Why do guys more than girls usually want to live out their sexual fantasies?

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It seems like girls usually prefer to keep their fantasies as just fantasies. Or if they do live them out it’s just a one off thing. Whereas guys tend to want to live out their fantasies as often as possible. Why is there this difference? Or is there a difference?

ohshee · Accepted Answer

I dont know about that i think girls want to live out there's to. And you 100% honest if you coukd yours would you for me the reason I want to do everyone of mine is not because of the kink it's because I get a chance to please someone with passion desire naughtiness I don't like having sex the same way twice if you were to stand in front if me on a line move to the right of the line and let me slowly. Start with the way I woukd kiss you slow and soft and the way my lips would go from your lips down your neck. Is slow motion now step to the left of the line in to a fantasy and I might reach down under ur knees pick u up. So u couldvwrap your legs around my hips as I pin you to the wall and how I'm going to kiss you and talk dirty it's not the kink I wsnt you to feel it's the energy with in and once I touch ur energy with mine there is a level of me that is so very hot and intence that you might not have ever felt from a guy ok you just read this what do you feel with in x's by 100 thst where i would want to take you. Sorry hope u under stand as I'm not proof reading lol

AustinMan · Accepted Answer

In our cultures, we raise women to be more sexually submissive as a general rule and therefore not as prone to take the lead sexually. Men are raised to be more the sexual initiators. For better or worse, I feel like men are much freer to express our sexuality physically than are women.

All this also lines up with the basic biology: males compete, females choose.

PBandJ_Nerd · Accepted Answer

I think some women do want to open up their fantasies and live them, it's just that we're told we're "being bad/naughty" for doing so. Or we just don't have anyone who wants to do it with us (as well as opportunity). Society kind of still wants to try to make women seem nonsexual in some ways still? I guess? Then again, society doesn't know what it wants anyway. But some guys on the other hand are told they're allowed to talk about sexual stuff and do them if they want to. That's why they might be more open. But a guy can still be shamed for it too just as bad as a woman could be.

KeziL · Accepted Answer

My friend has a fantasy (usually we just joke about it) that involves a trenchcoat and a whip, and a good bit of roleplay. I don't think she'd ever want to live it out, we just like to joke about it and imagine it.
I think for girls, fantasy tends to mean "your wildest imagination" while for boys it maybe means "ideal situation". So, girls' fantasies might seem fun on paper, but not in reality, while guys just pick whatever they think would be pleasurable and slap it together into a fantasy.

Yuushiro · Answer

Because men's fantasies are culturally and socially acceptable. Women's aren't.

To explain what I mean by this: many men are into threesomes. Who actually cares if you have a threesome. It's more cool than anything else.
Many women have rape fantasies... do I need to explain why that won't work. And yes, you could do rapeplay with you SO, but even that's not really acceptable because it's borderline.

(There are other reasons too, but this is the one that I think applies most)

MrOracle · Answer

Clearly, the girls you know are very different from the girls I know... LOL.

ellkell · Answer

Because finding a partner you trust enough to tell your fantasies to and never feeling judged as a woman, is hard af

Zannika02 · Answer

Girls are taught to repress their sexuality

MrHopper · Answer

I think it depends on how realistic the fantasy is, some of the ones female friends have told me are not quite so easy to put into place! but a lot of the male ones are pretty simple...

ArrowheadSW · Answer

Hummm... I've never thought of it. I wouldn't have thought that there was a gender difference.

AvaW359 · Answer

There's still that shit mentality that a woman is a whore if she does ( whatever whore means...) and a man... it's cool. That's why yeah women do live their fantasies if they have the opportunity to do so , the difference is guy tend to brag and women are not.

Tamera952 · Answer

Because they have a penis and the penis gets a vote too

raven6933 · Answer

Because women are condition by societies that they should be proper and thought less of if they go against. I say f societies. You only live once, do you want to die thinking "what if"?

