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  • Honestly both sex's do this to some degree, women play men for money and free stuff while men play women for sex. The reason why is because these types of people are selfish and don't have anymore morals.

    • This world has gotten worse instead of better just something else to stress about and cause more problems in your life just because people want to act stupid for no reason.

    • yup thats facts

  • Because they are a shitty human.

    Any person really, regarldless of gender, stringing along and using somebody, just because they really fell for you.

    • Sometimes people are not really feeling you like that it is crazy if you as a woman do one thing wrong than it is like nah the guy is leaving.

    • Feelings for somebody can and will change, but how you deal in that situation shows character. Sleeping with guys too soon really isn't a good idea. And for guys, same for jumping into relationships with women too quickly.

    • When a relationship doesn't work out it means that they weren't interested in you long time no way. Everything that a woman does wrong it makes her look like a whore no matter who is in the wrong.

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  • After reading so many Questions about "men using women", I started to wonder is it really true?

    This are my reasoning:

    1) she is the one carrying the baby.

    Cool. Don't fuck. Say no to sex until married. That's what women did pre 1922.

    Hence if she chooses to fuck, she too is responsible with the guy. It takes two to make babies.

    2) she found no pleasure in sex. No even foreplay.

    Cool. Don't fuck. Say no to sex. That's what asexual and those with no sexual desire act. It's perfectly legal.

    Hence if she chooses to fuck, even multiple times, we assume she enjoys it. So don't say he used you. You use him too.

    Hence I think let's be fair to both sexes. The feeling is mutual. There are times that guys are "not in the mood" too.

    While it's everyone's freedom to ask questions here, may I suggest minimize questions that are sexist. We're all equal. It's 2022. Not 1922.

    • Yeah men are the problem too not just the woman just because a woman wants to wait until marriage doesn't solve the problem women are seen as vulnerable so it is not like women don't get raped.

    • Indeed. And men can get hurt too. Trust me, when we get a cut, our blood is also red. Hence when you girls label us as creep, Player, etc, when we're not, we get hurt too. Hence love and hate goes both way. It takes two hands to clap.

  • Women are the gatekeepers of sex - and women very much want it that way (right?), and it would be hard to argue that changing this would be good for women, which I think most women would agree.

    When YOU are the one with the power to choose, that also means that YOU bear the responsibility of the outcomes of your poor decisions.

    Men are the gatekeepers of relationship commitments, and that means that men bear the responsibility of the outcomes of their poor decisions. If a man marries a gold-digger or a known cheater or whatever, and she takes his money or cheats on him, who would have sympathy for him? No one, that's who, because HE is the one who choose to commit to a woman who was known to be a problem.

    Likewise, when women go for bad boys - and that's primarily who women pursue and choose - then no one is surprised when they get used, and no one is going to have sympathy.

    Why do guys play women like use them for sex and don't care?

    I saved this Twitter post as a great example. This girl admits that SHE made awful choices and that they came back to bite her. At least she took ownership of the outcome of her own decisions.

    Here's the other thing: the more attractive a guy is, and the more other girls find him attractive, the MORE LIKELY he is to be a user/player/cheater and the less likely he is to want a relationship with anyone. Yet, these are the guys women choose again and again and again - and that is exactly what enabled those men to use women the way they do.

    There was a guy who created a profile on Tinder with a bunch of pics of a hot guy, and in his bio he stated that he'd been in prison for being a pedophile, and he wanted women to know that before the agreed to date him. Dozens of women had no problem agreeing to dates with him, even knowing (his fictional profile) was a pedophile. Why? Because he was hot. Guys can be murderers, wife-beaters, pedos, drug dealers, etc. and if they're attractive, plenty of women will still date them, being fully aware of the horrible things they've done. And then they're somehow shocked when things go horribly wrong.

    This happens because a lot of women (certainly not all of them, but a LOT of them) take zero responsibility for the choices they make, and even after they've been used and hurt, they STILL don't learn and go right back to pursuing the same kinds of men, because "he's so hot" and "butterflies in my stomach." What exactly do you expect guys to do about that? The hot guys will use girls because girls literally let them, and the majority of guys can do nothing about it because even if they try to warn the girls about the bad guys, the girls NEVER listen, and the bad stuff almost never happens around the other guys.

