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Why couldn’t I make him finish last night?

Me and my boyfriend always have good sex when we see each other like I make him finish within minutes. However we haven’t seen each other like in 10 days and he kept on asking me to come over and he misses me and how he really wants to fuck me. So I went over yesterday I wasn’t really well myself. We started having sex and after the bed was wet when we’re done. Then we started to have it again and he kept on saying how he couldn’t finish, (but he still got hard every time) so he wanted to keep trying. I’m confused didn’t he finish the first time we did it as the bed was wet? So then I tried everything to finish him and we started having loads of sex but nothing happened. I then asked him “don’t u want me anymore?” And he was like “I do want you and like you.” He was then telling me how he’s on medication for allergies that’s why it’s hard for him (should I believe him) And said he wants me to stay with him forever. I then wanted to go home as I felt sick and he waited for me for long until my bus came. He then made sure I got on the right bus. He normally messages me after to see if I’m home or even calls me. I then texted him instead saying that I’m home, he then said “are u okay?” I was like “nah I feel really sick.”
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Also how did the bed get wet wet after if he didn’t finish?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Men are not machines, some times things don't do what we want them to do, that's normal. If he is stressed (like being sick) or on medication that can mess with you (I've not had the issue for medicine but every body reacts differently so entirely reasonable). He clearly is attracted to you or he wouldn't have begged you to come over so he could have sex with you (that's kind of crazy for you to think that him being erect and having a lot of sex with you is equal to not being attracted to you and not wanting you, that's literally the exact opposite idea to take away from the situation).

  • He clearly cares about you. Sometimes men have trouble ejaculating from a variety of causes: medication side effects, stress, illness, etc. I'd treat this as an isolated incident. Same thing for occasional ED. When you feel better, go back in some sexy lingerie and stiletto pumps and tell him to have his way with you and get him to go all caveman on you. I"m betting he'll cum like a house afire.

    • Today he hasn’t even called or anything to see how I am I don't know. Ngl tho we don’t always talk on the phone but I’m just wondering why he hasn’t bothered calling today to see how I am.

    • Some guys are unconscious and need to be taught to reach out like you describe.

Most Helpful Girl

  • There are lots of reasons this could have happened but the main thing to bear in mind is that sex won't be perfect every time.
    One thing that can stop a guy performing is stress and anxiety. Maybe because he hasn't seen you for a while he was worried about getting it right and it made him nervous.
    On the plus side he stayed hard so hopefully you had a good evening riding him. If you did, tell him. I'd it's stress related don't make it more stressful.

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  • Here's the thing; normally the guy has to try not to come, so when the tables get flipped it can go south quickly.

    It doesn't mean he's not attracted to you, it could even be that he was just a tad too effective at stopping himself early into the session.

    Stress becomes a factor, too. By the time you're worrying about it, he's already noticed it's not happening, but doesn't want yo admit it. Stress then makes it all that much more difficult; and when you add "don't you want me anymore" I guarantee his brain fried.

    Women seem to think it's a comment on them, but sometimes it just won't happen. In regards to him not being talkative afterwards, part of it will be shame and embarrassment, part of it will be him worrying about that "don't you want me" commentary - he's probably worried you'll leave, or that a repeat failure will make you leave.

    I know from experience, although slightly different, that "don't you want me" really messes with my mind. In my case, it was because we didn't have sex, rather than because I didn't finish.

  • I think he took Viagra or some sex pill to be hard like that. He wanted to impress you but that mess him up for his orgasm.

  • Medication, stress, over-excitement, trying too hard. All of those can cause difficulties in reaching climax.

    • Update: Could be many reasons; Sweat, precum, your juices. Of course there's the possibility that he edged himself earlier, which could've granted him only half the feeling so he didn't notice.

  • Medication can certainly cause some dysfunction, so I take that as a legit reason. If you weren't feeling well, that could put a damper on his performance. Just because the bed is wet doesn't mean he finished. Sex is suppose to be messy.

    • I don’t get how the bed got wet then? 🙈 I’m just new to all this 😂

    • The bed got wet because you were turned on.

    • There's always that tell-tale wet spot, whether the man finishes or not.

  • I think its a mistake for any girl to take it personally if the man doesn't finish. There are a multitude of reasons for it and it is very unlikely to be because he doesn't fancy you, nor because you don't turn him on. The best thing for you to do in this situation is to help him feel at ease about it. So a) don't talk about it unless he does; b) if he raises it let him know it doesn't matter and you thought the sex was great anyway; and c) make the most of it: surely it's better than a guy who comes in 30 seconds leaving you unreleived, don't you think?

  • He had shot out his WHOLE load in your pussy in first time sex and as body needs at least a couple of time to fill prostate with cum again so his dick actually weren't able to release cum anymore even though it was hard and stiff.
    You say that he did get bed wet after sex but it could be your own fluid coming out of your pussy not cum coming out of his dick.

  • he was probably watching a lot of porn during those 10 days that you guys did not see each other. porn is notorious for doing that and i'm talking from experience.

    till then I wouldn't jump the conclusion and assume he doesn't want you just because the quality of sex plummeted a little. I mean sex doesn't always equilibrate to love and I should know because I've had lots of amazing sex with women I had absolutely no feeling for.

    now if he didn't want to have sex at all that would be a totally different story.

  • It's not a big deal; sometimes we either can't or don't want to. It's fine. Doesn't mean he likes you any less or wasn't enjoying himself necessarily.

  • cuz he was tired

  • I'm guessing that he is gay and confused. He doesn't want to tell you and have it out there in the world yet

  • Not a bad rough draft..

  • I think you should talk to him but something else going on but you never going to know until you actually talk to him and see what it is it's got to be a reason why I couldn't finish and why he didn't even call you today.

  • That could have been preseminal fluid. There are plenty of medications that affect bedroom performance.

    • Also stress and sickness can prevent ejaculation

  • Yes, medication can change his ability to cum.

  • Try anal

  • such a poor dick!!

  • He could have just been tired or had a lot on his mind.

  • Yes medications sometimes cause delayed ejaculations. It’s because his body is busy fighting those allergens. You can google up delayed ejaculation. Give him time to recover completely and then all will be fine

  • You can't take it personally. I can't stress this enough. Like with you women sometimes, there are times/days where it just doesn't happen for us sometimes (just our bodies and the day, so many things can affect this, none of which have anything at all to do with you or your performance or his desire for you). But it can still be very pleasurable.

    • On update, probably precum.

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