Why do girls offer blowjobs when they have no intention of going through with it?

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I've had this happen regularly with every girl I've been with. It's almost like they enjoy getting your hopes up then knocking you down. It really gets me down for a few days every time after looking forward to it then nothing.

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Mydnite Xper 7
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That's fucked up and just plain cruel, i would never do something like that. I'm sorry you've run into this problem, but maybe you have been with the same kind of girls, maybe branch out a little bit and find the type of girl that wouldn't be cruel like that.
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- Asker
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  Thanks for the kind words. Problem is I do love her and we've been together for 4 years. This is the only problem I have with her.
- Mydnite
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  you've been together for 4 years and she's never given you a BJ?
- Asker
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  She has but she has a habit of offering or saying she will give me one then not going through with it. Like last night we were watching TV and she offered me a blowjob after the episode finished. So about half an hour later we head uo to the bedroom and she just puts her pajamas on and falls asleep.
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- Mydnite
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  Have you talked to her about this?
- Asker
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  I did a few years ago but she said I was being an asshole
- Mydnite
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  well she is being the asshole, actually. And if this is really important to you, i suggest you bring it up again and don't let her get away with calling you anything and dont leave the conversation until its resolved. If she is gonna disrespect you like that, then maybe it's time you look elsewhere. Now if this is not that big a deal and you dont wanna risk the relationship, then forget about it. but i assume if you asked this question here, it is important to you...
- Asker
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  We live together and as I say everything else is fine so it's not as easy as looking else where. But it does really bother me, if she doesn't want to do it I don't see why she would offer. Unless she expects some kind of over the top reaction from me when she offers and why I just say yes please she gets pissed off?
- Mydnite
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  I don't know what to tell you. she sounds like a headcase to me, but if you say everything else is great and you don't wanna rock the boat, then you may have to just deal with it. I think its fucked up, personally...
- Asker
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  Thanks for your help on this. I guess I will see how things go. If it's still bothering me later I may bring it up but I know it will become an argument
- Mydnite
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  if she's gonna be a child about it, then return the favor, tease her with sexual favors and then don't do them. see how she feels about it...
- Asker
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  Start a sexual war?
- Mydnite
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  Go for it! and if she leaves you, i'll give you complimentary BJ ;P
- Asker
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  Haha thanks. Although that was another blowjob offer that won't happen the sentiment was nice.
kaylaS91 Influencer
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Have you ever thought of asking this question to the girls who actually 'offer blowjobs' to you? (we don't have a hive-mind. Every girl who does that will probably do so for different reasons.)
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carpe_natem Xper 5
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wow that's harsh, i love giving blowjobs. with my boyfriend i don't even have to offer one it's just something i usually do
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- Asker
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  He's a lucky man
- carpe_natem
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  he actually says that a lot haha
RJGraveyTrain Editor
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Honestly, my assumption is that they get cold feet. It sounds good in theory, but when the time comes they're not in the mood or they freeze up.
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- Asker
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  I can understand this but we've been together for 4 years so I don't think it's nerves
- RJGraveyTrain
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  Well perhaps you ought to bring it up to her? Or, perhaps try getting her aroused and then either just whipping it out or asking for it. I know for me personally that if I try to do anything sexual when I'm not in the mood I can find it difficult, and even if I do it just for the sake of his satisfaction he can tell that I'm not into it and it ruins the experience.
- Asker
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  Yet again that I can understand but it's the problem here is that it's the girl has offered to do it. Not the guy asking or trying to get one.
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- RJGraveyTrain
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  I get that, but even offering and planning a date and time, you can't always anticipate how you'll be feeling in the moment. Don't get me wrong I don't think it's right to make promises and not follow through but I'd be a liar if I didn't say I was guilty of this once or twice. Sometimes you make promises when you're hot and bothered but then when the time comes, the appeal is lost because your mood has shifted.
- Asker
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  The time that has caused this question was last night we were watching TV and she offered me a blowjob after the episode we were watching, half an hour later the episode finishes we head up to the bedroom and she just puts her pajamas on and falls asleep. Didn't even try.
- RJGraveyTrain
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  K that's fucky.
TakeMaker Xper 6
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"Girls" do not do that, you've met some that do but generally that isn't a thing women do.
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SarahsSummer Master
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It's a Brett general statement. Have these girls all been actual girlfriends.
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- Asker
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  Yes they have
- SarahsSummer
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  I meant bit of a not Brett... Well that's just rude. Do you do other sex stuff with them and go down on them?
- Asker
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  Yes I do
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- SarahsSummer
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  unless you don't practice good hygiene I can't really wrap my head around it. Are you always clean down there?
- Asker
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  Yep I showered about an hour before and I always give it a good scrub.
- SarahsSummer
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  How long has the girl currently been your gf?
- Asker
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  Over 4 years and we live together
- SarahsSummer
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  Holy sh*t! There's something wrong here.
teawrecks Editor
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Because they're awful, awful people.
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SovereignessofVamps Influencer
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that is so funny to me for some reason.
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- Asker
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  Why is it funny?
- SovereignessofVamps
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  didn't know some girls did that. it's cute.
Kaylyne Guru
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Let me assure you, that is not how most women act.
Obviously you have been most unlucky indeed in your choice of women.
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Maxemeister Master
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I've never observed this strange phenomenon
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- Asker
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  That's because you're still young. You have all this to look forward to
Anonymous
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Maybe she was just trying to be polite lol
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Anonymous
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Fuck off with your horniness
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- Asker
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  You fuck off with your rudeness