Why do I feel responsible?

So when I was 17, I basically glanced over at this guy (20m) from across the room. Ever since that, he somehow developed an interest in me and would constantly stare at me from afar. I was initially into him, but since he wouldn't approach me and wouldn't reply even when I tried talking to him, I dropped it.
However, he continued and would always stand at distance to stare at me. At parties, I'd catch him staring at me from behind the door or staring at me as I eat. Although I only saw him occasionally, this whole thing went on for 5 years and tbh I kinda got used to it.
One day he was again staring at me from a distance, and I ignored it as usual. However, despite this, he kept staring at me (or watching me rather) for a couple of minutes continuously. I then hid behind something for a few seconds, but even when I stepped out, he was still standing there at a distance, waiting for me to step out, so he could keep watching. I felt nauseous, powerless and I broke down in my car. That's when I realised it escalated to stalkerish behaviour and an unhealthy fixation.

I tried to avoid him as much as I could after that, and I was successful. It's now been 2 years since I've seen him and I recently found out that he's now engaged to another woman. However, it doesn't stop there. He uploaded his engagement pictures on fb, but coded it so that I can't see anything or know about his relationship. So basically anyone who has a fb account can see them as the photos are 'public', but I can't. I moreover found out that he still monitors my social media page.
I'm 24, and this whole think started because I glanced over at this guy in my late teens! I don't know why but I feel bad for him, like this is somehow my fault and I just want him to move on.
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Superb Opinion

  • It is not your fault. He sounds kinda pervy. Forget about him. Do you have a boyfriend/lover in your life? If so focus on him!

    • He's not, but he deffs is obsessional. I'm not in a relationship at the moment, but that's irrelevant to this problem, as I'm only concerned with whether I'm responsible for his obsession

    • You are not responsible at all.

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  • It’s not your fault. All you did was look at him. What he did from there is his responsibility and not something you could have foreseen.

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  • Not your fault at all, he's just a creep, too many if them out there.

  • Not your fault, he sounds mental