Why did he dry hump me?

I cringed writing this because it’s so uncomfortable talking about so please be mature. Thank you

A few days ago I went on another date with this guy. We eventually started kissing, and intensely making out. This was our second date. He got on top of me and I it felt like he was dry humping me. If felt really nice, but I was instantly freaked out because I thought the dry humping meant he wanted to have sex so I stopped kissing. When someone dry humps you (or whatever it’s called), do they feel pleasure? Do they want sex? Mind you, we were both fully clothed. He also kept rubbing my butt and legs. He’s been very respectful and I enjoyed every second of it... I just don’t know the motives behind his conduct and actions. So my question is, when someone dry humps you, do they want to have sex with you?
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  • Well I was always under the impression Dry humping happens before people are ready to have sex.

    It’s always been natural part of making Out- for me anyhow -for Months.

    It feels good and there’s no risk. some guys can cum from it too And it gives people time to get comfortable.

    Going from hand holding to sex is a big fat NO for me. meed to be sole slow development.

    But definitely I think talk it over since we are Not in his mind. but yeah nothing wrong with dry humping in my opinion as long as you and he understand and are ok if it doesn’t go over to sex. 😊

    • Also it can be both EASILY Dry bumping can indeed mean he wants sex AND that he is not expecting nor intending sex. So you don’t have to worry if it feels like a person wants sex. It’s normal and healthy to want it. Just talk out the parameters surrounding not having sex until you guys both are ready To me dry jumping is what you do when you want sex but can’t yet lol it isn’t what you avoid hc it leads to sex. 😊

    • 😂 well I got the bumping and jumping no HUMPING haha Funny I can’t write a post saying dry humps but it bothers me not at all to write it in response to your post I get the “cringe feeling” but as an outsider for us it’s not bad 👍🏻😊

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  • It sounds like you are confused... 🤔... which must be even more confusing for your guy. Just for peace of mind all round, maybe avoid this situation for the time being. Wait until you are ready to move the relationship beyond just kissing and hand holding. You are the girl (the gate keeper)- create some boundaries.

    • Thank am a bit confused. He has expressed to me that he wants to take things very slow but this just happened. I do need it create some boundaries.

    • Thanks I*

    • You’re welcome! Just remember guys will try to push those boundaries. But you need to be strong enough to push back and stand your ground. Let them know where you ( and he) stands.

Most Helpful Guys

  • if you enjoyed why complain, you just sound like you're concerned it's more than what it is, he didn't reach under your clothes did he. You control what he can do by stopping him if he makes you feel uncomfortable.

    • You’re right thank you

  • Guys get turned on from dry humping and obviously he wanted sex

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  • I mean, he probably does, but I've always viewed dry humping as something like a "step before sex". My first boyfriend and I only dry humped for about two or three months (some fingering, too) before we had sex for the first time. We were both virgins, so it felt safe for us and we also didn't have to worry about a pregnancy scare or condoms.

    Gather up your courage and have a chat with him. But first, figure out what you want, too.

    • Love this response thank you :)

  • Yes they want sex. it’s like when you tell a little child in the store no candy so they come back with chips and say “you never said no chips though!!!”
    It’s kinda immature and frustrating

  • Yes. They want sex.

  • Usually yeah. Its to try to get into your pants.

  • They can get pleasure from it, but it usually means they want to fuck you.

  • I don't really care

    • Then don’t answer my question

    • Why You asked the question, right?

    • Yeah but I asked the question to get answers, not “I don’t really care” responses

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  • because you let him

  • He doesn't want to play a game of monopoly stupid ass

    • He wants pussy

    • He doesn’t seem like that type of person...

  • Yes. He wants to sleep with you.

  • Dry humping is having seks with your clothes on so I'm pretty sure he did wanted to have sex with you and that the dry humping was foreplay

  • He May want to but most likely not