Why do a lot of guys cum so quick?

Most guys I dated cums within minutes, why? I am starting to not like sex. One guy cum in like under a minute.
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  • Usually lots of things combined. It's excitement (obviously lol), but caused from not only how hot you are, but if he hasn't had sex in a while, just the excitement of being with someone new, or if it's the first time you guys are having sex, all this adds to it. Plus anxiety and/or nervousness, if he's in his own head too much and not relaxed (worrying about "performance", which most guys do). In women, this often makes it harder for you to orgasm, but with guys, it can be the opposite and actually cause us to orgasm quicker. But, most of the time this will improve greatly the more you have sex together. Once he gets comfortable. And the best thing you can do as far as making him feel more relaxed is if he does orgasm quickly, don't make it a big deal at all (don't act upset, or even worse, say nothing). Say something like "Oh yay! I did my job well!" or something like that. Then continue! The sex doesn't have to stop! Go for round 2. Lots of things you/he can do while he recoups and once he's hard again, he'll last much longer the second time. And part of it could be age as well, younger less experienced guys will orgasm quicker also.

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  • Well when you guys do that 98 out of 100 guys are going to do that that's only because you're thinking about themselves either that or they're lazy they want to shoot their net and go to sleep can I see that's bulshit if a guy does not make it all about you then he's not worth being around just look at it as a learning tool you can tell the guys that are going to only make it about themselves in 5 minutes that you talk to them in one minute that they start touching you I would get up and I would walk out the door if I was you

Most Helpful Girls

  • Yeah, they take longer and/or get a bit more self-control as they get older. What I usually found was, if I just quickly wank them off to get rid of that quick first one, then start concentrating on the actual love-making, then the second one would usually last much longer.

  • Sometimes they get really excited. The last guy I was with wanted me to cover My face and keep my tits covered cuz It would help him last longer.

    • Or maybe he didn’t like the look of your face or tits.

    • @Oh-canada yeah dumbass. That's it.

    • That’s sad.

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  • That’s unfortunate! One of the joys of sex is taking large amounts of time to show a woman that a guy cares for her and her pleasure. It takes a guy learning his body and when he is about to ejaculate so he can not go over the edge until she is well satisfied

  • Find older men. Young guys can't really help themselves... but the good news is that they recover quick, and each time they cum it takes longer the next time.

    If your 18 to 24... try someone in their 30s. They should have their shit together by that age.

  • Same girl. Most guys cum in less than 2 minutes from my experience.

  • That's their first time. The second time will take longer, so I guess you are quitting too soon.

  • They are young and inexperienced.

  • Biologically the only reason for sex was procreation so there was no need for it to be prolonged.

    • I guess that is true

  • If you are dating guys your age, those same guys should be able to cum 3-4 times before their done for the night! If they are are doing the cum and run crap, it's because that's all they are there for. Find someone who likes to kiss for awhile and work their way to see you cum first. If you are serious about a guy and want to invest in him, try discussing it at dinner by asking him if he'd like to know how to turn you on. Don't tell him, "You cum to dam' fast!"—or something like that. You'll just insult him!

  • Even if he cums fast, it's his job to make sure you get yours too.

  • We cum quicker than girls that's just a fact really. But a good man would finish you off anyway, even after they are. Then there is just me and probably others who can cum multiple times and carry on anyway.

    • Oh good

  • Cute virgin boys

  • Selfish and horny

  • they are young and horny.

  • I have opposite problem.
    Can take 40 minutes for me to get there, especially after weed

  • I have delayed ejaculation, which means it takes an hour of masturbating at least to get off the white stuff.


    That condition is annoying and stressful combined with anxiety.

  • cause you got that bomb ass pussy.

  • Inexperience and or genetics

  • Inexperience I guess. I was the same when younger but over time I learned to control it to be a long stayer

  • this is so sad

    • Have you ever been with a "minute man"lol?

    • @Raidernation01 yes

  • This is so much easier than you think, just have them edge you or give you your fill of orgasms before you fuck.

    • I will try that

    • Good luck.

  • that would be about right you have to be strong to slow it down and have slower sex EG make love not just a quickly I like both slow and fast but I am 67 now and even my fast is slow now lol

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