Why do I receive judgment for being non-alcoholic?

Alcoholism runs very strongly and toxicly in my family, and since I was a young kid, I've hated it whenever my relatives became inebriated. I also know that I have an addictive personality, and since I have pretty severe anxiety/chronic stress, I'm likely to latch onto any means of escape, which is why, quite early on, I made the choice not to involve myself in anything like porn, drugs, smoking, or alcohol. However, whenever people find that out, they tend to treat me like I'm doing something weird, and even bully me a bit for it.

Even adults judge me for it and call me a purist, which is starting to really bother me.

0 3

Most Helpful Guys

  • I'm a recovering alcoholic (3 years sober, 47 years old). It sounds like you've made a very wise choice based on your self assessment and awareness. Good for you! Alcohol has proven in my experience to be an absolute fraud. Anyone who has a problem with your decision to abstain is either ignorant to the disease of addiction/alcoholism or they are not really your friends. It's also possible they themselves are alcoholic (may not be willing or ready to admit it) and your sobriety causes them to feel guilty and insecure. Either way you've made a brave and healthy choice for yourself. I know you can't choose your family, but why would you give any of your time to others if they bully you for something they should be commending you for. When I first got sober I had a few "friends" that didn't want me to be sober. In my case, that meant they were also fine with me drinking and potentially losing my life. It was an easy decision to cut those people out of my life once I saw it for what it was.

    • That's really inspiring. Great for you!

  • Because you are doing it for purity reasons. There is no sense getting bothered by the truth.

    You don't have first-hand experience. Honestly I don't drink much alcohol these days... but I used to. I learnt the consequences first hand the hard way.
    Odds are your family also learnt the downsides the hard way... and they're not going to relate to you on equal terms until you've woken up with your head in a toilet at least once.

    In short, it is a lot easier to never drink alcohol than it is to drink alcohol and then stop completely. They reckon you're taking the coward's way out.

    • I'm not against having a glass of champagne on a special occasion. I don't consider myself morally better than them either. Or pure. But yes, I am taking the 'coward's way out' because I know myself, and how easily I slip into bad habits.

Scroll Down to Read Other Opinions

What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!

What Girls & Guys Said

1 14
  • It's okay. I don't drink, smoke or do drugs either.

    Stick to your guns and don't let the toxic haters get you down. They are jealous that you have made a choice and are willing to stick with it. I can't tell you how many times I hear, how do you have any fun, blah, blah blah. That's when I tell them I have plenty of fun watching them make idiots of themselves, then watching you dumb asses get sick and fight your hangover the next day while I'm still feeling good.

  • You should not be judged... good for you!

    • Thank you

  • I have heard this bullshit myself often enough, I usually „get away with it“ by saying that I have to drive. 🙄🤷‍♂️

  • Find better friends

  • I’m 45 years old and I don’t drink alcohol. Don’t let this bother you

  • do not listen to these idiots. I grew up in the 80s and I never saw illegal drugs do anybody any good.

  • I don't drink either 😋👍🏻

  • You answered your own question within the question.

    • In the first sentence.

    • How?

    • "Alcoholism runs very strongly and toxicly in my family, and since I was a young kid, I've hated it whenever my relatives became inebriated."

    • Show All
  • Becuz people are assholes and just don't get it.

  • The best thing some of my friends ever did for themselves is quit drinking. Alcohol isn't for everybody, some people should never drink.

    • I agree. And it's not like I'm telling everyone else they can't drink. But they tell me I make them feel uncomfortable when I don't. And I find that hypocritical because I feel uncomfortable when THEY drink but I don't pressure them to stop.

    • Those people are idiots, don't listen to them

    • If they are uncomfortable then maybe they shouldn't drink so much

    • Show All
  • People like that are insecure. They know it is a negative habit and are reminded of that when someone makes a responsible choice.

  • Like vegans it is a higher plane where honestly you have room to shove it in our faces.

    • I'm not trying to shive it in anyone's face though. Literally, all I do is decline to take part in drinking.

  • You’re probably dull and no fun.

  • Don't give shit about people's judgment and opinions, you do what you find right for you.
    I applaud your choices.

  • You’re not being judged because you’re a non-alchololic. You’re being judged based on other personality characteristics. Nobody cares if you drink or not. Only you do and only you should. But if you’re self-centered and overtly judgmental of others that will come back to haunt you. You become unpleasant and drain energy from a group or discussion without adding anything positive. Abstain from alcohol but add positivity and stop critiquing everyone else’s behavior. Become self aware and stop thinking the world revolves around you and your opinions.

    • How do you get that impression? I'm genuinely confused