Why do guys say they would pull out and then don't?

I went out with a guy who said he was going to pull out before he cum but stayed in. After he just said he wanted to stay inside. I think he took advantage because he's 22 and I am young and not real experienced? Does this happen lots to girls?
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  • Maybe "took advantage" but probably not. Most guys don't wish to risk getting you pregnant. The natural human thing is to orgasm inside you, so that's the EXTREMELY strong urge! Nothing in the world feels better. But that doesn't mean he didn't have good intentions of pulling out, he just couldn't when the time came (went with the feeling, the really good strong feeling). Pulling out doesn't keep that great feeling. It can be also a timing issue, it can be really hard to judge when to (for some there's very little "warning" and time to pull out). But suggestion for the future, "pull out method" isn't a method. People can and still do get pregnant from this. Guys say this (risk it) because it feels the best. But it's no method. Even if a guy precums inside you, even though unlikely, it can even possibly get you pregnant.

  • Most men don't know how to stop orgasm and I personally am a slave to orgasm.. once I am close I am some where else so never trust a Man when it's an orgasm. He might say stuff but once he is close he is not in his real senses.

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  • If you let guys inside you bare, it’s always iffy that they’ll actually pull out. A lot of guys don’t worry about pregnancy until after they’ve cum. Relying on the pull out method requires a partner who is trustworthy enough to actually follow through and pull out. I might trust a long term boyfriend to do it but not some guy I just started seeing.

  • If you're asking this question, I assume you're doing it with guys and not using any sort of birth control.

    Let me remind you of some facts -

    Your body is designed to get pregnant

    His body is designed to make you pregnant

    Penis in Vagina = Baby Maybe !!!

    If that isn't the plan, get smart and use protection !!!

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  • That’s pretty rapey if you ask me. Did you consent to him cumming in you? Or did you say no and he did it anyways?

    • I said he could go bare if he pulled out but he didn't

    • Going bare doesn’t equal cumming inside. Did you consent to him cumming in you? Did you say “yes you can cum inside me if you want”

    • No he was supposed to pull out and cum on me

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  • I don't know if it happens to everyone but my dad warned me about it when I was much younger, he said "There are two thing never to believe, one is 'The check is in the mail' and the other one is 'Don't worry, I will pull out before I cum"

    Why do guys say they would pull out and then don't?
  • Think about it logically. The human race would likely not stand at how many ever billion if guys pulled out when they said they would. There's a biological imperative to stay in there. Maybe they had every attention of pulling out, but in the heat of the moment it just feels good. Not that I'm apologetic towards this kind of behaviour, just describing a lot of what goes on. Ultimately, guys are at different levels of consciousness and empathy. And expecting a young man, with little experience in the world to pull out when the time comes may be expecting too much or he may pay no heed to the long term consequences in the moment. It seems to happen a lot with younger men who can't control themselves. Either way, whatever a man does, it has to consensual. But an orgasm, bare, in the heat of the moment, is absolutely heavenly.

  • Guys lie all the time, all they want is their pleasure.

  • I hope you are on birth control? Why didn’t he use a condom? You are too young to be having sex.

    • 18-24 is not too young to have sex.

    • @kyleelyn199723 It is if neither of you is mature enough to prevent unwanted pregnancy or STD transmission. Are you hoping to become a single mother?

    • @slaytyb are you mature enough to realize stds are a lot more common than you think? Are you mature even to realize that they’re women my age that have taken precautions to not get pregnant? I’ve been on birth control for 5 years and have no kids. You have no right to tell a woman over 18 that she is too young to have sex

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  • Yes a lot of guys don’t care if you get pregnant because they don’t plan on sticking around anyways they just care about how good it feels to cum inside you you’re ultimately the one that can’t run from pregnancy you have to deal with it so be smarter and make them wear a condom no condom no sex no matter what respect yourself

  • Dudes will almost always try to nut in you. Don't believe them and unless you get off on getting cummed in or you want a baby then wrap that shit up

    • All the guys I have been have asked beforehand. If a guy doesn’t ask beforehand, then he is untrustworthy as a person

  • Why you pick such guys?

  • Don't get near this guy again if he breaks promises like this

  • If with girl and not using Condom she knows I'm going to fill her and both okay with that

  • I hope u are on birth control

  • I dpnt get it either id much rather pull out and give a cumshot

  • in any sense pull out is mood breaker.

    • But he said he would

    • If its for safety its very risky, if its for fun, it spoil the right moment. if only make sense if you want him to see cumming.

  • It's not that easy to pull out, especially if it's a pull out and cum on a different part of the body.

    Also instinctually when cumming he's most likely wanting to push deep into the vagina rather than pull out.

  • People say all kinds of shit, it doesn't mean anything.

    You dont let someone fuck you without protection unless you want a baby, its that simple.

  • Because they are untrustworthy

    You have the option at this point is ditch him or look for pregnancy prevention measures for next time

    That never came up in my last relationships so I've concluded that either they were on birth control, I'm impotent or they are hiding my secrecy child away from me

  • The whole pullout thing is dumb and a practice from decades back when people didn't know about anatomy or had condoms/birth control. Pre cum too have sperm at a low rate and he can ejaculate inside you. Stay on birth control or prepare to be a single mother, as guys love giving a creampie and this guy isn't a smart cookie.

    • Maybe for guys with poor control. Been pulling out for years with the same girl and no birth control nor kids.

  • This is not a dependable method of birth control or to precent STDs so, and if you guys can't compromise and what you both want, it's time end it.

  • Sounds like he's an asshole