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Why do guys in a relationship watch porn?

Why do married men or men who have a girlfriend and in a long term relationship continue to watch porn, or look at photos of naked women? Or search for photos of women showing off their goodies (front and back) in yoga pants? Are they bored in the relationship? Are they looking for something better? Is their partner not good enough? I personally think it is disrespectful and a form of cheating. If your partner is ready and willing anytime then why the need to spank it to photos or videos of other women?
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  • There’s a lot of reasons. I think if you consider that cheating you’re going have a hard time finding a man. It’s hard for me to explain this to you as a female who will never know what it’s like to be a man. A majority of the time this has nothing to do w feelings emotionally. I’ve watched porn for many years even though I’ve been w the same person for almost 12 years. Has nothing to do w my love for her. Doesn’t mean I love her any less. She’s watched it a few times w me as well but not as much cause it doesn’t have the same effect on her as it does me. You’re thinking too much w your emotions. Trust me my partner isn’t w me all the time so when you’re out in public w all these women wearing spandex, I just have to look. Not stare, just a glance. A man doesn’t instantly stop looking at other women once he finds someone. Again I really can’t explain why it happens it just does. I don’t think about checking out women it just happens.

    • I respect your answer. But I have been in 2 long term relationships one for 10 years and currently in one of almost 13 years. So having a hard time finding a man definitely is not an issue. And I do know that men still glance and look at other women in public but turning your whole head or staring to long is an issue, and why do it in front of your partner? And if you feel it is ok then why hide it? Do you openly masturbate in front of her? If your answer is no then why? If you have to hide it then you shouldn’t be doing it. And if your hiding when you do it then it must feel wrong to you as well.

    • If you’re staring than that’s an issue especially if it’s done in front of your partner. As far as why you hide it, it’s not because I feel like it’s wrong but a majority of the time is men know that a girl will get her feelings hurt. As for masturbating I don’t do it in front of her but she k owns I do it cause she’s mentioned it jokingly. But she’s even said herself she can’t keep up w me sexually so me doing that is not a big deal to her. I’d have her give me head 10 times a day if she could lol I don’t find her less attractive. Sometimes I just want to blow a load in a minute or two w out going through all the physical parts of doing it together. Especially if I’m tired. I could never fully explain this to where you’d understand just as I couldn’t understand certain things you go through as a female. To a point yes but not fully.

    • So then why not masturbate to pics of her or videos that you have made together? If those get old make new ones. Why look at another woman to release yourself?

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  • Because they´ve started as single guys and they can´t get rid of it. Porn creates a habit and later an addiction most guys can´t get rid off even if they tried without external help.
    I don´t think they are bored or don´t consider their partner not good enough it´s just a habit they created being single because they are imprisoned in this habit they taken it in their relationship/marriage.
    I think the best way to get rid off it would be them being able to ask for help but it´s not helpful if they are threatened to do anything.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I'm with you, I think it's disrespectful. I think they have formed a sexual appetite for what they see on screen that the real deal just isn't enough.
    There are studies that have been done on the early ages men get hooked on porn and how porn desensitizes men from real sex. Most of these guys have already had the porn habit before they got into relationships. Some of them are addicted. This is why they still watch it when in relationships, they have developed the habit of watching and jerking.
    I do not believe every man watches porn, but I do think there are many men who do. I also, think men can stop watching porn. The problem is he'd have to want to stop. If you're not ok with your partner watching porn, you should tell your partner. But if they refuse to stop, you're going to have to stand on your standards even if that means finding a new partner.

  • Well because it’s entertainment for when they masturbate. Some men do it because their girlfriend or wife isn’t available for sex, or that their nudes or videos aren’t enough, or they want to see/watch something new or different. There’s tons of different reasons. Not every guy is the same.
    But, it’s a boundary that has to be set in the beginning of relationships. If one partner believes it’s cheating, and the other doesn’t… That can cause tension in the relationship. If you think it’s a form of cheating, you need to discuss it with your partner.

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  • meh, we both use it as a masturbation tool when either of us are not in the mood.
    I also occasionally change his phone wallpaper to some boobs.
    there's literally only an issue if you decide there is, and your expectations in a relationship should be communicated clearly on the views of that.

  • Arousing entertainment.
    Something to use when the other half is away or not available for any action.
    Some times to fill in something lacking in the relationship that is better than actually getting for real with someone else.
    Looking for ideas to spice things up.
    Possibly even some mutual fun to watch with a partner.

  • There is nothing wrong while watching porn while being in a relationship. I could care less if my husband does and honestly probably watch porn way more than he does

  • Probably they are horny and seducing their girlfriend has become more complicated than just jerking off.

