As per experience, most of the times this has happened to me has to do with controlled, progressive ejaculation.
As I don't want to break the mood by cumming too soon, I move and perform during sex in ways that sometimes permit a bit of ejaculate to come out without reaching orgasm. This way my libido is under control for a longer performance. However, this technique can end up with me losing the erection (for example, if I'm not able to control the amount ejaculated) even though I haven't reached the orgasm.
Less often in my case, the abuse of alcohol and other substances can lead to this situation (good quality dopaminics act the opposite and retard the orgasm).
In long term relationships (wether friends with benefits or with an SO) routine is a mood killer so trying new things is a must.
Last but not least, lack of sleep, severe tireness, depression and/or anxiety can be a powerful reason for not being able to keep concentration in the sex act (that is, keep the hornyness).
In my case, I'm generally in control to I can adjust to make the necessary stimulation to both keep me hard & have enough control to keep me from ejaculating. The rare times that I was ridden I became flaccid also, not because I wasn't turned on, but because the constant stimulation I was used to wasn't there bc we have different tempo/rhythm depending on who's in control.
When he's on top, do you have the same aggression/ pace as him when he's on top, it's usually not the case.
You both will enjoy it (no matter who's on top) but it's a different type is stimulation and that would be my reason for going soft. Not that I'm turned off.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!If it's one time thing, ignore. If it keeps repeating talk with him, he as you might be conscious of it and it might be blocking him in long run.
There are multiple possible causes: erectile disfunction, stress, position causing blood to go out of penis, discomfort because of something like setting.
Yeah it just happens sometimes. Just roll with it and don't make him feel weird or bad about it. If you make a big deal out of it, it will cause him to lose confidence, if that happens then he'll start going soft a lot more due to performance anxiety.
It's never happened to me, unintentionally. I've done the tantric thing with women before and that can go either way for me. Even if I'm having difficulty getting off, as long as there's some stimulation I'll stay hard. He might have erectile dysfunction. I kinda just always assumed that means he has difficulty getting hard, but I suppose it could also mean he has difficulty staying hard. Also, it might be you, and he just said it isn't because he didn't want to hurt your feelings.
Clearly it bothers you. It will bother him more. Male ego etc... I've had it before a few times. Stress and pressure to perform are big factors. Over thinking as well.
You need to relax him and take the pressure off. Its nothing to do with finding you attractive.
Did you say something to put him off? Maybe he is under stress , maybe he got too excited , all you can do is let him try again , be bold. And funny. Challenge him not to go soft again if it does , challenge him again. Support him lady
You weren't good enough
Eek that's mean
We are not machines😥 don't overthink it and don't make him feel bad about it. Stress and worry might make it more common. We all have off days
He saw your face
such a poor dick.
Happens to me a lot. Not sure why
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