Why do I feel traumatized if I agreed to anal sex?

[Anonymous]

My ex pressured me into anal sex so much like weekly and got upset when I said no and made me feel like he would leave me if I said no. I agreed because I didn't want him to leave me and so I said yes even though I didn't want to and I said it hurt but he didn't care and didn't stop.
i agreed but I have mental health symptoms now. Why am I traumatized if it wasn't rape?
he also had aggressive painful regular sex with me and didn't stop when I was in pain
he also told me I was spoiled whenever I needed more time and attention and couldn't cum or even feel good in 5 minutes he did.
why do I feel traumatized and don't like myself and feel like a worthless object if it wasn't rape?

[thatdudeyouknew]

BECAUSE YOU SHOULDN'T BE WITH HIM. That is a seriously toxic relationship I would get out of ASAP. SEX is also a very important part in a relationship, and if your partner can't respect your boundaries and uses you as simply an object, you need to leave. ASAP. Sounds like a hostile man with no regards for your feelings or body.

[Surgence]

He still kind of raped you. He kept on going against you're wishes.

[Surgence]

Good couples should communicate and listen to each other during sex.

[reptocarl]

She could’ve stopped him Mr enabler but didn’t

[Asker]

@reptocarl well i did eventually BUt at first I was confused.

[Anonymous]

He should have stopped when you told him so. That was rape and your boyfriend is a shitty person

[virgingentleman11]

If you told him to stop because you were in pain, and he continued, it was rape, hence why you're traumatized.

[reptocarl]

Shame on you for allowing it

[Asker]

Why is It my fault? IT was my first sexual experience I was confused :(

[reptocarl]

Because no means no

[reptocarl]

Again shame on you for not sticking to your guns

[foreverbored123]

are you for real blaming the victim instead of the perpetrator?

[reptocarl]

@foreverbored123 she said no then allowed it. Why didn’t she keep her legs and butt cheeks closed? If he had left she’d be better off, right?

[Asker]

He was my husband

[reptocarl]

So what? No means no

[reptocarl]

You’d still be better off if he’d have left wouldn’t you?

[foreverbored123]

yeah, but she was in the heat of the moment. it was wrong of him for allowing it, knowing she didn´t want it. it wasn´t rape because she did agree, but it certainly makes him an awful boyfriend.

[backdoorman]

@reptocarl Dude, are you as stupid as you sound? Never mind; stupid people don't realize they're stupid.

[reptocarl]

@backdoorman she said no then allowed it. What part of that do you not understand?

[backdoorman]

She said no. What part of that do you not understand?

[Asker]

BEcause he said he would leave me I don't i difnt and I loved him Now I left him STop judging

[foreverbored123]

God, he was your husband? I´m so sorry for you <3

[reptocarl]

I’m not judging. Stop being a victim when you allowed it.

[backdoorman]

@Asker Don't listen to reptocarl. He's a reptile, not a human, and thus has the emotional intelligence of a reptile.

[hornymike6969]

you had anal sex on your first sex anal can. be good if done right. lots of girls like it

[Asker]

I don't

[Asker]

Lots don't

[thegr8lion]

Bcz it is rape