Why do guys want to have sex with so many different women?

Why do guys want to have sex with so many different women vs having one person that knows all of the things that they enjoy?
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  • Evolution/Biology/Natural Selection

    You have to start by knowing that instincts take roughly 20,000 years (or 1,000 generations) to have noticeable changes, so our instincts today are heavily influenced by our environment 20,000 years ago. The massive changes in society in western civilization over the last 3-4 generations essentially have no effect on our (male OR female) instincts.

    Now realize that for most of history, there was a shortage of men. Men worked in very dangerous, life-shortening occupations, men hunted dangerous game, men went to war where they were killed wholesale, men went to sea and were lost, etc. At the same time, women on their own found it VERY difficult to survive. Women typically didn't own land or have their own money, and weren't physically built to farm crops which was extremely difficult physical labor. Women relied heavily on their children to take care of her in old age, and women without a man wouldn't have that.

    So, it was not at all unusual for men to have multiple wives and to have extra sexual encounters - this was necessary to create the next generation when there was a shortage of men. Imagine a village where all of the young/middle-age men went to battle and were nearly all killed - you might have 100 women with 3 or 4 young/middle-age men, and if those men didn't "spread their seed", that village would die out. Such things were not rare.

    Any biology class will teach you that a species only survives if it is the best at reproduction and survival - a similar competing species will wipe it out if it does either of those things better, and homo sapiens did in fact wipe out a number of other pre-human species by doing those things better. Men having a strong instinct to "spread their seed" is a big reason why.

  • That's like saying a guy should be happy with playing just one video game for the rest of his life. Even if it's their favourite game and there's piles of mods to keep it fresh and lots of content for replayability, eventually you get bored.

    Note that this isn't a perfect comparison and isn't a justification for cheating, but the underlying premise is the same.

    Both guys and girls (not all, but most) do occasionally have thoughts or fantasies towards doing it with someone new, with new interests, new kinks, etc. And for most of those people, it's just fantasy and not actually worth the drama or consequences of ruining the current relationship that you have (as that relationship is more than just about sex)

    Would I like to have sex with a bunch of different women?

    Sure.

    Would I?

    Nope.

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  • Biology, the more women we have sex with the more chance we have of making babies. Why do women seek out virile men who are successful and can support said babies even if they do not desire children? Same reason.

  • You do realize, don't you, that not all males are on a mission to spread their seed far and wide. . . right?

    • Yes I do realize that many don’t want the responsibility of children doesn’t answer the question

    • No, that is not the reason!

  • Evolutionary biology to spread seed/genes to as much of the earth as reasonably possible

    • I wish I were I guy ☹️

    • Why?

    • I could fuck a bunch of girls & not be shamed for it. Blame it on evolution

  • In a word: biology.

  • We are hardwired for it by our selfish gene.

    • Funny

  • During prehistory, due to the heinous mortality rate from war, hunting and child birth, men were wired by The Creator to need to fukk every female in sight as a reproductive strategy. Civilization has made that no longer necessary, but the thirst has never been bred out of us. Its why young men make such fools out of themselves. It's also why we stop being Bill Clinton (or Trump) after about age 30 or so and become upstanding TV dads.

    • interesting I wonder if it ever will be bred out of men over time

    • Only under oppressive government. Hitler was trying to breed obedient war fighters. Had he succeeded, he would have bred castes for different societal roles. No doubt, sexual aggression could be selected out. Warning. Racist sounding statements. But it is true. Southern plantation owners bred their own slaves after importation stopped. They selected for strength as farm animals but also passivity for easy handling, not so different from Clydesdale horses.

  • I personally don't. I've been attracted to a lot of girls, but I want the one I can teach all of my pressure points.

  • Same reason women do, it's fun mostly.
    I mean, the technically correct answer is that guys are programmed by evolution to spread their seed.

  • I'm a one woman man.
    That's all I usually get at one time anyway.

  • It's just in our design it's how we were created, we were designed to spread out and procreate, create strong offspring and as many offspring as possible with as many women as possible, it's how we've survived as a species. And it's a trait that's inherit in us to this day.

    Men have had consistent one mission since mankind went out into the world and that was to spread our seed far and wide.

    • It would be interesting to know if that trait will ever diminish a bit since we don’t necessarily need it as much bc of civilization. Ofc there’s some importance to a high libido but spreading the seed far & wide is unnecessary today.

    • I doubt it will ever diminish, women have their own variation of that same instinct the baby years in your early 20s when you start to go baby crazy and start wanting to have babies and raise children.

  • Simple a female can only get pregnant once every 9 months so to maximize the amount of your genes you spread so with one girl you can spread you genes to 320 kids if she had octoplets ever year were if you slept with as many girls as possible he could have over 100000 plus kids to maximize the spread of your genes it's hardwired into us

    • Interesting kinda sucks though. We’re already overpopulated & it makes loyalty & settling down much harder.

  • Because women like those kinds of guys. Guys that hook up, party, and cheat are often the ones women want and then they complain about it because they don't learn from their mistakes. I've seen it plenty. If they keep choosing the same kind of person over and over it is their own fault.

    • I’m 21 & I did that once. I was into this guy that hooked up with different girls. You live & you learn. Some people are subconsciously attracted to emotionally unavailable people because of something in their childhood. My dad was never around so I guess I was trying to break that cycle by keeping this guy around. I would never do it again.

    • At least you learned from the mistake. Many people don't learn from their experiences.

  • Let's make this question easier. Why do silverback gorillas want to have sex with so many female... anything? Now replace the word gorilla with man that has voting rights and can drive a car. There, that's your answer.

  • I don't think all do - I think it's a gross media exaggeration to sell you more Tinder and more dating websites.
    In a truly committed relationship, all you really need are groceries and a home, and a few nice things - they couldn't sell you all these substitutes if they didn't first encourage you to be UNHAPPY and SINGLE (and then you keep working and keep buying stuff, like a hamster)
    It's highly uneconomical from a personal perspective - not just because one rent and set of bills costs less, but because you wouldn't go out half as much (or 10% as much) once you have found your special something with someone
    The last bit of that - there is absolutely NOTHING half as motivating for a man than to be providing for his female - we're just wired like that (the amount of energy you get from simply a hint you might have found that someone special is astounding - no other source of it exists - and you do simply then aim for 'enough' (for you and her) afterwards, no more).

  • well its not that we want to have sex with lots of women but sometimes things just dont work out so no its not just the wanting of sex

    • I was referring to casual sex men that actively seek sex with various women

    • oh well for ig its a why not

  • libido

  • It's the dick. This fucking thing robs more blood than a period could ever wish! Really though, its a combination of factors too boring to explain. Women look good.

  • Because at the end of the day new pussy sounds better than old pussy

    • This hurts

    • I know it does but its the facts

  • Men have the need to pass their seed, while women have the need to bleed. It's all sexual greed.

  • It's the mystery

    • What do you mean?

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