Sexual Relationships 
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Lately this has been concerning me a lot more these days. I guess because it seems to be that I grow less and less sexually excited. Or that maybe it takes specific women or specific things to really arouse me. But it does bother me. Some of the details in this post are personal but I'm opening up about them because maybe someone can help.
For about the last year or so I've seemed to be less and less interested in sex, even though I want to be. I've worried about all the things they talk about: am I having low testosterone? Have I reached that point where they say men's sex drive starts to decline? Is my diet bad? Etc. I don't think it's a testosterone problem because I've been to the doctor in the last some months and they never noticed anything like that, nor did the nurses when I went for labs later on and they didn't report finding anything low. The only problem the doctor said I had was low vitamin D, which she did give me a prescription for. For a minute I thought maybe that was part of the problem, but I took the vitamin D and I still had little interest in sex and wasn't easily turned on.
I have no trouble getting an erection and I do masturbate, but even that requires being in a particular mood for. I keep feeling like maybe my problem is stress or other things going on in my daily life that do give me anxiety. My work life exhausts me. I feel unhappy more often. I have little time for myself and doing anything fun or enjoyable. I feel like there's no glow in life anymore and like nothing really thrills me. I remember how the morning could feel so good, how the smell of spring could light you up, how fun and youthful life could feel. But now it's like nothing really excites me anymore. It's like there's a cloudiness in my mind.
And this has also happened to my sexual excitement. I feel like women don't really thrill me anymore, or only particular ones. And when I say women don't thrill me anymore I don't mean I'm turning gay or anything, trust me. I mean that it seems like every woman is just another one. A hot one here. A hot one there. Been there, done that. Nothing new. Even though inside I still like all these women and find them to be hot, but I can't seem to get excited about them anymore but want to. Every now and then I will see one or meet one with an incredible body, great breasts, great skin, that really does get me particularly hard, but it's not as common of an occurence as it used to be.
Partly this lack in sexual interest is also due to what I like, need, and want in a woman that I'm just not finding in many of them. And I mean character-wise. I'm at this place where my sex drive does often depend on the vibe a woman is giving me, regardless of how she looks. Even if she's the sexiest thing on the planet with huge boobs and a great body, if she's acting like a bitch, is rude, stuck up, or has poor social skills and behavior, I just get turned off. I'm not interested in any sex with women like that. One of my male co-workers was even telling me he's the same way.
But still aside from that, I should still be having all-day boners like I used to. I work in an environment where I'm exposed to many sexually attractive women on a regular basis, and yet I rarely care. It even seems like my mind is suppressing it because of all the stress I deal with and all my other cares, and I hate it. I've tried different things to see if it'll get me back in the mood. Eating more vegetables. Essential oils for improving sex drive. Masturbating to thoughts of different sex acts. Hell, even watching porn from time to time. On occasion one of these will do the trick for a moment, but doesn't last.
What is wrong with me? And have any other guys out there at a young age ever been through this kind of thing?
#NoInterestInSex
What Girls & Guys Said
41 43Maybe something is bothering you, you are a bit depressed with life, circumstances, etc. Be positive, think positive. Be cheerful, don't think negatively, think pleasurable thoughts, have belief and trust in yourself... and you will be alright :)
we all get there some point in our life... depression do bring does things... because life starts to treat u differently... when u are doing the same thing over and over again... and getting the same results... but yr heart and mind wants something new... so everything seems dull now... because maturity starts to kick in... u need to turn to yr heavenly father to get that spiritual balance... to control yr physical life... you're battling th old u wanting to bring out th new u and the stress of life just makes things worse... meditate and look into yourself... th answer is there...
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You are just bored. I hear ya.
i think females make men feel like that by acting like there shit don’t stink. especially the real sexy ones with no sense of humor. nothing personal lady’s! i’m speaking from experience.
I absolutely agree, I feel the EXACT same way.
