Why didn't my cherry pop?

[Anonymous]

When 3 my dad actually molested me and shoved his finger in me. then counting my boyfriends fingering me. But I never bleed. But last night I finally lost my virginity and still no blood?

[watashiwahanadesu]

Some don't bleed.
"Just barely inside the vaginal opening, you may see the vaginal corona, or hymen. Your corona may or may not be easily distinguishable from the rest of your vaginal opening, and that isn't always because of sex. Long ago (and still sometimes today) it was thought that the corona/hymen was "evidence" of whether or not a woman had had sexual intercourse, but that is not the case at all. Not even all people with vulvas are born with intact or easily identifiable vaginal coronas! When someone is talking about "popping a cherry," this is what they are referring to, though it's a misnomer. Your corona is usually membranes that erode somewhat over time, primarily due to hormones and vaginal discharges, but later can also wear away more due to vaginal sex if a person engages in that. When it is more intact, it rarely covers that opening completely, but has little holes and perforations in it. Even after it has been worn away or stretched, small folds of tissue remain.

During the first few times someone has intercourse or other vaginal entry, pain or bleeding can happen (though it more often does not) due to the wearing away of the corona. However, that pain or bleeding is more commonly because you had sex without being aroused enough to be properly lubricated, or did not use extra lubricant if needed. On the other hand, there are some whose vaginal coronas simply are so thick, or have such a small opening, that it is indeed painful to have intercourse or enter the vagina otherwise, and sometimes a medical procedure needs to be done to remedy that. All in all, there are many causes for or sources of sexual pain, and the corona is only one of many."

Here:
www.scarleteen.com/.../anatomy_pink_parts_female_sexual_anatomy
www.scarleteen.com/.../my_corona_the_anatomy_formerly_known_as_the_hymen_the_myths_that_surround_it

[Asker]

Thank you for the comment! Helps a lot !! (: But my next question is why didn't it hurt for the first time, it sorta did when it reached to the end but other than that it didn't hurt.

[Anonymous]

some girls don't bleed but it could be because of what your father did. when I was younger my brother raped me and when i had sex nothing happened either so I thought it was normal.

[Asker]

Yeah, my boyfriend was pretty upset because he thought I lied about me being a virgin. I don't know if I should tell him what happened or if it's just normal.

[Asker]

I'm sorry that happened to you though. :(

[Opinion Owner]

nah don't be sorry it's not your fault. tell your boyfriend what happened he should understand and then feel bad about thnking you would lie

[Asker]

Alright thanks. And It's hard not to! I know it isn't anyone's fault but the guy but no one deserves that. Hope you are okay. :)

[Opinion Owner]

Welcome and I understand.. I'm getting to be okay.. I'm in therapy and working hard.. I'm sorry to you.. it sucks that guys or even some girls would do this to another human being.

[Anonymous]

Some don't bleed.