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9 mo

Why do/dont you masturbate?

Touching myself would only piss me off lol. I’m never satisfied. Its like my finger doesn't go deep enough or fast enough. And I struggle to take more than one. I can’t twist it like I want and so on. So I just don’t.

Toys are not an option because I only want the real thing so I’ve never tried a toy and likely never will. It helps that I can cum without touching myself but it frustrates me because it makes me get sleepy since i use pone/audio as a lullaby anyways.

If i was touching myself, allowing someone else to, or simply having sex, then I’m crazy energetic and like to go all day and night until it hurts to walk (otherwise Im not satisfied.) I just have to feel worn out.

So yea masturbating just isn't for me unless its someone else fingering me. But then if they finger me, I start to crave sex and thats another battle that I have to fight because I don’t like having sex early on. I know, I’m a mess lol.

But why do or don’t you masturbate? If my question gets removed for asking something so simple (as usual) then I’m willing to DM about it I guess.

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9 mo
I remember when i first started masturbating. It was like the end of 2015 or 2016 and i would just not do anything but that all day 😂 This was long before i had a job so for like 3 months, I’d hardly eat/sleep/watch tv/hang with family because I’d shut myself in my room and just go at it. Then when i would go out with people, I’d take a blanket and just be going at it to where they didn't notice 🤣... I was so horrible. I quit for good by 2017 with the exception of times I have phone sex
9 mo
Yes i think some people worded it better. I only find enjoyment in masturbating if im doing it as a request or by guidance which is probably why i can only do it in phone sex. I wouldn't enjoy masturbating for the sake of it. I can only do it with the goal of turning someone else on so that they cum. So yea i’ll continue not masturbating and i’ll just keep cumming through the powers of my mind (or until i have the right helping hand knocking at my front door)
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  • I don't. For one thing, from a religious standpoint, it is a sin. God created us, our bodies, and our sexual organs not for the purpose of pleasure, but so that a man and his wife could be intimate with each other and generate new life. Masturbation is entirely contrary to those ends.

    Though there's a lot on which I disagree with CS Lewis, he is correct when he says that masturbation "takes an appetite which, in lawful use, leads the individual out of himself to complete (and correct) his own personality in that of another (and finally in children and even grandchildren) and turns it back: sends the man back into the prison of himself, there to keep a harem of imaginary brides."

    He goes on to say that this harem "is always accessible, always subservient, calls for no sacrifices or adjustments, and can be endowed with erotic and psychological attractions which no real woman can rival. Among those shadowy brides he is always adored, always the perfect lover: no demand is made on his unselfishness, no mortification ever imposed on his vanity. In the end, they become merely the medium through which he increasingly adores himself. And it is not only the faculty of love which is thus sterilized, forced back on itself, but also the faculty of imagination."

    This holds true even from a non-religious point of view as well. That and the fact that if one does it in order to fulfill a desire, then they are ultimately controlled by said desires.

    • I've done good not masturbating despite having done it before though

    • That's awesome :-)

  • I masturbate because, even though it's not sex, it still helps to take the edge off.

    I have a crazy high sex drive, but sometimes sex just isn't an option. So, in those situations, I can either be stuck with a raging erection, that won't go away, and be extremely frustrated, or I can take care of myself.

    It will obviously never feel as good as sex, no matter what I do, but it feels good enough that it takes care of the urge, and let's me continue with my day. Edging helps make it satisfying enough to hold me over, because just a quick stroke will only leave me more frustrated than when I started

    Hell, if I didn't masturbate at least semi-regularly, I wouldn't be able to go out in public. I'd look like a pervert who's constantly hard.

    • 😂😂😂 omg that last part made me laugh so hard

    • The struggle is real 😂

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  • My answer is a little unusual I think although who knows.

    The simple answer is that I masturbate bc I am told to each time, by my fiance. He does not verbally tell me to in most cases, he usually takes my wrist and puts my hand there. He also sometimes will take my hand away from there or tell me to go faster or slower while he watches. It is a control and dominance thing for us. We do this every time we have sex, 2-3 times a week, it is when I have the majority of my orgasms.

