Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
The few paragraphs before the section with the questions are just precursors to the 4 questions I ask/talk about in here.
"Girls will give up a lot more looks - more than a guy will give up personality."
Looks and personality are both important to guys. Personality is a definite second though. It doesn’t even matter if the looks aren’t there first.
Looks and personality are both important to girls. Looks are a definite second though. They don’t even matter if the personality isn’t there first.
Important note: Girls will give up a lot more looks, than a guy will give up personality - making looks just a big plus, but not really necessary to girls. Mostly the guy just can’t be fat and ugly. You can see this by seeing hot girls with average looking, but cool guys all over the place.
I think guys wouldn’t use girls so much just for sex, if girls didn’t make things so complicated. Guys don’t know what girls want from them. Money? Muscles? Humor? Romance? Jerk? Every girl says she wants romance, but they all go after the jerks. So since guys don’t know what the heck girls want, they just get what they want – sex. Then sometimes they leave – why stick around? The girl doesn’t know what she wants and the guy already got what he wants.
Question #1 - Body
Girls sometimes say that the male body, when built with some nice toned muscle, can turn them on. This is not true though. Here's a couple reasons that prove girls don't get turned on by male bodies:
- When a guy sees a chick in a bikini, his initial thought is dang that's hot, and he's turned on. When a girl sees a decent-looking, shirtless guy, her initial thought is - why is his shirt off?
- George Clooney/Brad Pitt. Brad is younger, way better body, but Dot doesn't like him cause of his personality. George is older with an old man's body, but he's crazy hot.
By far, the best way to turn a girl on, is to either look into her eyes and compliment her, or gently stroke her whole body, or kiss her on the neck...basically make her feel sexy. (example: Lots of guys with average looks get hot girls. This is not rare, most guys have below-par bodies, but lots still end up with hot girls and get lovin.) So the only way they can be turning the girl on is by making her feel sexy/special/loved. Not by taking their shirt off in a sexy manner or anything.
How does this correlate to girls wanting guys?? You get horny by yourself being sexy, which makes you wanna have sex with a guy…that makes no sense. Seeing or feeling one thing makes you want something else completely different.
"The only way guys can be turning the girl on is by making her feel sexy/special/loved."
Let me tell you what it/s like for guys so you can see where I’m coming from: A guy sees a hot girl with cleavage and he gets horny and wants her. Do you see? The guy sees her and wants her. Guys can’t get turned on by seeing a cool car, having a good conversation or feeling sexy themselves. A guy needs a girl to have sex, in order to get a girl, she has to turn him on so he'll want to have sex with her.
She can’t do that by telling him he's hot, or rubbing his back, or making him feel special. Those things have nothing to do with sex.
Question #2 - Personality
Girls often say confidence, among other personality traits, turn them on. Can you just tell me how this is possible though? There are two reasons why isn't true or possible:
- Brad Pitt really complicates things and doesn't make sense. Brad is hot and confident, but some girls still don’t like him…so obviously neither of those things really do anything for girls.
- I don't see the correlation between getting turned on by personality and sex being such a physical act. Sex/sexy things are physical, so mental/emotional things can’t turn someone on. It’s like getting turned on by a car. As awesome and maybe sexy as a lambo is, it could never turn you on. Humans are a carnal/physical/lusty type of sexy; cars are just visual, and personalities are mental/emotional.
Question #3 - Girls
Almost every girl is at least bi-curious. Don't you think it's weird that girls can only get turned on if there's girls around (lesbians, straight couples, NOT guy-guy…)? They can get turned on by girl-girl action, by going to a strip club with their boyfriend or girlfriends, and almost all of them wonder what it would be like to kiss or have sex with a girl. Even if they claim they would never want to, they still at least wonder what its like (I really don't get this, because you ARE a girl, you KNOW what its like, but that's a different topic...)
"Can girls only connect in a loving, emotional way with guys?"Everyone, including girls, also say that the female body is more beautiful and sexy to look at than the male body. This is obvious from the above paragraph, plus even girl’s magazines (eg. cosmo) are full of half-naked women.
So if the female body is so sexy, and seeing a girl strip, or two girls kiss can turn a girl on…what is it about the male body that is hot? It seems like nothing. Girls can get turned on by themselves and other girls, but when it comes to a guy, usually the only thing he can do is try to make her feel sexy. Which, as I’ve discussed, doesn’t make any sense.
How come more girls don’t end up becoming bi or lez? Is it really just the fact that girls can only connect in a loving, emotional way with guys?
Question #4 - Movies/jealousy
The only thing I know for sure turns girls on is love scenes in movies. I think maybe the main reason girls ever get turned on is jealousy. They see a girl making out with someone, so they want to. So because of jealousy, girls indirectly turn other girls on.
