Why did my girlfriend call my penis small?

Why did my girlfriend call my penis small?

Today my girlfriend said I have a small penis and that it does not make her orgasm, but she likes the overall feeling and that the small size makes it non-intimidating. That comment shocked me. I have a 4.2 inch penis in length and circumference. Is my penis too small to satisfy a girl or did she just want to hurt my feelings?

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11 mo
I talked to her again about it as she asked why I seemed to be so down. When I told her, she said she loves me even with my small sized penis. She likes it when we fool around, however for her and for women in general she said, it is less important to climax. She said she did not say it out of spite or anything, she was just being honest. Which left me even more uncertain and confused.
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  • Okay that is an unnecessary comment for your girlfriend to make. It's pretty mean.

    Your body is exactly the way it should be. You have nothing to be ashamed of.

    Yes your size might be slightly smaller than average, but it's not extremely small. And anyways, you have no control over your body size anyway.

    And it's not just about the size. There are many different ways to satisfy a woman.

    There are more important things than just size, like being caring, attentive, and respectful.

    • Thank you for your supportive comment. Nice to hear someone with the same opinion. Could my size still be enjoyable for a women or should I satisfy her in other ways? Do you have any tips or pointers for me as my girlfriend made me completely insecure on the sexual front.

  • Because she thinks it's small.

    • Do you thinks she is right or that she just wanted to hurt my feelings?

    • 4 inches is below average but what's small for one woman isn't for another woman.

    • Would you keep on dating a guy if you found out his penis was only 4.2 inches?

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  • Well, at least she likes the feeling. Many women cannot come from penetration alone, but for example use their own fingers for clitoral stimulation at the same time. Maybe try that next time.

    However, if a bigger dick makes her come but yours does not it is possible that you are not ideally matched that way.

    • Is it common to not be a good match? Are there other ways for me to make it more satisfying for her?

    • what did she tell you... learn to eat pussy very well... i could blow you providing your pussy eating skills were good

    • @Rob19881 - I agree with @chrissykerdock. Your tongue can be very useful. Your fingers can also help and so can her own fingers. Do not think that you need to achieve this all on your own without her helping. Sex is about collaboration. You can also bring her closer to the edge with a vibrator before getting to the fucking. Anyway, we are not talking about micropenis here, either. These are the same general hints that apply to basically everyone.

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  • it's smaller than average, but that doesn't mean you can't satisfy with it.

    I think you should appreciate her being honest with you.

    • Just a bit or quite a lot smaller? Do you maybe have some tips to make it more satisfying for her?

    • The world wide average is 5.5 you're more than an inch smaller, so yes it's small, not tiny though. I personally rely on other skills like tongue and hands in addition to my member, you can take that into your considerations.

    • Do you use your fingers before, during or after piv sex?

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  • it's kind of small... you'll have to pick up your pussy eating game if you want to keep her

    • So you find it too small to or would you keep on dating a guy if you found out he had a 4.2 inch penis? She does not like to be licked, she is self-conscious and finds it sloppy. Do you have other tips to make it more enjoyable for her?

    • i wouldn't mind if you put your whole tongue in my pussy... just be willing to eat pussy for long periods of time and i'd be happy... you would get mostly blowjobs with your sized penis.

    • So you find it too small to fuck and get satisfaction? Is it because it is below average or really tiny in your opinion?

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  • Well it is a tiny thing!

    • Not just a bit below average?

    • @katiesmuff even a 747 looks tiny in the Grand Canyon

  • Sounds like it's the truth to me

    • That it is a bit below average or that it does not satisfy her?

    • Honestly, could be both. She isn't liking it because it's not enough seems to be more like it tho. To be below average is shallow and shouldn't change one's worth

    • I thought size did not matter or am I wrong?

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  • Well you obviously are dating a bitch.. cuz even if you had a small dick there is no need to ever bring that up, you can't really change it..

    • Thank you for your supportive comment. So you disagree with her and you don’t find it a small penis size?

    • Well I wouldn't go that far.. but if she fucked you then she shouldn't bring it up..

    • How would you call it (below average, small, tiny…)? Would you fuck a guy if you knew he had a 4.2 inch penis?

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  • Tell her it’s not the size of the ship it’s the motion in the ocean.

  • Because she wanted to be honest with you?

    • Correct

    • @anon1903 Nice...

    • By calling my penis too small to satisfy her? What can I do about my size? I cannot change it…

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  • this is the type of bullshit some men have to deal with and other men don't have to deal with all due to something outside of their control

  • Dump her NOW

    HOist the red flag and run

  • 4.2 when it's hard?

    • Yes when fully hard

  • At 4.2, it is smaller than average. How did she say it? Was it in anger or in fun? It may have just been a comment... you pleasured her anyway. Or she's a bitch and let you know she only wants a big dick in her pussy.

    • Is it below average or to put it plainly fairly small? We had been fooling around and I asked if my new dick moves made her orgasm.

    • @rob19881 Average is about 5.5 inches, so 4.2 is below average but not small. In my experience, most women don't orgasm from dick alone. Fingers, lips and tongue generally get her to the promised land.

  • Because she disrespects you and you should show her the door.

    What would she say if you told her her tits were too small or her ass was too big?

    • By then, if you have a Little Smokey, she may have had a reason.
      Why did my girlfriend call my penis small?

    • So you agree with her that a 4.2 inch penis is too small?

    • Naah A 400 pound silverback gorilla I said to have a whopping 3"

  • Honesty should be preferred.

    • So it is not small?

    • I am telling you that whatever your girlfriend thinks is the truth should be preferred. Do you want your partner to lie.

    • I prefer honesty in relationships. She doesn't mean to offend you, she's just making an observation.

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  • For her it might not be large enough, for others it might be fine.

    • So for some, like my girlfriend, size does matter?

    • Yeppers. An other urban myth shot to hell.

  • She was telling you the truth, no guy wants to hear he has a small penis, but it's better than her telling him a lie.

    • Is it really small? She is not just trying to hurt my feelings?

    • @rob19881 I will not get hurt over a woman/girl telling me I have a small penis, I will take with what I have and be happy, From my experience I was told I had a nice penis so who knows?

    • I always thought, until she made the comment, 4.2 inches is just below average.

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  • Test a few other girls and find out if THEY think the same :)

  • I don't think she wanted to hurt your feelings but it was a bad choice of words.

    • So you agree with her that my size is tiny (too small to satisfy a woman)? How would you have formulated it?

  • Do you do much foreplay? Other ways to make her cum other than penetration

    • We kiss and stroke each other a couple of minutes while undressing. She then quite often already starts pulling me into her as ‘she likes to have something inside of her’ as she calls it. Do you have any advice to make it more pleasurable for her?

    • Do you never go down on her?

    • She does not like to be licked.

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  • Why does it hurt your feelings? She didn't say anything insensitive or how you suck in bed.. she just said how she felt. Why is that a problem?

    • So it is not true that size does not matter? And you agree with her that a 4.2 inch penis is too small to satisfy a woman?

    • It is below average. But I can't say it's too small to satisfy a woman, because individual differences.

    • Plus foreplay matters.

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  • You under average size so small

    • Is my penis size too small for you or could you still get satisfied although it is on the smaller side?

    • For me way too small

    • What is your preference? And what size is the minimum you would consider to have sex with?

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  • Damn dude. Sorry to hear that. Might want to look into a penis sleeve?

    • Would that work? It looks quite artificial plasticky.

    • @rob19881 - talk to her about it and see if she’s in agreement 👍🙂

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