Why did he come inside me? Is he trying to get me pregnant?

[Anonymous]

So we have been friends for the past 2 years on and off on Facebook, we go to the same university and just a few days ago he finally asked me out on a date. I agreed to go straight away because we always fancied each other but we were both in a relationship before. So I went out on a date with him and this is the first time that I actually met him and he took out for dinner and then he asked me to stay with him in the hotel. We had sex the whole night about 3 times and the third time he came inside my pussy. He did ask me if I was on the pill and I said yes. We did not use any protection that night and for me its strange because this is the first time we met and how could he trust me so much not to use protection and then come inside my pussy? Is this based on how attractive the girl is or is it some sick way to trap me in and get me pregnant? He has a successful career and he is only 25 years old, so why would he do that? How could he be sure that I am actually on the pill? We have a few mutual acquaintances and I was wondering is it because we both know some people from university?

[MrOracle]

He basically is an idiot. I can't even say that he got caught up in the moment because it had unprotected sex with you 3 times. Using condoms is awful, but it's necessary if you aren't in a monogamous relationship. Obviously the potential for pregnancy is a whole additional issue, but, again, this idiot is obviously just assuming that if you got pregnant, you'd "take care of it" and he wouldn't have to worry.

At the end of the day, a pregnancy affects you far more than it does him, so YOU have to be the one to set the rules and expectations, and that needs to happen right from the beginning. If you don't do that, you can't assume that the guy will be responsible, because some guys are selfish idiots.

[Asker]

so you mean he just doesn't care whether i get pregnant or not? why would a man have unprotected sex with a woman he met for the first time in real life? is ti based on how attractive a woman is?

[MrOracle]

Maybe a little (having sex with a hot girl can certainly suppress your good sense), but it's mostly he wanted it to feel good for him, and wasn't really thinking about any long-term consequences, or assumed that he ultimately wouldn't be affected by them (the latter meaning he's an idiot).

[Asker]

so does that mean I am some slut to him thats why he doesn't use any protection and doesn't care about the consequences?

[MrOracle]

Consider the MANY pro sports athletes who have 12 kids with 9 women in a 5-year span. You'd think with so much to lose that they'd worry about things like that, but some guys just don't care - they're idiots. Which is why YOU need to protect yourself and do whatever it takes to do that, at least UNTIL the guy has proven himself to be responsible and wise.

[Asker]

I just don't understand how he feels towards me. You are trying to say that he just doesn't really care what the consequences are?

[MrOracle]

Yes, either he doesn't care, or that in his mind, any potentially negative consequences are just theoretical and he's just not willing to give them any serious consideration. Having good sex is his priority, and those other things aren't a priority for him, at least, not right now. Frankly, I'm kind of shocked that this is a new concept for you at 25 years old, because there are plenty of guys like this out there. It's not the norm by any means, but it's not super rare either. Surely some of your girlfriends have come across guys like this before. Anyway, yes, you must protect yourself and your best interests until he PROVES himself to be responsible. And that means a "no glove, no love" rule.

[pepperhicks]

I doubt he thought anything through. It was likely just an urge. Wrong and unfair to you, but practically you cannot count on a casual partner to pull out. The most you can do it insist on protection every time. No glove, no love.

[Pranoo1]

He had no such intention. You went to bed willingly on your very first date together, you told him you were on birth control when he asked you. He's been decent all the way. He trusted you to tell him the truth. You enjoyed it enough to let it happen three times. Looks like he pulled out twice, and the third time he did what any man would have done. He assumed that since you were on the pill you would be prepared to go all the way. I don't see what your issue with him is.

[yofuknutz]

Thank you tell me about it the first two times he was showing her the color of a semen that it is safe as a third time he want for it.

[Hurlyburly]

He asked if you're on the pill and you said yes, what else did you expect? Yes, it's kind of stupid not to protect yourself from possible std's but yeah...

[xoxopinkie]

Maybe he trusts you. Some people have that trustworthy face/ give that feeling. And yes, having mutual friends makes one more trustable.

[alexia18]

I would also be skeptical. . It seems he has too much to loose if something were to happen

[Asker]

so if he has too much to lose why did he do it?

[alexia18]

My dark though would be to try to trap you, but I'm not sure

[kittyluv]

Hello, he asked if you´re on birth control and you said yes. He´s not trying to get you pregnant. Got nothing to do with being attractive or not, but apparently he doesn´t think you´re lying to him.

[yofuknutz]

Because you let him

[Harlana]

Maybe he assumed U were on the pill but that is a dick move. I would be angry. Some guys make it your problem and just don’t care

[yofuknutz]

Well they don't open up your legs next time

[BillieJean1070]

Either that or he just didn't care.

[Jeniffer98]

You had sex for 3 times on first date.
Then he cummed in your pussy just because you gave him permission by saying that you are on pills.

[LOGESHKUMAR]

He is not care of the things which going to be happened in future..

[Ana929]

hmmm im not sure you will have to ask him

[Anonymous]

Honestly you both are really stupid.