Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Why did this guy I really liked do this to me?
emilym12345 Xper 5
Okay so I met this guy I actually liked in college. Long story short he told me he was interested in me and took me out for drinks. He was texting me everyday for months. We hung out once and he asked me to blow him I said no and then he said something like we can’t have sex because I don’t have a condom. I did not say yes or no. We didn’t end up doing anything other than kissing. Then I get all of his friends adding me on snap chat trying to sleep with me being really vulgar. He had told people I would get with his friends. So I filed a police report. His friends then continued to harass me online and in public places saying I was on drugs had no job and would sleep with anyone. (I work at corporate). I could understand if he just wanted sex and was playing me or if something really balled but why get all his friends involved? Like did this guy just want me to commit suicide?
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2 37That’s super shitty of him. In all honesty he probably meant no harm to you but just wanted to make himself feel better. Anytime I’m with a girl I don’t say a word about it to my friends. That’s just nobody’s business as far as I’m concerned. I don’t know if you can do anything legally but I don’t know shit so who knows. I’m really sorry you had to deal with that. I don’t think many guys do that but I know it’s no unheard of. Really none of my buddies growing up, or even now talk about what happens behind closed doors. Just keep your distance from guys that try to impress people. Again, probably more him trying to impress his buddies rather than hurting you.
I get that but what’s with the weird rumors about me from other dudes? How’s that impressive if he supposedly banged a bitch on drugs that has no job and has been with 20 dudes?
No shortage of guys looking for something easy….. But I agree with you. That’s not something I have ever done.
Guaranteed I was a stoner back in the day. I was never per say on drugs or even really talked to that many guys
Well you look like a cute girl so I’m sure there are no shortage of guys interested. Being attractive is not always for the better.
Wow! Sorry that happened to you! Some guys are total jerks and scum
Omg that's horrible their parents doesn't raised them well so you drink with him give him number kiss him and when he is about to f u you give no response will I can give you sympathy for that
Thats very awful. He tried to harass you not only himself but through his friends too. I am sorry to hear your experience with him. He acted so quickly and in childish way
by the way how old was he?
He was 24
so he is younger than you?
I was 21 at the time
This was college
oh I got that but why are you thinking about him now?
It still really was traumatic
I am so sorry you had bad experience with him and after that you hadn't any relationship/boyfriend?
I had one relationship for like 2 weeks 3 years later but I found out I had herpes (I didn’t know) and that’s how that ended
Thats why I dont rush for relationships myself
Like did he just want me to end up hurting myself?
yep he wanted to give you mental torture
Why though? I didn’t ever actually sat that I would never have sex with him?
I know, but he was upset and frustrated with rejection He hadn't any patience
Over sex? Can’t you just hire a professional to do that? If you need it that bad? Then why text someone for like 6 months not even mentioning sex and telling me that you were interested in me and all this bullshit. And if I just rejected him for sex why the he’ll would someone even care? I was just an object to him go find another object
yep he went crazy after you said No for sex. Am I right? Also he thought it was big humiliation for him, so he tried to harass you
It was much worse humiliation for me. Ruining my reputation
Yep your honour was ruined and you still feel bad and uneasy. If you dont mind, you can follow my profile we can discuss that there :) I will try to make you feel better :)
No one likes rejection and for some people the lies are better than the truth when it comes to telling your friends about a girl. I don't understand it but some guys don't want their egos hurt and pointing fingers at the girl has his friends looking at you instead of at him... Childish games...
he wanted you for sexual pleasure nothing more
So move into the next object and have them fuck your brains out. Why cause a bid scene
He and his friends sound like psychopaths. You don’t deserve that.
A lot of people would call that harassment, Those Guys are doing that because they find you really attractive.
Try hanging out with people who are a bit quieter maybe.
Yes it is. But the stuff on Twitter was for 2 years. And the guys harassing me were calling me a drug addict whore with no job.
Like I know guys that just want sex (my friends) who are honest about it. Not telling people that they like them. And moving on to the next warm body when ever possible not taking months to circle in on someone or do weird shit with there friends.
Pretty much every single straight Guy wants sex, But you should not let them do that to you so ask your friends and/or family for help.
ask him
im glad he did
hey,
i just read your text and i'm really shocked... you met the guy and he wanted to sleep with you right away and told all his friends to add you on snapchat? and then did what you wrote? i think i don't get it at all :D ^^
He wanted me to sleep with the squad
Like did this guy hate me or something?
what please? why did you choose someone like he?
I just took a little peek at your profile picture and what can I say? You look really mega pretty - you could have anyone, couldn't you? :D
No I can’t get anyone actually
hm oh i don't know it seems very wired to me :D
yeah he just wanted sex, and when he did not get it he told his friends he did and that you were easy
He is one fucked up man, very insecure, and you should have filed that report to make him look bad
but with most situations, it is easier to make a woman look bad than the man unless you want to be as awful as him, and as far as suicide never ever ever let someone make you think in that way.
I bet every guy you dated, he was the one who pursued you and hit on you
No like I actually initiated with him kind of. Lesson learned don’t do that again
Why do you think you shouldn't do that again? A lot of women think or feel that way, they feel that dating or relationships are bound for failure or disaster if the woman makes the first move or is the initiator
He an asshole. Some people like that, when he or she can’t get what they want they will pressure it socially. If it were me, I would be go on counter offensive, listing out all his friend and posted it on social media tagged then as molester.