Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Why do men don't want a woman to have sex with someone else before them but a man isn't really to wait?
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2 38I dont mind that... why i should? She had a life before me
I can't expect from girls of my age to be virgins so I don't care anymore
There will always be some guys that have that double standard but for most it goes away with age. It's the younger guys that haven't realized that both men and women have sexual urges and like sex.
I’d prefer an experienced one tbh. I just don’t need to know the details of her previous encounters
I never wanted to date a virgin, I like a woman with experience.
Who told you that
most are afraid of being compared and not measuring up. i will probably get a lot of flak for this
Those men are selfish
That is a stereotype that is just not true. Good men have and do. I personally did and waited for marriage, unfortunately a cheating spouse can really rek a marriage.
Law of animal nature.
Women often prefer men who have been with another woman.
If women actually preferred inexperienced men, then you'd see more men wait.
They want their cake and to eat it too. Don't let that get to you. Don't let life control you and throw you around. Life is always talking shit with bad breath, you have to slap that bitch and be done with all the talking.
Gender roles. Don't like it stop being a woman. You do have that option in this day and age. Like it or not gender roles aren't going to change.
I am waiting for marriage.
A woman doesn't have to be a virgin but I don't want one with a high body count. I don't have a high body count so I want a woman that doesn't.
A couple of points here.
First, most guys don't mind if a girl has had sex before, as long as it was in a committed relationship. Guys just don't like promiscuous sluts because we know instinctively that that kind of woman is less likely to be a good and loyal partner and mother.
Second, the question really is why don't women hold men to the same standard? Women just seem to care less about a man's sexual past than men do about a woman's sexual past. So the question you should be asking is... why do you women not care as much as men do? This is a women issue, not a men issue.
Because women are SUPPOSED TO BE more virtuous. It's one of the qualities that make for a good woman.
Why are they supposed to be? Because you said so?
@kyleelyn199723 because they're the fairer sex, at least they used to be before. Women are supposed to be feminine and promote virtue. It's like how men are expected to be leaders and dominant. Some things aren't meant to change.
And not having sex has to do with being feminine? Men are expected to be leaders and dominant and not a valid reason for a man to go out and have slept with tons of women. “Some things aren’t meant to change” yeah they aren’t meant to change ONLY because you said so.
Is not a valid reason*
@kyleelyn199723 nobody said they weren't supposed to have sex, just that it should be in the confines of a committed relationship. Men are and always have been flawed and dirty. We as men hold women to higher ideals. Apparently that has been lost on a lot of women today. Men shouldn't be messing around either, but women are supposed to be better than that.
@opnion owner I disagree. You either practice what you preach or you don’t expect your partner to be that way. What defines a man as a leader to me doesn’t even have anything to do with how many women he has had sex with. There’s plenty of men in this generation that have tons of sex and still aren’t leaders
@opnion owner actually practicing what you preach is exactly what defines a leader.
@kyleelyn199723 i agree, men shouldn't and should lead by example, but we are flawed and like it or not, we are cursed with testosterone which causes men to often act using something other than his brain. It's women who should and used to keep this im check by declining men's urges. Women are the gatekeepers and a man can only get through if a woman is willing. Far too many women nowadays have been willing to do whatever with whomever and everyone suffers the consequences.
I again disagree. It’s amazing how much men make excuses when the right opinion doesn’t benefit them. Practicing what you preach makes you a leader. If you are a man that has had a ton of sex with women and but want a woman that is willing to wait , you are being a hypocrite and manipulative
How you perceive a woman should be is only because YOU said so.
@kyleelyn199723 i don't do this, but if men do that then yes they're hypocrites. Personally, it's my choice not to be with a woman who's slept around outside relationships because I haven't and I have the same expectations and preferences. My point is that women should be better than men. A woman is the gatekeeper to her body and if she doesn't respect herself to only have sex in committed relationships, how can anyone else respect her? I maintain my position, women should aspire to be more virtuous than men. It's always been this way.
@opinon owner you should watch some sopranos and see how Tony sopranos affairs and what he expects out of his wife is pure manipulative. You can have a preference all you want. It is a manipulative preference. If your opinion was correct, there wouldn’t be a ton of other men in the comments that they do not care what a woman’s past is. How you think women should be is only because you said so.
That say*
@kyleelyn199723 i fo not care what a ton of other men say or want. I'm only concerned for myself. They can live as they please and deal with the consequences. I don't understand why women today seem to want to be men? Feminism has destroyed us. Equality in rights is great and should be expected, but men and women will never be the same, period. We are different and have different roles to play.
@opinion owner having sex and choosing to have sex whenever you want doesn’t define your gender. You just proved my point though. You are concerned about yourself only, so just because you have those expectations, doesn’t mean women are designed to be that way. That is how you personally think women should be designed
@kyleelyn199723 it's only thousands of years of history is all. That's what decides it, not any one of us. It's simply expected of women to be virtuous. Male/Female roles cannot and will not change because some want it to. Women today should be better. Unfortunately, they're becoming worse.
@opnion owner history evolves and things change. You are saying that wanting sex is a male gender thing only when it isn’t. How you think women should be designed doesn’t make your opinion a fact.
@kyleelyn199723 it's not just how I think it should be, it literally has been the expectation for centuries. Women aren't men and shouldn't try to be. They are the only ones that can create life, and they're the only ones that can be the gatekeepers. Without that, it's chaos.
@opinon owner no it hasn’t been that way for centuries. Were you even alive centuries ago to make such a statement? Regardless if it has changed things for the better or for the worse (which is based on all opinion) your opinion is still not a fact