Why do bisexuals get such a hard time?

I am really curious as to why society gives bisexuals a hard time. Why is it so hard to believe that bisexuals can experience emotional, romantic, & sexual attraction to more than one gender? Also, do you think there is a double standard between bisexual men & bisexual women? Would love to hear your thoughts.
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  • i think it’s a complicated issue, I think there are 2 issues with bisexuals:

    bad reputation- there is a misconception that they are cheaters and need both sexes at all times. It’s really not the case if you talk to a bisexual about how they really feel.

    double standard - I think bi men get more of a bad rap than women. I think in general it’s perceived that a man is weak if he likes another man. Women want a strong man.
    however it’s somehow more ok that a woman is bisexual. Men generally think it’s cute/ sexy to see 2 bi women together

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  • "Anything" that's considered "abnormal" or "out of the ordinary and unusual" gets a hard time on this planet. It comes from those who don't ascribe to anything that deviates in any way, most of the time.

    I think the double standard you mentioned breaks down into categories:


    Straight men think gay men are fucked up, but lesbians or bi-sexual women are ok.
    Straight women think gay men are ok, but don't understand lesbians, bi-sexual men or bi-sexual women!
    Bi-sexual men and women think it's ALL ok, and don't understand why you wouldn't be attracted to both men or women.

    As for the other "genders", I'm not going there. LOL

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  • Perhaps it’s because when you refer to people by something so superficial as bisexuality it dehumanizes them. In your question you refer to them as bisexuals rather than bisexual people. It’s like referring to people as blacks, gays and Jews. Each term removes the humanity and reduces them to a mere feature and not as person. Remembering that they are person is the first step in helping others understand. Understanding is what it’s all about.

  • It's mainly because most people don't take them seriously when they wanna get married and drag their husbands/wives into unnecessary threesomes

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  • I don't agree with your contention that society gives bisexuals such a hard time. In this day and age where many women have experimented with other women especially among those under 25 or 30, while perhaps not yet commonplace, it is no longer rare, and it's just not that big of a deal anymore.

  • I have never experienced that as a bisexual woman, but I can believe it happens to some people.

  • Bisexual men are usually faced with more stigma, where even a bisexual woman could reject a man for being bisexual as she considers him not manly enough.

  • I don't see why bisexuals would have a hard time unless they go around telling everyone they're bisexual.

  • Because of marriage

    The idea of it

    If you're "bi", but then marry one gender, aren't you then "that orientation", forever?

    This is why, I neither like, bi's, nor marriage

  • But do they? I have not seen or experienced that personally.

  • Yes society is a bit harsh on bisexual men, on the other bisexual women are seen very attractive, so definitely there's double standards.

  • There is certainly a double standard. Bisexual and lesbian women are far more accepted and less judged that bisexual and gay men.

    I don't think anyone finds it hard to believe bisexuals can experience emotional, romantic, & sexual attraction to more than one gender. That's not the issue. In my experience they just can't be trusted. I've dated two bisexual women, and both cheated on me with other women. They both rationalized their infidelity with the excuse that "it wasn't really cheating because it wasn't with another man".

    I've decided I will never date another woman whose romantic and sexual needs I cannot satisfy completely myself as a man.

  • I don’t want bisexual women. But for some reason they want me. I just always had a bad time with them. They’re cheaters and liars. I thank god I’m with a straight woman now.