I’m a guy and I literally cannot get erect by staring at women’s ass or boobs. Like u said they’re just another one. I’ve never looked at a girl and gotten hard. Only when I’m in the mood. I need to find someone that I like physically and their personality needs to be good too. I just feel like chasing women is a waste of time anyway. Focus on improving your self and stop thinking about women. That’s how I get through it
Someone put a spell on you, someone I know did that to her ex
I am 100% with you man. I have lost ALL interest in females and sex. It's mainly because I see the entitlement and narcissism of women and it makes me avoid them like the plague.
You say that you’re opening up but you actually didn’t really provide any details. Are you married or going steady with someone? What is it that you are stressed out about in your life? Maybe you need to make some changes in these two areas.
Not sexually excited about women anymore? How about guys? Could that be it?
Depressed or just seeing life for the way it is rather than seeing life as a constant quest for orgasms? When lust isn't distracting you, you get to see the other things in life that matter, like personality and character, why do you consider this a bad thing?
Were you promiscuous when you were younger? And do you possibly miss your ex?
Anyways the recurring theme in your post seems to be now that lust ins't distracting you anymore you're being forced to see women for more than their bodies. Shallow activities do get boring over time, perhaps you're upset because now you're actually being forced to feel, and think, no more avoiding your true feelings.
What do you want in a woman? You mentioned only a specific type turns you on now, what is that type?
I've developed that, too. I'm getting older and my interest of sex has dropped a lot.
I didn't read that all but I think there's no need to be worried because I'm a chaste man and there comes a time when sex doesn't seem to fascinate you anymore. It's normal, lust doesn't equate to libido. Remember that.
Stress is a surefire sex drive killer and also leads to lack of interest in other enjoyment.
All your upsetness at women is doing is making you more stressed too.
Try Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. It’s not cheesy, its rewiring your brain to stop automatic negativity. It’s a joy & energy sapper to think downer thoughts all the time.
I got in a rut that way where I expected everything to turn out bad (not romance specifically) due to overtaxed stress system from grief and a series of bad breaks. When you’re run down mentally, every hope or possibility seems too far or too hard.
I'm not upset at women. I just tell the truth about women.
You don't have to hide, Kate.
See what I mean - automatic negativeness.
I hear you, been there, managed to focus on my wife again, luckily I have a beautiful and hot wife. Work is a major factor, women also tend to neglect themselves, making it even harder. Visual stimulation works for the vast majority of men, hence porn, willing seller willing, buyer. Just keep on, a woman will find you. Than making love is not the same as sex, making love and pleasuring your wife. Good things happen, sex drive for all men is a problem, either they get divorced or take interest in each other love loving your wife.
In our 20s we fuck anyone and tolerate their drama. In our 30s we know who will stir up drama quickly and they no longer turn us on.
Excellent way to put that. Definitely me.
Sounds like you need to settle down
Dude, I know EXACTLY what you're going through. Went through it myself. Sounds like your shitty job and stress situation is at the core of things (at least that was true in my case). You need to fix that. It will also help to get into a regular workout regieme and make sure you're getting enough sleep. I started lifting and that helped a TON. Also, get some soft tissue work done. I discovered that all the thousands of hours of sitting at a desk doing mind-numbing work on a computer had seriously reduced my mobility and compromised my posture. Fixing that will do wonders for your interest in sex. I noticed especially on days when I had deep tissue work done on my hips and glutes, or when I'd had an especially tough workout, the next morning I'd be sore as fuck, but I'd also wake up with morning wood you could hang an overcoat on.
Just try gay porn and accept your desire for dick. All men have it.
cause women are disgusting
and no I'm not gay
they are just so
stupid
and so dumb
and so idiotic
that being with them
is
ugh
you sound sexually frustrated.
@BrittBratt2416 no im spiritually frustrated I see the world for what it is most others do not
Then get closer with God and you won't be spiritually frustrated. Stop worrying about the world, bad things happen but God in control of everything.
Honestly, dude, I feel the same way sometimes.