm a CS Major here :) so I'm handy with comp, but last I check I found some supper hard core shit like 2 years back on PB, when PB was still a good site for whatever you were looking for. Now PB is a fk hole :(

[jacquesvol]

If that's what you want...

[thatguywithakeyboard]

@jacquesvol There is a big difference between me wanting something and me stumbling onto something, or me downloading something just to find it's completely different content from what I originally was looking for. Remember PB isn't a nice place.

[jacquesvol]

@thatguywithakeyboard If you go to certain sites you know what you might meet.

[thatguywithakeyboard]

@jacquesvol That's true. However PB used to have some good programs, especially those that cost up to $1K, as a poor student back in the day I kind of wanted PS CS and few other tools not covered under my College.

[Paultripps]

Nerves

[Dubloons]

Could be performance anxiety.

[Kiels01]

He was stressed, couldnt perform because he was anxious - he probably is a virgin or thinks you are too bgood for him! reassure him and take it slow, itll relax him and itll work

[LycaNinja]

Not all guys can cum and stay hard... It's not a skill every guy has.

[shant]

Speaking from experience, a combination of nerves, embarrassment, and the feel of the condom when you not use to it can mess with a guys head even without him knowing.
Could also be a seriously random sensitivity issue that day, that to happens.

[agirl537]

he was really nervous

[Soulife]

Condoms sometimes scare me in a way... Like you feel more self conscious about your penis... And then of course you have the "what if it breaks?" Way back in your mind...

[Gray_Wolf]

Some man can't because its about their testestorone levels or they don't have high libido enough. There is also another reason, like if he jerks off too much then he won't be able to get it up, its nothing about you otherwise he wouldn't do that with you.

[masterkamasutra]

Lack of skill and confidence.

[Anonymous]

maybe medical and blood not circulating enough

[Anonymous]

this is FUCKED up

anyway.. sounds like simple perfomrance anxiety.. sounds like it was rushed.. and you oculdn't really take your time. it can cause us to sort of "get nervous" when that happens

[Anonymous]

Probably just nerves. It happens.