    For a little more context, I ONLY masturbate this way, I "am not allowed" to masturbate on my own. I have not masturbated on my own in more than three years, not only is it "against the rules" but I don't have a desire to, since it happens pretty often anyway, and I'm used to only doing it while he holds me and watches now so it would be weird to do it alone. By the way all the "rules" I am talking about are things I made up and asked him to enforce I am not being mistreated :) Though I am not always in the mood when it happens, overall I really like it this way. I know I am crazy.

    • I think thats why i only do it during phone sex. I like being guided and told what to do.

    • When i was dating this one guy we did agree not to masturbate alone. We could only touch eachother in person or ourselves during phone sex. I liked that.

    • That is so cool ShelleyB! He is a fortunate guy. I've asked girls to do that and got almost 100% refusals. "That's your job" or "It'll be icky". I struck it lucky one slow Sunday morning. As I was fingering the girl from the night, her hand started drifting down from her breast. When her hand got to her belly button I picked it and plonked it on her pussy then pressed her finger in with mine following. I had in mind that I would masturbate her using her finger. But she took over in fact and my finger was superfluous in reality. It was highly instructive as she was more forceful then I would have ever been. Her technique was to stretch her vagina towards her clit and she orgasmed after about 5 of those. Might have been more but it was surprisingly quick time. Despite that I was superfluous I got really excited by this his and her fingering with both our fingers being in. Cosy. Sadly she was an extremely exploitative girl so a relationship wasn't feasible though we did have sex at interspersed intervals. Subsequently I've asked girls to put their hand on mine while I am fingering them with the objective of getting them to do some sexy back seat driving. But if I have got 5 minutes of that I have been very lucky indeed. So I hope your fiance appreciates he has a gem :) I would love to meet a girl like you. May I ask what your technique is? From watching you masturbate has your fiance learnt to finger you better? Or might you like that he does it differently to what you do? Who is best at it by the way.

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  • I mustrbate when I feel like it, thats noemally when I got a lot of time on the side
    When busy I hardly do if at all
    May beca little odd as I just can't say I got something set, some times it a few times a day some times its weeks without at all
    I will say that over all I prefer to do it when I do an online sexual online role play as part of connecting with the charcter more
    Even that been a while since I did it last

    • What was your fave character to roleplay

    • Well they all are my own originals, and I pick by mood I will say the most fun I got on Puppet Mistress, she got some real power

    • Thats it

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  • I've found it disappointingly underwhelming, and not worth the effort.

    • Maybe you are doing it wrong.

    • @Farmerboy2 Maybe? I mean, I reached an orgasm and everything, but it just wasn't very satisfying.

    • Same girl like it doesn't compare to the guys fingers

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  • But why do or don’t you masturbate? I don't get much out it either but I do it for Hubby to watch, he seems to like that.

    • I dont mind doing it for someone but i dont like to do it formyself

    • Same, I think men must get more out of it. Its more of a physical release for them. I need the emotional connection and some build up, he can just go at it and in a short time be done. Men have it so easy.

    • Even without the emotional connection, i need someone who comes across as genuine.

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  • I like when my fella Is with me or warming up before he comes home or just being dirty on thd phone

  • Sometimes just need to relieve some stress by myself, or just for a quick pick me up OR to fall asleep

    • I def did it years back as a way to relieve stress. But it ended up causing more stress and frustration because it was never enough 😂 I needed more! 🤣

    • @sirenboobzilla Yeahh!! Masturbation also helps to fall in good sleep 😴😂

    • That sounds like me

  • Don't because I would feel wrong afterward

    • I can relate

  • Why? Because I'm the best I've ever had.

    • 😂😂😂

  • It is normal, healthy, safe and it feels great!

    • True

  • Honestly it's just a bad habit/I'm addicted to the rush I get from orgasming

    • I get a rush when someone else does it to me but when i do it, i need to drown in my own juices and fall off of furniture to feel better 😂

    • ROFL I want pics of you falling off the furniture…. lol.

    • @nawtee_me as long as i land on my hand right and it pushes my finger deeper 😂

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  • I masturbate because it's part of my routine. I check out some porn for a while to get myself turned on and then jerk off before bed. Kind of calming, post orgasm, and it helps me fall asleep.

    I masturbate for the sheer pleasure of the thing in itself, usually to different fantasies that really turn me on.

  • I started when I was 11 or 12. It feels good. I don't do it much these days; it's either because we've mutually decided not to have sex or I'm on travel and occasionally get really horny in the morning or after a workout. But it feels good and the stress relief is good too.

