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Lately this has been concerning me a lot more these days. I guess because it seems to be that I grow less and less sexually excited. Or that maybe it takes specific women or specific things to really arouse me. But it does bother me. Some of the details in this post are personal but I'm opening up about them because maybe someone can help.
For about the last year or so I've seemed to be less and less interested in sex, even though I want to be. I've worried about all the things they talk about: am I having low testosterone? Have I reached that point where they say men's sex drive starts to decline? Is my diet bad? Etc. I don't think it's a testosterone problem because I've been to the doctor in the last some months and they never noticed anything like that, nor did the nurses when I went for labs later on and they didn't report finding anything low. The only problem the doctor said I had was low vitamin D, which she did give me a prescription for. For a minute I thought maybe that was part of the problem, but I took the vitamin D and I still had little interest in sex and wasn't easily turned on.
I have no trouble getting an erection and I do masturbate, but even that requires being in a particular mood for. I keep feeling like maybe my problem is stress or other things going on in my daily life that do give me anxiety. My work life exhausts me. I feel unhappy more often. I have little time for myself and doing anything fun or enjoyable. I feel like there's no glow in life anymore and like nothing really thrills me. I remember how the morning could feel so good, how the smell of spring could light you up, how fun and youthful life could feel. But now it's like nothing really excites me anymore. It's like there's a cloudiness in my mind.
And this has also happened to my sexual excitement. I feel like women don't really thrill me anymore, or only particular ones. And when I say women don't thrill me anymore I don't mean I'm turning gay or anything, trust me. I mean that it seems like every woman is just another one. A hot one here. A hot one there. Been there, done that. Nothing new. Even though inside I still like all these women and find them to be hot, but I can't seem to get excited about them anymore but want to. Every now and then I will see one or meet one with an incredible body, great breasts, great skin, that really does get me particularly hard, but it's not as common of an occurence as it used to be.
Partly this lack in sexual interest is also due to what I like, need, and want in a woman that I'm just not finding in many of them. And I mean character-wise. I'm at this place where my sex drive does often depend on the vibe a woman is giving me, regardless of how she looks. Even if she's the sexiest thing on the planet with huge boobs and a great body, if she's acting like a bitch, is rude, stuck up, or has poor social skills and behavior, I just get turned off. I'm not interested in any sex with women like that. One of my male co-workers was even telling me he's the same way.
But still aside from that, I should still be having all-day boners like I used to. I work in an environment where I'm exposed to many sexually attractive women on a regular basis, and yet I rarely care. It even seems like my mind is suppressing it because of all the stress I deal with and all my other cares, and I hate it. I've tried different things to see if it'll get me back in the mood. Eating more vegetables. Essential oils for improving sex drive. Masturbating to thoughts of different sex acts. Hell, even watching porn from time to time. On occasion one of these will do the trick for a moment, but doesn't last.
What is wrong with me? And have any other guys out there at a young age ever been through this kind of thing?
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What Girls & Guys Said
41 43stress caused that
Are you sure that it's not just something temporary? I don't think anyone has a high drive 100% of the time.
I really don't know.
I think it's just temporary and you don't need to stress too much on it.
True, don't stress too much about it. Stress is another factor too
Obviously, you are into dudes.
This man hates white women
It sounds like your depressed. Ask your doctor about it.
And by the way, vitamin D deficiencies can cause depression. Depression is defined by losing interest in activities you once loved. Go to your doctor. No shame in it
You sort of answered yo own question.. Yo job is stressin you out. You barely have time to do anything fun or to yoself.. It don't sound like you have a fulfilled life.. It sounds like you are goin day to day with a stressful job.. And it sounds sorta like you are in a state of depression. You just too stressed out, and it's causin you to be depressed, and not so excited by life includin women..
I just had sex. Orgasm'ed 3 time but could care less. I am not sexually excited and it took all my energy and work just to orgasm. I realize why now. I am not in love with her. It just feels like a best friend. And i feel like i am forcing myself to conform to her sexuality rather than my own pleasure.
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It's not age. I'm older than you and while my sex drive is now MANAGEABLE, it's not low.
My bet would be either, as you said, low testosterone, or depression.
Two things about testosterone levels. One, there is no real normal "standard" range. The range is VERY wide, with some men having 5 times the level of others. So, it's more a question of what WAS normal for you, and of course, you have no way of knowing what it used to be. There ARE abnormal levels, but they're very low OR very high.
