Why do guys think they have a say on abortion?

Our bodies, our choices. Thats that.
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For those saying abortion is murder, we live in a society where we aren't charged with murder if we get one. Thinking it is murder is your views and not a fact or law. Also thats not what this is even about. Never debated abortion itself, rather than that of men having a say. The main reason I asked this is because of laws that were made in 2019 on abortion, all the lawmakers where white men.
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  • Because the fetus is his child, too.
    When a woman has an abortion, she's not killing her body, she's killing her baby's body.
    (So "it's not her body".)

    • food for thought right here

  • Because they like to stick their dks and noses where they are not needed. If he really cared that much he should have been more careful about where he nutzz.

    • You do realize it take 2 people to have a baby anytime you have sex you could get pregnant it's not just the guys job to be careful it's also the women too

    • @mattissebfan5 Yeah contrary to popular belief no matter how great the sex is a man has control over pulling out or not, I call bull. If you don't nut in there I never have to worry so most of the power lies with you.

    • Yeah I get that but I'm saying it's not entirely the guys fault yes if he finishes inside and knows she's not on birth control yeah he's fault completely but if not then it's not completely

  • Our child, our choice.

  • Because they do...
    If you went to a sperm bank, got the treatment and changed your mind after, that’s YOUR say. But when you’ve slept with a guy, let him cum inside you knowing damn well you might get pregnant then deny him the opportunity to be a father, that’s wrong.

    • Bruh you aren’t taking into account those people who get pregnant while using birth control. Or get raped. Sad excuse for a women.

    • No she's not. She spoke about a specific case. Of course rapists don't get say in their child that goes without saying but two concenting adults having unsafe sex that leads to pregnancy makes them both equally responsible and entitled go the baby's fate. Regardless who's carrying him in their belly. Abortion should be mutually accepted and so is keeping the baby

    • @Insecuregirl1760 I never said anything about rape victims or those using contraceptives...

  • well, you say it's not about the moral debate, but i think that rather misses the point.
    to be clear, i'm absolutely on your side that it should ultimately be the decision of the mother who would have to grow it inside her. but that's because i don't think the moral issue has merit.

    if i were to find out that a group in my country were murdering children, and that it was somehow legal. i wouldn't care if this group clamed to have ownership of the children and that i had no right to dictate whether they lived or not, i would campaign to have it made illegal.
    for whatever reason, be it religions, or an unconscious need to control women, they have it in their heads that not forcing a woman to birth a theoretical human, is morally
    equatable to child murder.

    so yeah this shouldn't be an issue of souls or the morals of potentiality, but it is..

  • You make it sound like you've conceived the child all by yourself. Let me guess, you won't allow the father to have a say in it, but expect him to take care of the child in every aspect, even though he clearly is not ready for it? Sounds like injustice to me.
    Newsflash: It's your body, but not only your child

    • @truthbringer. I could never be with a woman who killed her own child. If she will kill a child what else would she do?

    • @KrakenAttackin Not only that, the fact that they think they are still entitled to our resources even though we clearly aren't on the same page. Keep the child, but if I'm against that, don't expect me to play a role in supporting it.

    • @truthbringer. What you say is the truth, unfortunately women have the full power of the government behind them.

  • You are correct. It is your body and you have sole rights on what happens to it.

    The child, however, is a combination of the two of you. He should have an equal share of what happens to the fetus.

    • AGREE. BUT THE FIRST TIME I WAS WITH MY BOYFRIEND I WAS NOT REALLY SURE IF I WANTED IT OR NOT SO RIGHT AFTER I WENT TO GET THE EMERGENCY PILL PLAN B BUT 3 YEARS LATER WE

    • ARE REALLY REALLY TRYING NOW.

  • Men shouldn't have a say whenever or not you abort a baby, but men should have a say and whenever or not we have to pay/rise the child.

  • Yeah but they will get stuck with child support bills if you baby trap them. Males do not have anywhere near the same amount of options for birth control as women, its a condom or a vasectomy and both of them have their downsides. Sure female birth control options do too, but in general try not having sex with someone unless you are willing to be a parent?

  • Because its the guy’s baby you’re killing. His sperm is what fertilized the egg. It takes two to make a baby. Just because we can’t carry it doesn’t mean we aren’t capable of getting as attached or loving it as much as the mother.


    I know society pushes this notion that men don’t “feel” but we do. When I see the abortion debate men are rarely treated more than a being with a penis. We aren’t seen as human beings who care and love the life that may or may not be destroyed by its mother.


    We’re seen as dictators and control freaks that need everything their way. But we’re just as human as the mother. But nobody looks at men that way. We’re not seen as “the father” or a human being in abortion debates. We’re just “men”.

  • I definitely sympathize with a man who does not want his baby aborted but men who think they should be able to force a woman to have an abortion are vile.

    • Yes, that is more concerning then the fact man wants to keep the baby..

    • @Kirby89 definitely

  • Mostly it’s about control of female sexuality. They don’t care about the abortion, they just want to punish women for having unapproved sex. The same people are opposed to sex education and birth control. All fundamentalist sects are very strict about unmarried female behavior, whether Christian, Jewish, Islamic, or Hindu. The cult of forced births has a lot in common with witch hunters.

  • You can't just shut down the entire half of the world population on a matter that raises ethical concerns.

  • You chose to open your legs knowing the risk.

    • I don't know why someone down voted this statement. It's a simple statement of fact. It doesn't really answer the question asked, but as a stand alone, it's a fact.

  • Why do women have unprotected sex, then end a life because of their stupidity.

  • Because abortion is NOT about a woman's choice, but about the life of an innocent baby who never asked for the adults (including the woman) to be idiots and have sex in the first place. Women want to argue "my body, my choice", but your choice with your body was whether or not to have sex. Make the choice with your body to have sex and live with the consequences of making the choice with your body to have sex. Also, women should not have the power to decide an abortion because they were NOT the only ones involved in making the baby. Fathers need more rights than they have now and mothers need less. If a father wants the child and the mother does not, the baby should live. The baby cannot make their voice heard and they deserve a chance to live with the father who loves them instead of their life being terminated just because it is an inconvenience to the mother. Abortion is murder, end of story.

    • And do you feel the baby should I’ve if the mother wants it to live but the father doesn’t?

    • If they both don't want the baby then that's ok. But if they are split on the decision the man should have his say but ultimately the woman's has the final say because it is after all her body.

    • 👏👏👏

  • Because there's people out there who don't hold the same opinion as you, obviously.

    Don't ask me why, but I'm more indifferent about the whole topic.

  • I agree wholeheartedly but I would like to say as a father that having a say does not mean a final say. I believe I have a right to influence the decision within reason but ultimately it is up to the woman.. I think that is a fair balance because hey, I am a contributor in this and ultimately also responsible for it as well. However ultimately not my body not my choice.

  • Then why ask?

  • The same reason people other than the victim have a say on murder, or adults have a say on infanticide.

    I think abortion in the first two trimesters should be allowed. But people who are against abortion at a given stage actually think it’s the child’s body. For real. It’s not just some rhetorical trick.

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