Elliegirl · Answer

I think maybe there’s a stigma that if we lived out our fantasies, or possibly even talked about them, we’ll come off looking like freaky little sluts.

normalice · Answer

Because women fantasize about things they are told they will have but should never want, whereas men fantasize about things they are told they will want but may never have.

AndyOh · Answer

Because from my experiences with women, I find that women want to be submissive and want to do whatever I want to do.

I have asked a few women, what fantasy they want to try. The answer is the same, "whatever fantasy you want to try." Even if I prod, nope just whatever I want to do.

So it really is more because women don't want to explore, and men have the opportunity right in front of them to explore and enjoy.
So we do :)

shyguy070 · Answer

I think is cause women tend to be more close in that matter then men. They get treated unfairly as if they are hoes for doing a threesome and men are alpha for doing them. Which I totally disagree women should be more open to their fantasy cause that eradicate almost completely the chances that the women will feel incomplete in her sexual life after years of building with a family.

Jjpayne · Answer

It does say something I think how both genders work... It's a mindset of being proactive vs thinking before you act. I think it's about patience and classyness. Two things come to mind. With a fresh bowl of water a dog leaps to the bowl and slobbers it up with a cat they go in cautiously and check to make sure it's safe then they gently and slowly drink the water. They only act when they know their actions were fully thought through. Next is a dangerous place or a haunted house, girls are always the first ones to say, hey guys let's go home, I don't like this. But guys are the ones to push on. Girls think where guys simply act and think later

GFEDATY · Answer

I think girls are worried the fantasy is better in their mind than it would be for real. Also I think a lot of ladies feel repressed and should not act on their sexual fantasies! Just my opinion

Kaneki05 · Answer

I doubt that is true. And personal experience form people i've met that is not true. And i think most people want to live there's more than once just weirder fantasy's are harder to get people on board.

Neko911 · Answer

Wasn't a thing for me. I always wanted 2 try mine out

Bandit74 · Answer

I think girls are more likely to live out their sexual fantasies, they just don't talk about it as much.

blutwolfe · Answer

I don't know girls seem to act out more on their fantasies from what I've seen so I'm not sure where you're getting that besides the internet. Girls who are living them are too busy living them to be writing a mytake after all, where as guys it's usually a one time thing in his life so that's story time

TCredo · Answer

Not sure to the broader question - but for me, many of mine are ones I think are best kept just as fantasies... There's only been one fantasy that I did pursue and it turned out even better than I had fantasized. But for the others, if an opportunity presented itself... maybe... but I don't think I'd pursue it.

NewZion · Answer

Really? Really?

finallylettinggo · Answer

First, take a like because you have an awesome name. As for your question, i have found that many women enjoy living out their fantasies more when they feel completely comfortable with their partner where as guys go for whatever whenever as long as they find the person attractive enough.

Grond21 · Answer

Girls want to live out their romantic/relational fantasies, and guys want to live out their sexual fantasies.
If they both give each other what the other wants, then they get the best of both worlds.

One might call it, a fantasy life😉

ElDiablo666 · Answer

Bit of a generalisation. I've found its more the other way.

Thatsamazing · Answer

Because we want sex more than you and sex is more important to us than it is to you.

Nalix · Answer

Girls tend to fantasize about settings more than guys, and guys tend to fantasize more about characters, to use the story terms. There's naturally a lot of overlap, of course. That may have something to do with it.

loveslongnails · Answer

I agree with your statement "on a feeling only", because I don't have information to back it up other than anecdotal. It "seems" like guys want to live out their fantasies more often and will actively try to make them happen. My guess is that all it takes at worst, is money, in order to make it happen. For women, I think there's an emotional aspect to their fantasies which isn't present for men.

AmeerX · Answer

It is not they are able to live it out they are shamed more for this

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Because girls have fantasies about stuff that's inappropriate and wrong. Most guys' fantasies are normal (contrary to what you might assume.)