Secondly, testosterone levels are NOT normally monitored, for the reason I just gave, and there is no clinical indication that a doctor would see, and say, "Wow! This guy's testosterone levels must be low. Let me check it!" As a result, no one looking at you would have any reason to know, one way or the other.
All that said, it could be depression. You're at an age where you are fully mature. You apparently have no significant other. I HATE to be one of those "too everything there is a season" guys, but it's kinda true anyway.
Depression can cause that
Stress, and it even seems by your description your tired from work, whether that's mental or physical exhaustion or both can be a determined to your sex drive. Also you described a low grade depression as well or burnout at work. Time to find a new job if you feel that way at work. Or take on a project you enjoy. All the best.
Yessir, I am already looking for a new job.
I don't know how old you are but testosterone production does fade from around age 20. Your problem is that you're depressed because you worry about things that you can't change. It's the "why me?" syndrome, The answer of course is "why not!" Worrying solves nothing without a plan, if you don't have one then fuck it. Use that time to work on your sex drive since that is addressable.
With your new extra time, I'd explore the variations in the world of porn. I did that and found I'm attracted to things I NEVER considered. Worked like a charm for me. " I should still be having all-day boners like I used to." That, dear sir, is another problem!
Get busy and good luck.
Could be the medicine your taking or some sort of deficiency. I say talk to your doctor if it persists.
Depression
Probably you need a new girlfriend
Dude stop watching porn and masturbating for 90 days.
Also its just part of growing older. and working full time. We get busy and it sucks. and when we get home we are tired af.
Sleeping enough is also crucial so rest up bro and dont fap or watch porn anymore
I know what you mean. If a guy is acting like a bitch, is rude, stuck up, or has poor social skills and behavior, I just get turned off, too.
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You described the symptoms of depression.
You need to visit your GP and ask for a referral to a psychiatrist.
GPs lack the training to deal with depression. Nor are GPs informed sufficiently about psychiatric drugs to prescribe them well.
Outside of that, force yourself to get out of the house and engage in at least an hour of vigorous exercise every day.
Karate and a gym did more for me than any drug that was prescribed.
"I feel like there's no glow in life anymore and like nothing really thrills me."
Anhedonia is not uncommon among people suffering from depression. (1)
But I wouldn't advise taking medication just yet try other alternatives first. Anhedonia or feeling flatlined also affects libido, inability to feel aroused or feel pleasure can also include sexual arousal and pleasure.
Stop masturbating altogether. Keep your zinc levels up. Start exercising if not already. You said you've improved your diet so that'll have positive affect too.
Stress is obvious not only it affects your libido but its cause of many other negative health issues. Stress releases cortisol which has negative impact if body is flooded with cortisol for long periods. I'd definitely suggest meditation. It should help with stress and hopefully with feeling flatlined as well. Also consider yoga or QiGong.
You need to take this seriously and consider your life as a whole. What changes you can bring about so that you feel more satisfied with your life.
If there are specific issues you want dealt with try EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique). Also utilize affirmations. Along with meditation, diet, exercise, lifestyle change or anything else you may feel could help you in the long run.
(1) www.webmd.com/depression/what-is-anhedonia#1
I appreciate this.
Women choose to be a victim. Don't go there.
And you said 'they didn't notice anything' on your T-count. I would have that specifically tested - if it's low they won't notice it unless you specifically tested for it, and will wreak havoc over your whole life, much like you describe.
When I was your age I was horny as fuck and making shit happen. Things were never better. It's all downhill from there. ;)
I only like women don't get me wrong, but my sex drive is decreasing, I've dealt with a bunch of bimbos and drama queens during my years from Jr. High to University and even now in my 30s. It's annoying, the games, the bullshit, I can't bother anymore. Once I finally don't care at all for sex, that's when girls will be flirting with me, I love how life just shapes up perfectly like that. *smh* I would just tell em to bug off at that point.
Yeah, that's the weird thing too! Is that at this point in my life I get way more chicks being into me than ever before. It's so weird.
Because you are perceived by theses women as not " needy " , therefore much more attractive
@FatherJack well at that point I won’t give a shit and I’ll ignore them. I don’t want to be committed to a woman (ie: marriage or relationship) I may as well be in jail.