Why do guys more than girls usually want to live out their sexual fantasies?

It seems like girls usually prefer to keep their fantasies as just fantasies. Or if they do live them out it’s just a one off thing. Whereas guys tend to want to live out their fantasies as often as possible. Why is there this difference? Or is there a difference?
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  • I dont know about that i think girls want to live out there's to. And you 100% honest if you coukd yours would you for me the reason I want to do everyone of mine is not because of the kink it's because I get a chance to please someone with passion desire naughtiness I don't like having sex the same way twice if you were to stand in front if me on a line move to the right of the line and let me slowly. Start with the way I woukd kiss you slow and soft and the way my lips would go from your lips down your neck. Is slow motion now step to the left of the line in to a fantasy and I might reach down under ur knees pick u up. So u couldvwrap your legs around my hips as I pin you to the wall and how I'm going to kiss you and talk dirty it's not the kink I wsnt you to feel it's the energy with in and once I touch ur energy with mine there is a level of me that is so very hot and intence that you might not have ever felt from a guy ok you just read this what do you feel with in x's by 100 thst where i would want to take you. Sorry hope u under stand as I'm not proof reading lol

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  • In our cultures, we raise women to be more sexually submissive as a general rule and therefore not as prone to take the lead sexually. Men are raised to be more the sexual initiators. For better or worse, I feel like men are much freer to express our sexuality physically than are women.

    All this also lines up with the basic biology: males compete, females choose.

    • Interesting

    • Well... not quite. I mean you're saying "we're raised" as though it's all just happening in a vacuum, devoid of any causation, just because, when it's not-- what do you think are the reasons *why* that is the case?

    • @Thatsamazing Culture, tradition, and mammalian biology.

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  • I think some women do want to open up their fantasies and live them, it's just that we're told we're "being bad/naughty" for doing so. Or we just don't have anyone who wants to do it with us (as well as opportunity). Society kind of still wants to try to make women seem nonsexual in some ways still? I guess? Then again, society doesn't know what it wants anyway. But some guys on the other hand are told they're allowed to talk about sexual stuff and do them if they want to. That's why they might be more open. But a guy can still be shamed for it too just as bad as a woman could be.

  • My friend has a fantasy (usually we just joke about it) that involves a trenchcoat and a whip, and a good bit of roleplay. I don't think she'd ever want to live it out, we just like to joke about it and imagine it.
    I think for girls, fantasy tends to mean "your wildest imagination" while for boys it maybe means "ideal situation". So, girls' fantasies might seem fun on paper, but not in reality, while guys just pick whatever they think would be pleasurable and slap it together into a fantasy.

    • Dont you have a sexual fantasy @KeziL

    • @arun934 not like that. the closest thing I have to a fantasy is just my ideal sexual experience, but that's like a normal thing and pretty vanilla, if I called that a fantasy to anyone they'd laugh.

    • Lol 😄 @KeziL

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  • Because men's fantasies are culturally and socially acceptable. Women's aren't.

    To explain what I mean by this: many men are into threesomes. Who actually cares if you have a threesome. It's more cool than anything else.
    Many women have rape fantasies... do I need to explain why that won't work. And yes, you could do rapeplay with you SO, but even that's not really acceptable because it's borderline.

    (There are other reasons too, but this is the one that I think applies most)

    • You raise a very interesting point

  • Clearly, the girls you know are very different from the girls I know... LOL.

  • Because finding a partner you trust enough to tell your fantasies to and never feeling judged as a woman, is hard af

    • Totally true

  • Girls are taught to repress their sexuality

    • True

  • I think it depends on how realistic the fantasy is, some of the ones female friends have told me are not quite so easy to put into place! but a lot of the male ones are pretty simple...

    • Interesting lol

    • And true

    • And you guys say we are weird... :)

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  • Hummm... I've never thought of it. I wouldn't have thought that there was a gender difference.

    • I’m not sure if there is or not. I think there is.

  • There's still that shit mentality that a woman is a whore if she does ( whatever whore means...) and a man... it's cool. That's why yeah women do live their fantasies if they have the opportunity to do so , the difference is guy tend to brag and women are not.

    • True

  • Because they have a penis and the penis gets a vote too

    • True lol

  • Because women are condition by societies that they should be proper and thought less of if they go against. I say f societies. You only live once, do you want to die thinking "what if"?

  • I think maybe there’s a stigma that if we lived out our fantasies, or possibly even talked about them, we’ll come off looking like freaky little sluts.

    • Totally true

  • Because women fantasize about things they are told they will have but should never want, whereas men fantasize about things they are told they will want but may never have.

    • Fascinating! 😊

  • Because from my experiences with women, I find that women want to be submissive and want to do whatever I want to do.

    I have asked a few women, what fantasy they want to try. The answer is the same, "whatever fantasy you want to try." Even if I prod, nope just whatever I want to do.

    So it really is more because women don't want to explore, and men have the opportunity right in front of them to explore and enjoy.
    So we do :)

    • Those are probably the same types of chicks who want us to pick the restaurant.

  • I think is cause women tend to be more close in that matter then men. They get treated unfairly as if they are hoes for doing a threesome and men are alpha for doing them. Which I totally disagree women should be more open to their fantasy cause that eradicate almost completely the chances that the women will feel incomplete in her sexual life after years of building with a family.

  • It does say something I think how both genders work... It's a mindset of being proactive vs thinking before you act. I think it's about patience and classyness. Two things come to mind. With a fresh bowl of water a dog leaps to the bowl and slobbers it up with a cat they go in cautiously and check to make sure it's safe then they gently and slowly drink the water. They only act when they know their actions were fully thought through. Next is a dangerous place or a haunted house, girls are always the first ones to say, hey guys let's go home, I don't like this. But guys are the ones to push on. Girls think where guys simply act and think later

    • I like this one 😊

    • Thank you :)

  • I think girls are worried the fantasy is better in their mind than it would be for real. Also I think a lot of ladies feel repressed and should not act on their sexual fantasies! Just my opinion

    • I agree 😊

    • Most of the time it is better in their mind than it would be for real.

    • @Jamie05rhs true

  • I doubt that is true. And personal experience form people i've met that is not true. And i think most people want to live there's more than once just weirder fantasy's are harder to get people on board.

  • Wasn't a thing for me. I always wanted 2 try mine out

    • any you haven't had fulfilled yet?

    • @ElDiablo666 many sadly

    • Would you elaborate? You can message them if you'd prefer not to tell EVERYONE.

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  • I think girls are more likely to live out their sexual fantasies, they just don't talk about it as much.

    • You may have a point there... But I still think it’s more likely to be a one off that we store in our “wank bank” for future fantasizing

    • Perhaps. I think part of the reason guys seem to "want" it more is that we have less opportunities to do so while women know they can easily find guys to indulge their fantasies whenever they want

    • Hmm. Makes sense.

  • I don't know girls seem to act out more on their fantasies from what I've seen so I'm not sure where you're getting that besides the internet. Girls who are living them are too busy living them to be writing a mytake after all, where as guys it's usually a one time thing in his life so that's story time

    • That’s the opposite of what my friend told me, but okay

    • well I'm more of a partier, and trust me, these girls are living their fantasies lol

    • I watched a girl at a party in college live out her fantasy of being eaten out while a bunch of guys jerked off and came all over her. So yeah, it defo happens.

  • Not sure to the broader question - but for me, many of mine are ones I think are best kept just as fantasies... There's only been one fantasy that I did pursue and it turned out even better than I had fantasized. But for the others, if an opportunity presented itself... maybe... but I don't think I'd pursue it.

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