    The only person you can count on to save you from that situation is YOURSELF. Your choices have consequences, and YOU will suffer them, good or bad.

    • Yeah but is that a good excused for people to be using one another?

    • @mroracle i want to frame this answer. Well said.

    • @mark000h still isn't an excuse to be using people just because you are sorry as hell it goes both ways usual the people talking shit be the same ones in the same situation.

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  • I can't say exactly because I'm the exact opposite.

    But when a guy can pick up a girl and sleep with her that night or in a couple days, chances are he's in a buffet, and people don't get hung up on one food in a buffet. They'll take one bite to try it then move to the next thing since it's so available.

    Another thing it could be is a very strict/specific upbringing in which everyone was kept at arms' length and he didn't have permission to just feel his feelings. In that case, when things start getting mushy, he doesn't know quite how to process it.

  • Because they aren’t good people and they are brought on this earth to breed and maybe the woman they go for are naive or in love with them and they take advantage of that

    • A lot of people do wrong it is easier for them to do wrong than right.

  • Because they let those men use them, women are the gatekeepers of sex, not men.

    https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/MadonnaWhoreComplex

    • Fuck you men are responsible too y'all just do not want to take responsibility because y'all are sorry as hell. It says a lot when you all are the main ones pressuring someone to have sex with you all but sleep with someone else anyways go to be you a damn proustite if you want to use up a human being

    • You failed that keeping your legs close, now you blame men for acting like men. :)

      tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/SlutShaming

    • There is always a million and one excuses that is why I just rather stay single.

  • Sex should be a mutual pleasure. If women didn't try to trade sex for commitment, they wouldn't feel used. So get the fuck over that idea. Have sex if you want sex, and if it turns into a long term relationship, great. Mostly it doesn't.

    • I wish that men understand what it is like to be caring a child for 9 months that way they stop playing.

    • An unintended pregnancy is the fault of two people. If I weren't 100% sure you were on birth control, I would use a condom. At my age, if I were single, I would get a vasectomy.

  • It’s an ego boost for them

    • For what? that is just nasty sleeping with someone especially if you aren't attracted to them.

    • Their confidence

    • They be getting on people's nerves acting stupid.

  • They just want to get laid.

  • Your so right..

    So glad women do not use men?

  • because those men believe they cannot get a good relationship.

  • If you can get away with it, why the fuuck not? Especially the average females (4s, 5s and 6s) you can cycle through them and even cheat, they'll still stick around.

    And if you have a hot top tier b-tch (7s 8s 9s and 10s), the average chics will want to be your 'side piece'. The Average Heauxs are Cuck-Quean material and "Harem Fillers". No reason to settle for one when you can get away with having several.

  • Because they don’t see them As a valuable human being and want to empty their load. They don’t need an emotional attachment and don’t feel guilty

  • actually they do but don't show much.. and sometimes they don't

    • They don't care they leave you alone.

    • they got another opportunity to bang a girl with new kinks i guess.. but the same is done by girls too

  • I don't do that. But some do. Well I would say both the genders do

  • Because you hang about the wrong kind of guys.

  • Because that's what their fathers and their grandfathers did before them.

    It's a rough world out there, sweetheart. Not everyone is a nice person.

  • Not all guys are like that they will not care. But all guys are addicted to sex.



  • I see how you are?
    If your going to point the finger
    Point it where it needs to be pointed
    Like at the MSM and the Feminist Movement

    It's the women fault for believing
    It's alright to be pumped and dumped
    And women can have as much sex with out consequence
    As PT Barnum said"There's a sucker born every min"

  • women do it just as much if not more than guys

    • I beg to differ

  • They are players, playboys, they are cheating you for other woman because they get other woman easily

    • A boy is nothing but trouble. That is why I don't even be trying anymore.

    • I'm sorry to hear about your bad experience with that guy

    • That is why I don't even be dating because I know that it is asking for problems. So I don't even have my expectations high.

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