Why do a lot of people say that race doesn’t matter when it comes to attraction, when it clearly does?

I know it matters, because I’m a black girl adopted by a white family. Growing up I realized that people do perceive races differently when it comes to attraction, the problem is, most people have egos and like to take advantage of others, especially when they are young, so this means that just because you would hang out with or have sex with other races, doesn’t mean you don’t (sometimes secretly) view them as different. “As long as it serves me, I don’t care” is what I feel is the attitude a lot of people have towards having sex with other races, and some people might not be consciously aware of this yet, until they become older and more mature.
I feel like this applies to 98% of people.

As for the pictures, I think most men would have an easier time having passionate sex with the white girl, as opposed to the black girl, so they find them attractive in different ways.
Why do a lot of people say that race doesn’t matter when it comes to attraction, when it clearly does?
Why do a lot of people say that race doesn’t matter when it comes to attraction, when it clearly does?
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  • Doesn't matter what race you're from there's bad people in this world that's all there is to it

    I would also say since you believe and feel the way that you do that you were brought up by very good parents

    Also say you have morals values and ethics

    I would also say you believe in yourself and you will never forget that

    No I've never read the Bible but I can tell you this that at one time all there was was the human race.

    Wasn't until other things started happening on this planet with sex and the identities that were having sex with the human race

    That's where and we had the big flood to wipe away to clean the Earth to clean everything and then God separated man and moved men far far away apart even though it was still a human race at that time there was some old goat that wanted his own race so in each place our country where these men were placed this is where race came from we're still all the human race I think you actually know that though it's good to believe in whatever you want to believe in but we are just one human race

    And as for color in race you have to remember when God made us all he did not know where we were going to live he also knew this Earth has harsh conditions harsh environments so our loving God made it so our bodies would adapt to any given situation that's how color came into play we're all the same people it's just many many thousands of years in a different environment our bodies have adapted to protect us from the weather from the environment

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  • I honestly don't care about the idea of "race". My first serious girlfriend, and eventual wife was black, Kenyan. I lived her passionately l. Of course, It didn't work out do to her infidelity, but that has nothing to dowith her "race".

    My wife now is as white as they come, German/Hungarian. I love her dearly and passionately. Nothing to do with her "race".

    Anyone will agree that there are attractive members of every "race". What you have are preferences and those are largely nurture and come from the environment you grow up in and people around you. The media also heavily influences this by what they show as attractive in movies, music videos, and commercials.

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  • I’m Asian that grew up in a white family. I am very attracted to lots of different races, especially black and Latin people. They are just so beautiful and appealing to me. I honestly feel the opposite as you. I feel like intimacy would be much more passionate with non-white partners.

    I guess it’s all in what we tell ourselves. It’s natural to worry we aren’t enough, and to justify it with generalizations. If you look for it, you’ll find it. I would start by changing your narrative to suit what you want in life.

  • It does to some, not to all. We aren’t all the same. When we say we don’t care, we mean it.

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  • You are Soo Wrong! I'm sure there are Lots of White Guys/Men that wouldn't say NO to Chocolate! 😉
    As it seems white women like black guys i can see that the "trend" is spinning towards Black Women too! 🤷‍♂️🌹

  • Race doesn't matter when it comes to attraction or sex.

  • I'm certain there are people who fetishize other races. I think they have expectations that might be based on what they are hoping for rather than what actually should be occurring in a loving relationship.

    I think there are also people who are colorblind. How you were brought up would certainly play a large role on how you view others different than yourself, and certainly how people act and portray themselves plays a role in other's opinions and expectations. Really good question, hopefully thought-provoking for those who read it.

  • Ob well Im tired and bored and annoyed by people’s stereotypes so for me they can go to hell and personally I would definitely love a thresomee with both girls 😁😇

  • I am not one of them. Beauty can be found in any ethnicity. I look at it this way. As a photographer, I change filters and settings to fit the situation. I would not see Lucy Liu, Serina Williams and Caterina Murino (each of whom I find breathtakingly beautiful) through the same "lens". Sure, I care about race. I see the variations as treats to the senses. Anyone who says "I'm color blind" is an idiot and has no objective eye for beauty.

