Why do guys think partying all night long means sleeping around too?

Just because I party all night long with friends (of both genders), drink and at times smoke doesn't mean I'm into casual sex. I've only had one boyfriend in my life. I broke up because several items went missing and my parents found out he was stealing from us.

I've gotten hammered before but I don't sleep around; never did. Here is another irony; my school and college GPA was 3.6 without studying too much and I would still go to parties.

Why do guys think just because I'm into parties I'm into casual sex? A couple guys were shocked to discover my low count. They thought I was making it up. Nope. I like parties and drinks, can smoke too but not random sex.

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3 mo
I've stopped someone trying to make further moves on me. It felt disgusted even when I was drunk. I couldn't do it and that's when a man realizes I was being honest about my real low count of just 1.
3 mo
Plus I was 20 when it was my first time.
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  • It’s just a stereotype that comes with the territory, it’s the crowd you hang around. They’re involved in partying, drinking, smoking, and hookups. If you’re around that crowd, it’s assumed you do all. It’s not just sex. If you liked to party and smoke, it would be assumed you drink too, even if you don’t.

    I used to hang around the same crowd, the stereotype doesn’t fit all. I partied with people who didn’t smoke, people who didn’t drink, people who were virgins, and single one of them were stereotyped as well and people just assumed they did it all. It’s just people being people, I guess.

Most Helpful Guy

  • It's not just the drinking, smoking, and partying that is associated with casual sex. It is also what you wear and how you enhance your beauty! If you were to go in the clubs dressed as a nun or modest with no or little makeup and did all those things, I doubt most would question your low body count. If you however dress provocative and somewhat revealing, add more make-up than usual and add everything you stated, we surely will think otherwise. Even if you removed the drinking and partying, we would still think about your body count rather than GPA score. It’s just human nature of how we boys/men have been brainwashed by media, social media and porn.

Most Helpful Girl

  • usually those stuff like drinking, smoking weed or Whatever leads to immoral acts like sex. Just because you aren't doing it now doesn't mean you will not in future.

    • I see. For me it's a different case. I don't have an drive to have sex with someone I don't know nor have any actual connection with. I just like drinking and having fun with friends but not random sex.

    • Good for you but anyone else will think otherwise. Don't drink too much that will make you age a lot. I had to said it. Have a nice day.

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  • Because that is what the party lifestyle is about. If you are not into it, then do not operate within that environment.

    • But I still like dancing and drinking at parties. I like feeling somewhat like the center of attention within friends. I just have no urge for casual sex, not even drunk. I would be taking forever for sex to even happen; I'm talking about several months or maybe more and I actually need some type of connection or something.

    • Right.. you like. You want... And world should respect that and change for you? Well most party guys like all the same things with sex. So people tend to want to party and hang out with other people that like to party in the same ways they want to party. Because the things other people want, still matters and holds value to them... Even when you don't value what they want.

  • because so many are... lots of women don't have your mind and strength, quickly become sluts when drunk. that's those guys whole game... get them drunk and take advantage, and move on. oldest trick in the book.

    you are different...

  • I don't see why it matters anyway. I mean, you are going to 'party all night' if you're with anyone.. right?

    • + NOT.. doh!

    • yeah I'm always partying all night with my group of friends It's just that one man once asked what am I doing at a bar if I'm not into sex. He thought I didn't belong there.

    • People who judge generally get the wrong end of the stick

  • Their experience tells them how much easier it is to score with a party girl who is tipsy late at night.

  • i don't but some guys are thirsty.

  • Because it typically does. Alcohol lowers inhibition by depressing the cerebral cortex of the brain, which slows down the way your senses process information. In other words, people are much more likely to sleep around, when they are drinking. That tagged along with the hormonal influx of being college-aged and wanting to experiment. You're an anomaly if you haven't slept around given your choices.

  • Exceptions don't make the rule. Partying all night does mean the person is likely a whore. Not a 100% chance but very high.

  • A lot of people see those two things come hand in hand.

  • Like everyone has said, that makes you the exception to the rule. Maybe not for you but for the overwhelming majority that all goes hand in hand

  • Maybe that’s their goals at parties so they assume the same for you

    • Sadly they think just because I like parties that I'm an easy girl. They get the surprised look on their faces when I'm not into it. Another guy once asked ''Then what are you doing here, why are you at clubs and bars if you're not into sex''? He couldn't understand that I just like partying and drinking with friends, just having fun but not sex.

    • Lowk sounds like they’re easy. Sorry that happens to you a lot they shouldn’t assume

  • ... because that's what a lot of guys do :)

  • You are likely the exception that probes the rule. Many times people make judgments not at an Individual level but based on the large group and their traits. That’s one reason why.

    • by the way I have a similar story where I met someone on an app and she suggested we meet at a bar that night. After I showed up I saw her with another guy. After a while she talked to me and asked if I had come to have sex. I said no so she went with the other guy (I trucker she had also met on the app) to have sex. So that’s a case where she made the same assumptions you are asking about.

    • When a man realized I wasn't into casual sex (when I removed his hands away twice) and was really low count, he asked me '''Then why do you go clubbing, what are you doing here''? He couldn't understand that I just like partying but not random sex.

    • Yep that’s what she asked me. Why would I come and meet her at the bar if I didn’t want sex

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  • Because for many girls that's exactly what it means. Also for most guys that's exactly their goal

  • Well other guys think you could get pressured or manipulated to sleep around and drinking and smoking can’t impair your judgement and get in certain situations even though it sound you got a good head on your shoulders. Also some guys could be jelous that you won’t sleep with them.

  • It raises the chance. I wouldn’t say I think it’s going to be likely though.

  • Because it often does mean that

  • Party girls are seen as hoes, sorry but that's the truth.

  • Because plenty of weak minded people can not control themselves. And they get scared others will also have no self control.

  • Aspirational.

  • They prolly watch too much movies

    • true

    • I also believe if they do that then they may not respect you so much. To me that’s just rude behavior

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