Why do guys get mad when you say no to sex?

I feel like I should be able to choose. They always say I'm acting like a kid when its about respect. Its my body and I have the right to reserve it for guys in long term relationships, yet the girls that do say yes all the time.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • I'm actually suffering from this same issue but from women. The woman I'm dating right now (who is 3 years older than me at 21) is CONSTANTLY pressuring me to have sex and do sexual things with her even though we just started dating. It doesn't help that her friends are my coworkers and they keep trying to push me to do stuff with her. She touches me and tries to force me to touch her even though I've clearly said I'm not comfortable with it yet. I'm not sure how much longer I can put up with this.

    Don't act like it's just women who have this issue. I don't want to have sex yet either but she doesn't think I should wait for it.

  • You have a right to say no, but you are only alive and ABLE to say no because of sex happening. Double standards, sometimes we have to do things in life we aren't comfortable with. Respect is earnt, if you haven't earnt it why do you automatically think you deserve it?

    • I always say no and yea I do.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Because of rape culture. Rape culture says that women are only around for men's pleasure and when we don't do that, we're the bad guy. it is really messed up but that's why events like Take Back The Night and Slut Walk are so important. Our bodies are our bodies and no one should be able to tell anyone what they should and shouldn't do with their bodies.

    • d00d totally. men shouldn't expect shit from women:P

    • And women shouldn't expect shit from men. The only thing both men and women should expect from each other is respect.

    • im liking the equality:D

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  • You feel like you should be able to choose huh? Well you are ale to choose. You know that right? Guys who do that only want you for sex. Then they're in to the next.

  • It's perfectly fine if he shows he's frustrated from not getting any, but if he actually gets mad at you for this, that's when you know you need to dump him.

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  • Sexual frustration mainly. Some also have entitlement issues. Like guys that try to buy you with gifts and dinners and other things like that.

    Some men don't escalate physically until a woman says no. They ask a woman coldly and get a cold no. It's difficult to give you a definitive answer because girls tell men 'No' for many reasons.

  • 1. That's the way nature has made humans, to be a certain way in certain situations
    2. But not everything can be generalized, there are always exceptions - I don't get mad if she's not in a mood etc
    3. Explaining the whole situation of how and why we are different or even why we are a particular way in various things is a pretty lengthy topic :-)

    • Don't go there

    • ;-) :-D

  • If they get mad, it's because they feel a sense of entitlement to your body. What a great way to know that the dude is a douche and needs to be dropped.

  • Because their man ego has been hurt.

  • It's because they are acting like little kids, like middle school boys, the ones that always thing they are cool or something.

  • Cuz their always hornyy

  • Me horny you no horny Me MAD!
    Your body, you choose what you do with it.

  • Because blokes are rather hormonal when it comes to sex? I don't know, it's not nice to generalise.

  • Hahahah they mad cuz they can't get what they're after. Those douche are usually after ur body but when they can't get it, they get pissed and say stupid things to u and make u feel bad. When u feel bad about urself, ur more likely to give in and u did the right thing. Respect ur body and urself. Dont let those hungry wolves pressure u.

  • Maybe because you tease them up to a point where they think its obvious they're going to get to have sex with you, and you deny them at the last minute. Would you be mad if you were working and you never got paid? Kind of the same feeling

  • It's simple, they can be very selfish. Sometimes guys only think of themselves, and when they don't get their way, they have a bitch fit.