  • I am a white guy, I tend to date mostly Hispanic women. Definitely my preference, I have no idea why? However that being said, I have dated hot white women, hot black women hot Asian women, etc as the good old saying goes there's someone for everyone in this world.

  • Interesting take on this topic, hm smart chick 🤔

    I think I get what you mean, although I do believe it depends because some people have fetishes and weither you believe it or not, even races are fetishize, if someone does treat other differently because of race (sex excluded) then it's possible that person might have a bit of a racist mindset, this topic is quite an interesting observation tho, explain more on what you mean

  • I don;t know. I was once attracted to a girl who was black. She was nice and we were friends but I started to think i wanted to date her. I did not really view her as different but I know there were guys that made comments because we hung out a lot. Looking back I dont think my parents would have been thrilled and some of my friends might have had thrir sport with me as well. I did ask her is she thought we could be boyfriend/girlfriend and I was really serious about it. She turned me down.

  • In terms of physical attraction, I of course have preferences, and they tend to sway towards white women, probably because I'm mostly white myself, so in that sense you're right, but unless I'm looking at porn, or I'm looking for a one-night stand (I wouldn't) none of that is going to matter to me.

    If I meet a person for the first time, their appearance (including race) will of course make me more receptive or wary of them depending on what past experience tell me a person with that appearance might be like as well, HOWEVER I also understand that everyone's different. We're all just people, so I try my best to never let that bias affect how I'm going to interact with that person, and when it comes to falling in love or making love with someone, how they look and what race they're from I firmly believe wouldn't matter to me.

  • I can only speak for myself. But if a black girl looking like what you show here:

    Why do a lot of people say that race doesn’t matter when it comes to attraction, when it clearly does?

    Wanted to be in a relationship with me. I wouldn't care about her skin color! She's got a hot body! If her personality is full of kindness, and fairness. I'd fall in love with her! I think the whole race thing, is matter of mind over matter. If you don't mind it won't matter. Sometimes it can take people time to get used to something. What you believe about something also effects things. I grew up in a family that is against racism. We believe in treating everyone right no matter what color of their skin. We like singers and artists, and athletes that are black. But we like people who are white too.

  • It definitely matters to most people when it comes to dating.. Most people are somewhat naturally tribal and believe that they can only relate to someone of the same "race" . It's really more of a cultural thing than a race thing.. Although some people extend it to finding physical features of only a certain "race" attractive.. But most people have been attracted to all types of "races" before.. Also Most men would probably be passionate with that "Black" woman.. LOL..

  • It does and it should

  • When it comes down to it most people are more comfortable around their own race, and tend to be attracted or prefer their own race but some people don’t care like me because I’ve been with other races besides white

  • I was married to a black woman. I'm attracted to them.

  • I can only speak for myself that it does not matter

  • Because people lie. The immense majority of the time people date and marry within their own ethnicity as that's who they tend to find attractive and connection with.

  • I'm south Asian and many of my cousins were born and raised in the west. And while they call themselves progressive (and I believe they are) I find it interesting that every single one of them is with a white person. This goes for both genders. And most of them live in the US where there are plenty of non whites, even outside of the massive south Asian American population, and not even one of them has ever dated a non white. I've never brought this up with them but I find it sus.

    Ps: of the 2 specific pics you posted, the black girl is way hotter.

  • I'm White as fuck like all races. Everyone different can't help what they like

  • I'm Asian and I'd prefer the black women

  • I think most people nowadays don’t care about race. There are some who do. I wouldn’t necessarily say because they’re racist. Maybe they’d like to keep things similar. Myself I’m Native American, so I always wanted to meet someone who was Native, preferably in my tribe. That’s because for us, I’m sure others can relate, there’s certain traditions that we uphold so if you’re w a girl who knows the traditions it’s easier. But I am w a Hispanic girl. Have been for 15 years. My first attraction was Hispanic women after Native women simply because of the tradition, the way the women are, how they’d take care of their families, etc. I was never attracted to black girls, maybe a handful but I think what made me not really like black women was the image I seen of them growing up. Angry, yelling, “ghetto,” hostile, yelling, screaming.

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