Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health I have only had one boyfriend in my entire life and sex I felt comfortable with him. Since the start it always felt natural and comfortable no issues at all. He’s my ex boyfriend now.
I’ve been talking for a new guy online long distance for some months & he promise comitt & meet family & everything plans future with me etc, however even tho he’s not ugly& handsome , I don’t desire intamicy with him. Once he sent a pic shirtless in boxers & it took me aback& I felt confused become distant. Now again he brought up talk about me in lingierie. So I’m again taken aback & no interest.
I have a crush at job & thought of intamicy with him doesn’t scare me , I would be comfortable & want it & he even makes me wet lol.
I always had this fear how it would be difficult get a new boyfriend as I can’t have intamicy with any random boyfriend & if you have a boyfriend you need have sex. I don't know why I feel this way with sex like a phobia of it with certain men? . Can anyone help me? Or it’s just a way of me not feeling compatible and if I don’t feel comfortable then he can’t be my boyfriend?
Why do I fear sex with men help?
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What Girls & Guys Said
1 2So okay this means you don't have the sexual chemistry!
You did not like him shirtless and you don't want to wear sexy clothes for him.
Being long distance you like him more as a friend. So normal no touching just talk so of course you just realized you don't like his body!
Keep him as more a friend and just stop texting when he mentions anything about sex. No pics for him
Worst ghost him and in time find someone you have chemistry with like your ex.
Yes like I said I would not mind sex with my crush if he was my boyfriend. Some reason I feel comfortable at thought of sex with him if we were a couple but with that other guy I don't know why my body shuts down about sex. He’s not ugly. But yea no sexual chemistry I guess
Just no chemistry does it but yes that crush your body wants! Go for your crush
Lol issue is my crush hasn’t been to work for a month 😅 he’s either fired quit or taking a break and coming back any day now. We have schedule where you can work minimun 2 days a month if you wanted to.
I didn’t know sexual chemistry was a big deal. I’m sad cuz that long distance guy is the perfect boyfriend that comits but I freeze when he flirts or said that about lingerie.
It makes me feel guilty but I guess sex is a big deal in a relationship so I can’t hide from it or avoid it with that guy.
I feel guilty cuz u know family say if he commits he’s the one for you but he will want sex and I don’t want sex with him. My body don’t even get turned on and flirt back at all.
No guy commits long distance they just hide what ever they are doing with like 3 girlfriends! Hope your crush comes back!
Well he was planing visit me Christmas and spend 2 months with me here then travel back then I travel for some time over there and vise versa.
Anyways , I just never thought no sexual chemistry was a deal breaker. U truly do need it in order to have a boyfriend
You really do and need it so much more for a husband imagine that reaction ever night in bed when he wants sex!
I literally froze and ghosted him. He never made me wet or flirt back. With ex boyfriend or crush I think of sex all day and I don’t feel scared or freeze up
It feels normal. I don’t feel disgust or scared I feel turned on and want it 24/7 & happily flirt back. U can’t get any guy as a boyfriend as then my mind fast thinks of sex with that guy so it’s not easy get any guy as a boyfriend as it’ll mean u need have sex with them.
U need chemistry with guy and sexual chemistry in order for him be ur boyfriend or else he can’t be my boyfriend.
He’s not ugly at all I just I don't know y I don’t feel emotion or flirt or turned on. It’s very weird.
It doesn't seem strange that you're not ready to have sex with someone you haven't met IRL. An intimate online relationship is still not a face to face. I wouldn't say it's never going to happen, but there's a few more hoops to jump through. I would let Mr Online know sex is not a sure thing. Meet him, talk to him, see how you feel. Do not put pressure on yourself and certainly don't let him put pressure on you to have sex unless and until your feel comfortable.
You are not ready for a relationship. Don't give anyone hopes
Sex isn’t a main part of a relationship.
Why u say I’m not ready?
It's not but it is am important part of a relationship
An**
I had sex with ex boyfriend and we never met family so no sex isn’t a main part of relationship. You need meet family , spend holidays together , ex boyfriend do none of that.
Didn’t u read? I said why I have phobia of sex? With certain men I feel comfortable at thought of sex but with that other guy I don’t feel good with thought of sex it scares me why? With crush I would be comfortable with sex I don’t feel grossed out by thought of it with him