  • Lol if you find that cheating hate to see what happens when they want to watch Game of Thrones.
    It's just entertainment and something to do. Also just for myself I like hentai and some weird porn that could not be done IRL so it wouldn't matter what me and my girlfriend would do because somethings just cannot be done. Oh my that means you think Hentai is cheating, that just makes 0 sense.

  • I think it offers him variety without actually ‘physically cheating’ …. He justifies his actions by thinking just that.

  • Because we can. Porn is a form of entertainment, and it often helps us relieve stress. Watching porn has nothing to do with a guy's relationship with his girl, yet many women get upset because they think it means a weakness in the sex department... it doesn't.

    • So your gonna tell me that watching porn has absolutely nothing to do with the way they look? Or the way their vajayjay looks? Or the way their body looks? I would put all the money in the world on it that you wouldn’t watch an obese woman get banged! So don’t tell me that men watch porn as a stress relief or that it has nothing to do with their woman. Any man that says they don’t watch it for the women and the way they look is a liar! Find me 1 man that can HONESTLY say that he don’t think those women are hotter than their current woman! Or 1 man that says he only watches it for the sex! Cuz I know damn well none of you men (unless it is a fetish) will watch an obese, or unattractive woman get fucked and be able to masturbate to it! You see, y’all still can’t tell the truth even behind an anonymous reply.

  • Everyone masturbates. Sometimes we need that even if our partner is willing and able 24/7 (which irl is usually not the case anyway).

    • I just watch it for the sex. But then again I’m not a guy (though I do think there are some guys who only watch it for the sex too).

  • To get ideas on things to try, or just to watch girls getting fucked.

  • Sorry but if you find porn cheating you're too immature for a relationship. And idc who that offends you're not gonna change my mind. Grow up. Porn is just a form of means to watch while masturbating for men and women alike

    • A response like that comes from immature people, and they are the ones who have cheated on someone, or haven’t had a long term relationship. Don’t deny it, it’s all in the way you said it! Being in a long term relationship is possible because of commitment, understanding, communication, and boundaries. I feel sorry for whoever your with!

    • I actually have never cheated and have a boyfriend of 10 years. And we're both happy asf in the relationship. And we both watch porn at times when we want to masturbate because we're not idiot kids who get upset at their partner for watching people have sex when it's no big deal

  • Looking for ways to spice things up but I wouldn't expect a woman getting into some of the positions used in porn.

  • because in the current state of hypergamy, we are forced to lower our standards

  • First job, it's not at all because there is an inadequacy with is there a partner. Instead it's a dopamine addiction and can cause serious problems. However, you are also right that it is cheating. Even if both people think it's fine it is actually inherently damaging to a relationship. But in order to solve it don't I think it's a personal slight against you, because it's not about whether or not you satisfy him. Instead get him therapeutic help.

  • Why do women in relationships watch rom-coms?

    • Rom-com shouldn't watched when someone is in relation

    • Lol.

    • Sorry but What is rom-com? Never heard of it and I’m 41. Then again I have been in 2 long term relationships of 10 years and currently 12 going on 13

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  • I'm guilty of this.
    I like to learn more and try new things, techniques.
    and I also want to get off when the wife or girlfriend really isn't in the mood for sex.

    • I appreciate your honesty, BUT could you watch porn and get off to an unattractive or obese woman? You can’t tell me that it has nothing to do with looks as well. It’s a preference. When you go to porn sites, you search a preference. You just don’t whack it to the very first video that it shows. You search for hot woman, or women with a plump ass, or women with big tits, etc…. What you search for is what you really want your woman to look like or wished your woman would look like. You know it’s true otherwise you would just have photos or videos of her and only her to look at while getting off.

  • I guess it keeps them from cheating

    • But it is already a form of cheating in some eyes. And if you have to watch porn to keep you from cheating then your not happy in your relationship. If you were happy then you wouldn’t even think about cheating to begin with. 🤔

    • You’re gonna have to make the rules up then have him follow it if not then he’ll have to leave

    • I don’t think watching porn is cheating it just upsets your mate but it’s not actually cheating

  • Because there are times my girlfriend is tired or she's at the University and I'm alone at home but we watch porn together too so it's ok

    • So if your watching together and then y’all have sex and she is imagining the man from the video as the one she is having sex with, that’s ok for you? Picture this: She’s got her eyes closed and your doing the deed and the whole time she’s thinking she is having sex with someone else and not you. Your not the one on her mind. 🤔

    • Yeah you might be the one physically having sex with her but not in her mind.

    • No we watch lesbian sex

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  • I have no clue. It's completely retarded to me.

  • Communication problems. Lack of aesthetics. Potential addiction. If that's your man, then talk to him. If not, then that's not your problem.

  • I watch porn because I have a higher sex drive than my partner. I would choose sex over porn any day.

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