What Girls & Guys Said
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Most women want men more than women because that is how they are wired. Sex is not at the top of their list of priorities but just a part of things whereas for men it is the key paramount and super important. It is not that women do not like sex ..it just is not their reason for living., I could go months and not think of sex but thew average man cannot go a day without thinking of it and doing something sexual. Your theory on jealousy is not on target I feel
Ha ha your last paragraph. We see a girl making out with someone, so we want too to..Because of jealousy we turn other girls on. Funny! but you are very very wrong sweetheart.....
haha dude two hot guys making out turns me on :DD
also you can also get love and support from the same sex
but your right about guys being visual but they can also be emotional too ^_^
I guess its just our biological programming, I know that I and a lot of my friends are always saying, why can't we just grow up to marry other women? it would work out so much better
there were some errors and some truths in your article I will tell you what you were correct on for me at least: yes when I see love scenes a girl has to be in it for me to enjoy it and yes 2 men making out absolutely disgusts me but I'm not turned on by two girls.Also in a way I guess you could say its jeolousy when watching those scenes cause I usually do imagine taking her place. but a man by far turns me on more than a woman ever could no girl ever makes me want to f***
You've got a lot of things there that ring true. Girls always appreciate a good-looking guy though.
And I don't get turned on by seeing lesbian action. Romantic movies/sex scenes will, in fact, turn me on. You've got that part right on the money. And yes, if I see another girl makin out with a guy, I'll wanna be in her shoes.
We like men because we are biologically programmed to be attracted to the opposite sex so we can mate and have offspring. lol End of story.
Question #1 Makes no sense. If a guy is toned I do think it's hot and all that jazz :P
Question #2 Why are you basing all of this stuff on Brad&George? Those are celebrities.. And we mean confidence like he's not afraid to say things to us that make us want him.
Question #3 Oh my god, so not true... I think two guys together is hot.. just as long as they aren't a big flabby mess.. Like abs are hot, pretty eyes are hot, bold shoulders are hot... :)
Question #4 Uhm.. No.
You're really over-thinking this. Girls are attracted to 'hot' guys and/or successful because they're more likely to protect them (or at least, they appear to be so) than some skinny pale dude. :P (PS: I dear hope other people's appeal in being not so straight is over once the taboo factor passes, I don't think I could handle competing with other women for women. *_*)
Dont get into too much detail about how it works just ask yourself why do you like girls and focus on yourself this could be very self destructive :P
DUDE what kind of question is this? Girls like people who appreciate them and give them the feeling that they are there for them. Also there's the idea of hormones it could just be because its natural? And with all due respect to women, ALL WOMEN LOVE SEX not all of them know it. What's better than a man and his natural tool? Either way you like girlsnot guys right? WHY NOT A GUY? HUH ASK URSELF. Get over girls on girls you, my friend have a lot to learn about females lol.
This is so stereotypical
Well every girl sees things differently.
Like me for example, I like both girls and guys but my friend isn't sure so I asked her out a while ago and she said she would totally be up with trying it. So we dated for like 2 months and one day she was like well I'm not sure if I'm all that into girls like I thought I would be.
So everyone has a different output. So some people are more open about it, where as others are more secretive. I just told my friends I was bi, and no one treated different
And the reason the woman's sexual response is complex is that she's in the evolutionarily contradictory position of needing sex to get what's in her genes interest (children), but also not needing sex, in that she doesn't want all the resource burden of raising her own kids. So her sexual response centers around what's in her genes interest (money, caring guys, etc). Just like guys' sexual response centers around what's in their genes interest (looks, youth, carnal acts, lack of commitment).
For guys and girls, it's all about reproduction. If you want to understand girls, just understand that they're programmed just like guys to be maximally selfish, in order to propagate their genes. What they want is money, physical protection, feeling 'safe', having a man of high status who is 'funny, witty, dresses well', for him to be monogamous, and to cheat on the side with other men who have good genes (but not let her mate know). Read the research, it's all about greed in both sexes.
Um I'm not attracted to guys so they can 'protect' me. I don't need protection. I'm attracted to hot guys because they're hot, and I don't care about 'successful'.
You're wrong about saying girls can only get turned on if there's other girls around too. In fact, I LOVE gay p*rn. I watch it more than straight p*rn. There's nothing hotter than two guys together (if they're hot). Not everyone thinks the female body is more beautiful either. I can appreciate female beauty, but the male body is perfect to me. The firmness, muscles, strength, it's amazing. The female body is all soft with weird curves, what's attractive about that? I love men.
I'm not shallow, so I'll give a guy a chance even if he isn't gorgeous with a perfect body. Personality can turn me on and make someone more attractive, but I do appreciate hot guys. A guy complimenting me doesn't do anything for me. In fact I'd be more turned on by telling him how sexy he is, and appreciating his body and his mannerisms. Yes personalities, energy, and mannerisms CAN be hot. I'm much more turned on by a dominant guy who is sure of himself than a submissive one who isn't.
You're wrong about pretty much everything. I love the male body, and get very turned on by it. I only think 'Why is his shirt off?' if he isn't attractive, doesn't have a nice body, or is old and gross. If he's HOT then my first thoughts are along the same lines of a guy's reaction to a girl in a bikini. I also find younger men more attractive generally. I don't get turned on by a guy 'making me feel sexy'.