Why do I overthink so much when I meet guys?

So I’ve been hanging out with this guy I met online and we’re gonna meet up soon and I have such a good memory its almost a curse. He’s very sweet and he is also shy. Every day something so minimal happens that makes me question or overthink and ruins my fun like for example he literally rarely insults anybody and we were talking about how some of my friends insult meas jokes and sometimes I take it personally and he mentioned he doesn’t really like this generation because everyone insults eachother. Then I remember this one time he called someone a pussy through a game chat bc they were sorta cheating and immediately my mind was like bfsnjwjw? U said this once (tho again he’s very peaceful and I guess everyone curses once in a while) he told me he was having a bad day that day which I guess is ok. But then I remember when we first met he talked about having anger issues and I was like ok, and recently he said he’s super peaceful and again I recalled what he said and I asked him but didn’t u have anger issues? He said, sometimes I get very angry yes but it’s difficult to make me very angry. I then explained to him that anger issues is an actual condition and if he is peaceful almost all the time then therefor he shouldn’t have anger issues. He then went “ooohh” I didn’t know the exact meaning then. I guess he thought anger issues meant just getting angry? I mean I’ve discovered he doesn’t know about a lot of terms and his typing has a lot of typos to so he might just be confused about some terms but I have OCD and I immediately think I’m being lied to and start overthinking. Should I calm down?
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  • There is no such thing as overthinking.

    What you do is analyzing a situation thoroughly and assessing whether it is potentially harmless for you or not. That is normal, mainly if you like a person. The fact that you placed this question in the "Sexuality" topic leads me to believe that you intend to go a step further in your potential relation and that is why you are just being cautious.

    A person that is shy and that suddenly explodes with anger is obviously something worrisome because that would be a red flag in any relation. That is the type of person that accumulates the anger and then releases it at once. This is not a healthy behavior because you might be the target of that anger burst.

    With those people, you always have to walk on eggshells because you never know when their anger bursts out. Just be very careful and keep being "overthinking".

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  • I mean I don't know, don't take this personally but some women do have a tendency to overthink things that are completely irrelevant, but in this instance I think he is telling you the things that he thinks she want to hear to make himself sound good. I'd potentially see this as a red flag abd proceed with caution.

  • You overthink because you allow yourself to. You could just try thinking about what's on TV tonight, or how many steps it would take you to walk to your nearest park.
    Whilst thinking about those things, I doubt you'd be able to concentrate on worrying about the guy so much.

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  • Don’t overthink just be cautious relax and be natural

  • That could be a sign of desperation.