Why do I have rape fantasies?

[Anonymous]

Some girls have this duo to previous trauma, but nothing of this sort has ever happened to me.

Wtf is wrong w me :')

[MrOracle]

"Rape fantasies" (which in most cases are really domination fantasies) are the most common fantasy that women have. Women (generally - obviously there are exceptions) are hardwired to desire a strong, dominating man, because such a man can make them feel safe and secure, so the idea of such a man is very arousing. Further, many women, due to parental or religious reasons, have guilt about their sexual desires, and so the idea of being dominated and "forced" to engage in sex acts allows women to enjoy these sex acts without having to feel guilty about it, because "it wasn't her choice."

All this really means is that you are naturally submissive and desire a strong, confident, competent man in your life to lead. Feminists have tried to give that a very negative connotation, but there's nothing inherently negative about it. Yes, relationships can be abused (true of any type of relationship), but multiple studies have found that the happiest women are those in more traditional, male-led relationships. This doesn't mean that the man is a dictator or tyrant, it means he's the LEADER. Being a leader comes with some privileges, but it also comes with an equal (and sometimes greater) amount of responsibility too - responsibilities that he takes care of so that you don't have to.

What I'm saying is that there is nothing wrong with you, and nothing to feel weird or ashamed about. It just means you want a strong man.

[Anonymous]

This actually is a common female fantasy. I read that it has to do with not wanting to feel responsible for giving in to the sexual act. To be free from blame.

I don't think anything is wrong with you. And I don't think you should actually be raped. But consenting couples do play out this fantasy in a healthy way. It is a real gem to have someone you can tell them your "WTF is wrong with me" thoughts and they accept them and help you live them out if you so desire.

[laurieluvsit]

Not only are you perfectly normal, you are at the top of the charts normal... lol

The Top Ten Sexual Fantasies of All Time!

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Nothing at all.

Lots if girls have rape fantasies.

[Berethor]

It's a paraphilia.

[slatyb]

I don't know why, but it's a very common fantasy. About half of all romance novels start that way, more or less.

[Mate100]

Probably everything

[RHK36]

You just really horny I guess lol

[shanshu]

Some girls have this, not because of trauma but they like the thought feeling of someonetaking control and she likes to feel helpless.

If you do decide to do this, make sure it's with someone you trust and there is a safeword in place incase it gets too much but I doubt most guys will do this unless it's all on video confessing at the beginning that it will be a fantasycbeing acted out and who it is with.

Even if he trusted the girl

[OddBeMe]

Somehow violence and sex got entwined in your head. I would say its more common than realized. The fact you're asking about it and prob a bit ashamed means you're not sociopathic.

Thoghtcrime ain't a thing. Its ok to fantasize. Just be careful psychologically. Guys get porn addicted, like wjth drugs, needing more and more to acheive climax.

So really the only danger is to you personally.

[Luckycharms12]

It's more common than you think

[LimitedBenefits101]

Is not only you
EVERY FEMALE does have rape fantasies

[MrTaboo]

Nothing is wrong. Some like to be used and abuse "without" concent. I've fulfilled a few of these fantasies for ladies. They loved it.

[jimmy2]

You don't want that

[Mcluven]

Im also fucked up. Dont worry.

[Anonymous]

Some women have rape fantasies to feel that their desirability has the power to make men lose decency and self-control. Evolutionary studies have shown that when they are most fertile, women prefer powerful, more aggressive men; women are more likely to have rape fantasies during ovulation

[Anonymous]

When a woman talks about a rape fantasy, most often she envisions a strong, silent man who enters her life and overpowers her simply with his appearance and confidence and she submits to his will because she tells herself she has no choice. Such fantasies don't involve violence or threats of violence and are far removed from what happens during an actual sexual assault by a stranger. Does this describe your fantasy?

[Asker]

I would say they do involve all the violence, it only differs from that last situation bcs I don't have them w strangers only men Ik and I'm attracted to.

[Opinion Owner]

Okay, so the element of force removes the option for you to refuse, and it allows you to fantasize about having sex with them without actually giving your consent. Do you possibly feel guilty about having sex with someone who is not a marital partner?

[Asker]

I think w a marital partner I would still have them, they might even be stroger haha since I trust them more. I enjoy feeling like I'm in a victim type position and being used -this was the thing that I was curious to where it came from, but since reading all the replies I see it's actually really common and normal and not smtg I should try to fix

[Opinion Owner]

Remember that having a fantasy about something doesn't mean that you actually want it to happen. One of the functions of fantasies is that it allows you to experience something (in a way) and see how you would feel about it. I once fantasized about killing my ex-wife but, even though she is a demon from Hell, I still felt horribly guilty just about having the fantasy.

[Anonymous]

There is nothing wrong with you. If you Google it you will see that most women have rape fantasies. It's normal and very common. There is nothing wrong with you.