Why couldn’t sex work?

My boyfriend and I tried having sex today. I am/was a Virgin. When we were ready to try, we were unable to get him very far inside of me. It hurt and was uncomfortable and after trying a few times we stopped because it was painful for me. Can you help? How can this work?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • I lost my virginity 3 months ago an it was painful for me too. The first few times we couldn’t get in far at all because it was so painful for me and too tight, but we just kept slowly trying over the course of a month an one day it just went in. Use lube... can’t stress that enough. Don’t just rely on your natural lubrication for the first while. Just keep slowly trying and make sure he’s being gentle and patient with you and it’ll all be fine.

    • So it’s better now? Did you find a certain position easier? I didn’t want to have to be patient hahah

  • Some positions/angles are always painful, regardless of whether it's your first time or hundredth. You might've also not been adequately lubricated so maybe try out a different position while using some more lube next time.

    • What position would you recommend?

Most Helpful Guys

  • It will hurt for the first time. You might find it more uncomfortable because of worrying about hurting so much... But some things you can do to reduce the pain is more foreplay... Kissing each other, oral get as wet as it's gets down then. Your boyfriend instead of poking again and again should committee to it... Put it in you in one stock... Better then hurting you again and again. If you are still confused you can PM me.

    • He was upset because he knew he was hurting me

    • It's gonna hurt for the first time... It's something you and your boyfriend have to except and decide how you gonna handle it. As a partner he should comfort you that's it's not gonna hurt much... You know what I mean.

  • i hope he didn't just shove it in, he should play with your vagina for a while with fingers, help you get wet so it can lube your vagina, remember friction and tightness dont work together, and try changing positions and try other positions, that can also help

    • There was a lot of foreplay. What position would you recommend (

    • I've heard doggystyle is best to lose your virginity in but i think girls have different vaginas so if yours is built a certain way, it might hurt more, you'll probably have to figure this one out yourself missy

    • explore and see which is best for you

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  • My SO told me the pain was like "the cut of a razor" (sorry don't mean to scare you)... we were both virgins.

    After I "broke" her virginity, we had sex 6 more times that day. And then continue 3 to 4 times daily thereafter.

    I was glad she took the pain and endured through and we had a great sex life since.

    (Hope this experience of mine gives you some encouragement to lose it once and for all. Have fun!)

  • I heard using lots of lube is essential

    • as well as foreplay

    • We had the foreplay but no lube. I’ll try that next time. Thanks

    • . np’

  • Yeah, get married, then have sex.
    You've got the cart before the horse.

  • Sorry, but your first time will likely hurt some. It sounds like your hymen is still intact and until it stretches or tears, he's not going in. His penis stretching or tearing your hymen will probably be at least uncomfortable and possibly painful. Make sure you are well lubricated and emotionally ready when he does go in. Take your time and enjoy the intimacy. Rushing it will likely make it more painful than it needs to be.

  • You'll probably need to go it slow, using toys to stretch you open until you can fit him in you, but even when you think you're ready he needs to be super gentle

    • He was gentle. Thankfully he loves me and wants me to be okay. We will try again 🤷🏽‍♀️

    • so, huge cock, very gentle, loves you, sounds like a keeper

    • He is the best. Definitely a keeper. And another reason I want our sex life to work out because I want to make sure he feels good 🤷🏽‍♀️

  • Try relaxing and lube...

  • I'll be right over. :)

  • It hurts when your hymen breaks.

  • It’s likely you were not aroused enough or producing enough lubrication. Also your hymen may be intact or partially intact and causing some of the discomfort

    • Oh I was ready 😂

    • I’m that case your hymen might be the issue

  • That's normal It's your first time it will hurt

    • It REALLY hurt 😂

    • Message me it's important