    • Damn thats a young age to start but apparently a lot started younger

    • It was, your right. I wasn't ejaculating yet but it felt great, not gonna lie

  • to orgasm

  • I do, because is nature's call...

    and because the pull of that full moon is strong AF... lmao

    • What about the pull of gravity when seduction takes over and lures you to a warm wet place

    • that's how I became a Master Jedi... lol

    • Master Wedi lol

  • I don't mind rubbing one out once in a while, but I usually get enough nookie so I don't have the urge.

    I broke my porn addiction a few years ago. Masturbation is normal, but I rather have the real thing. If I decide to get one out I usually fantasize about my girlfriend and a role play scenario or the hottest things she said to me in past rumps.

    • I def broke my porn and masturbation addiction. As for the “getting enough nookie”, I don't know i dont get religious guilt from masturbation but i do from sex. So i always try to hold out as long as possible. I just dont like premarital sex that much

    • I don’t have sex with guys very often so I just do it myself lol 💃

    • @Jennz6 i dont do either often lol. The sex would make me feel like a bad Christian and the masturbation would leave me unsatisfied

  • I masturbate because it’s totally natural and normal. I love orgasms (who doesn’t?). I’m happily married and have sex at least weekly, but I still masturbate a coupe of time a week. In my teens it was three times a day, every day! I do it because it feels good!

    • Once i marry i better not have to ever masturbate 😂 even if im mad at him, we still fckin 😂

    • I wish for such a wife in future, when we argue we must still have sex.

    • @Abdulwahh just cause im mad at him dont mean im mad at that dick

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  • Once you got the itch it can be difficult at times to put your mind in a more productive place... sometimes it's the easiest way to just refocus.

    • Lmao the worse comparison to an itch 😂

    • Mhmm... let it go long enough without doing SOMEthing about and you might go bat shit crazy though

  • Usually cause I'm horny is why I do it.. Maybe a little depressed sometimes, and I know when I was sad I would do it too.. Gotdamn.. LOL.. When I don't do it, it's cause I have a hole to put it through.. Usually of somebody I care about.. Plus, it takes me too long to plant the big O, and I prefer to be able to do it quicker..

    • Aww dont be depressed

    • I was for a bit after my ex.. Lol.. Just little bouts of depression.. Nothing major.. I'm good now.. 😎👉👍..

    • Oh okay like how i have 1 month a year when i feel trapped with somebody lmao

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  • Used to a lot but now not so much

    • I dont blame you

  • It doesn't do anything for me. The orgasm is just eh, and 9/10 I don't even feel like it. If I want to finish, I want it to be with a partner

    • I actually squirt, I know that some girls can’t squirt?

    • Right like it doesn't work for me either cause i wanna keep going after 😂

    • Never tried, never will. I find it gross. To me sex is not only a way of showing love, but it's a religious sacrament.

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  • Why I masturbate? Difficult to answer with plain logic, because it's just instinct. I need it, and certainly the more I have no partner anymore. I do it about 5 times/week, and feel well with that, and really never felt the need to justify myself. In any case masturbation or having sex (also actually a form of mutual masturbation) is plainly very healthy and even necessary for the mind and the body.

    By the way, I like very much your testimony. Particularly the part about the years 2015 or 2016. If you did it that many times every day, it means you probably were in some depression, and that solo activity must have helped. Still, no reason to not indulge anymore at all. Seems a bit radical to me. I'd say that if you're really that quickly triggered, you should at least indulge once or two times every day.

    There is also sometimes in women a rare medical condition called "persistent genital arousal" (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Persistent_genital_arousal_disorder ), although I don't think you suffer from that disorder, but still interesting maybe for you to know. I'm genuinely interested in whatever you'd care or be willing to tell. Personal messages welcome.

    • I wasn't depressed lmao. It was my first time masturbating lol. I was slick addicted

    • Interesting. The discovery that first time for you must have been something like explosive fun to end up being addicted ;0) I've always masturbated, but never considered this an addiction. Just a need.

    • Actually, the fact that when indulging, you never seem to get enough, means you need it far more than average. Mind that doing some sports may really help.

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  • I have a person to sit and grind on so!

    • We all do. But the religious guilt makes me continue to resist

    • I am going to hell 😂

    • 😂😂😂 nahh we can always repent but sometimes i get tired of making the same mistakes lol

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