Wise4myage · Answer

I think one reason why this happens is because women are raised to think its wrong to have fantasies and its not lady like. Same thing could apply to the words horny and masturbation. Girls are raised to not talk about it or mention it.

Cellestial · Answer

I'm a guy and I think my fantasies are and will probably stay as fantasies

WowwGirl · Answer

The same reason sex is more important to them in every other aspect or situation in life. I will be nice and  say hormones.  They literally lose rational thinking

Orangeandturquoise · Answer

I don't know if that's true. Could be that guys just say it more often and don't keep the thought to themselves as often.

sweetandshyxo · Answer

I think because of pressure in society for guys to get laid

COMMODOREII · Answer

Girls want to live out their fantasies as much as guys but they are often ridiculed and embarrassed for anything that regards sex. Thats why they tend to keep it more of a secret. If they were allowed to express themselves sexually more often then you would hear more about it and maybe they will be able to live them out with willing partners. I know i would help any of my friends live out her fantasy. You only have one life after all.

bklynbadboy1 · Answer

That's not true you can tell that not true from this site girls on here are just as bad as the guys they just hide it a little better

asshole_ · Answer

Actually, it's girls who want to do that And it's because girls, really need to have hot spicy sex, in order to help getting off. It's difficult for women to orgasm, and that stuff helps them

In_Trance · Answer

I don't think there is a difference

JamesBlackDragon · Answer

I honestly don't know but I can guess fear of being called a slut from what I can tell a lot of women have rape fantasies so they wouldn't want to be judged some women want to be gang banged but it's very hard to find a partner that into letting their girlfriend or wife have that

bananathunder · Answer

because we are animals that can't control ourselves...

ronaldo75 · Answer

Female sexual fantasies are more disgusting than male sexual fantasies. For example rape, a LOT of women have rape fantasies and fantasies of degradation. I'm not going to get locked up to fulfill that type of filth.

Tstrbrainer · Answer

Don't know if there is a gender difference in that area.
But in many cultures, men are given more freedom to explore the world and is considered to be safe on their own compared to a woman.

Also men don't have to carry or feed their children like women.
So we are free birds, while women tend to be little more cautious and matured.

mrgspoter · Answer

I can only say about women lol

floorislava85 · Answer

you may mean more than you. Most girls want to I believe.

TheMeditativeOwl · Answer

Less inhibition?

Smf1989 · Answer

That's a good question

Anonymous · Answer

Usually the difference is due to male testosterone

Anonymous · Answer

Guys for the most part have a higher sexual drive than the ladies

Anonymous · Answer

Because guys are more sexual

Anonymous · Answer

that ain’t true at all girls love getting rough during sex and the most common female fantasy is to be forced fucked by a stranger so girls like to act out their fantasies
if guys had acted their fantasies third be a lot of really fucked up shit

Anonymous · Answer

Oh, I would definitely love to live out my sexual fantasies, but most guys are afraid of me, cause I'm sexually dominant.

Anonymous · Answer

Having written paired erotic fiction with many co-writers for years, I think women’s fantasy lives are at least as active as men’s. I would even put money on  more  active. It’s just that there is societal pressure on women to not be open about their sexuality in the same way that it’s OK for men. Double standards.

Anonymous · Answer

I guess guys' fantasies revolve around a girl and it covers up most of their fantasies, and it covers up most of his girl's ones too. For girls, they mostly fantasize about things with more partners, that is something hard to achieve or hard be expressed. All I can say is guys are easier to be pleased lol

by the way, you are not getting PMs, I sent you one

Anonymous · Answer

I think there is a stigma around women and fantasies, it's almost like kinks are a guy thing? My fantasy isn't bad but it's a bit odd... so I've never shared it

Anonymous · Answer

Not sure but my wife she admitted to having a fantasy I said she's not sure if she would actually want to do it or not

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