Why do men expect sex after dinner? ( Guaranteed always )?

[ct1243]

Shouldn’t I make the calls what I want to do with my body and who I allow in it? Just because a guy buys me dinner doesn’t mean you’re going to have sex. I don’t go by the 90 day rule - I go by if you’re a great guy and we hit off to something more serious than so be it. I’ll make that determination when and if. “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free” It seems that some men have this mentality of this entitlement with women. Same thing with nudes , I don’t want to stroke your ego and if I want too see your 🥒 I’ll ask. Who told men they have power to abuse their authority as MALES/ MEN?

[hellionthesagereborn]

All right thats fair but what are you doing to compensate him? Your saying he has to spend money on you and in return your going to. . . . . do nothing? Their must be some gain for him otherwise all your doing is exploiting him. Also don't make the excuse that he is paying you for your time because that says his time is meaningless to you which is incredibly conceited and disrespectful. Don't say your providing him companionship because again, he can argue the same thing yet that isn't an acceptable answer for you so their is no reason why that should be an acceptable answer for him. So you don't have to provide him with sex but you need to be giving something in exchange otherwise all your doing is using him.

[jasco]

Well honestly lots of guys feel this way cause for one just going on a date, spending my hard on money, making all of this effort and for what a hug and a kiss at best, at worse complete rejection and being used like a slave. So in short guys expect something rather then just attention from a girl on date because that's a lot of effort and unlike y'all females who don't put really any effort at all other then to just look pretty which may take a few hours to only 30 mins for some not even close to having to work your ass just to impress a girl who more then likely as a few other males in her DMs right now trying to get her as for me if its the 3rd date then i do expect something more then usual but as for the 1st nah hugging or a simple smile would be best and the 2nd is more of a me thing rather then trying to get her. So even if it came out as a bust i still find a way to relax and enjoy my time off

[hellionthesagereborn]

Oh no sir, I disagree with your stance on the Look pretty part (the rest is spot on). See women have insisted that they wear the clothes they do, wear make up, show cleavege etc. for themselves. So thats not even to the mans benefit according to women themselves and as such he isn't even paying for that much. So never let a woman proclaim that you should pay because she has to look good for you because they have already admitted that isn't true (many women try to use this argument). Otherwise like I said very accurate (sex on the first date seems weird to me. I mean thats not even special at that point, I would be concerned with her character if she gave it up on the first date).

[midnightmoon05]

That has never happened to me.
One tried kissing me, I pushed him away and that was the end of him.

All others have been gentlemen. Good quality men and I don't go to Olive Garden on dates or whatever other chain shops.

[ct1243]

I personally go to these places ; so men have to measure up differently

[midnightmoon05]

It’s important to know yourself... type you attract, will make choosing a potential partner easier.

[midnightmoon05]

If their value align with yours.

[Billie_]

A lot of men only view women as sexual objects, and can’t comprehend the idea that a woman actually has a mind of her own. Its hard but there are men out there that don’t do this, they’re just a little harder to find.

[ct1243]

I don’t know what a date is with a man as in that never happened for me

[The_unknown_memer]

Oh no they know women are humans , they just don't care

[hellionthesagereborn]

Well have you tried not looking at men like a walking paycheck? I mean maybe thats were the problem is stemming from, you demanding he give you everything he has, which is the basis for his assumption that you will give him what you have i. e. sex. Maybe if you approached the situation as equals and didn't demand he buy you dinner and do everything for you, you would find more men would be less inclined to expect sex from you? Or you know, keep taking his money and claiming its for your time because your time is more important then his and he will then expect you to put out as you have demanded that the date be transactional.

[chrissykerdock]

you feel obligated that's why and they only would get a blowjob... and i never pay a cent for dinner... also i dress sexy and want it that way and don't mind giving it

[lania_m]

that’s one of the many reasons i always split the bill.

[ct1243]

Same here

[ct1243]

Will whenever a date happens for me 😊

[Daniela1982]

I guess that is one reason you should go Dutch Treat at dinner and each pay for their own. That way he can expect nothing. You do realize that if your trade sex for dinner that technically makes you a prostitute - sex for money (dinner).

[OlderAndWiser]

ALL guys do not expect sex just because they bought your dinner. Maybe you're hangin' with the wrong dudes.

[ct1243]

Seems your triggered by this post

[OlderAndWiser]

Seems you over-interpreted my comment.

[ct1243]

Older and wiser I’ve never been on a date with a man

[OlderAndWiser]

So why did you post this question?

[ct1243]

Ask questions of course

[OlderAndWiser]

So, if you've never been on a date, what makes you think that all guys want sex after dinner?

[ct1243]

It was a general question Older AndWiser ; why do y’all make this personal instead of sticking to the question? Naturally I’ve had men tell me that if we go to diner we would have sex

[ct1243]

It never happened because we didn’t go far to a date

[ct1243]

Dinner * I had a straightforward question

[Daniela1982]

@ct1243Well, guess that kind of defines the men you hang with.

[OlderAndWiser]

@Daniela1982 Exactly!

[ct1243]

Daniela1982 nothing defines the types of men I hang with / I don’t hang out with men period since you want to be butt hurt by the post

[ct1243]

What does that prove OlderAndWiser nothing ! Unless you’re the men I’m asking about

[ohshee]

The same reason he wants dessert after dinner

[Berethor]

Because they didn't pay for your dinner out of kindness, they feel like they paid for the sex.

[Kaneki05]

Don't give to who expects give it to someone who appreciates it when you choose to want it with them.

[Gigglytr0n]

Hold up, you say it's a guarantee but then you say some? Rants expose the bias and the take-backs; it's always the same way... now that is a guarantee.

[ct1243]

Just a question

[Gigglytr0n]

For what it's worth, I totally agree with you. Nobody is entitled to your body just because they filled you with food.

[Agape93]

Because they think the bill from Olive Garden or red lobster, and being friendly, entitled them to our bodies.

[ct1243]

Exactly it seems the women know more than men which says a lot ; a bunch of bitter whiney men

[Gwenhwyfar]

I totally agree

[Bandit74]

I dont expect it but I dont want women to expect me to pay for dinner just because I am the guy either. And the more apt analogy I have seen made is "why pay for milk that so many others got for free". Sure no one is entitled to free milk just because others got it but it makes sense some would feel frustrated and lose interest in that scenario.

[Ranasal_Gansen]

You seem tiresome

[ct1243]

I am

[Ranasal_Gansen]

I mean you tire other people.

[ct1243]

I’m tired of the dating scene

[LEADFOOTboi]

they do? that's so weird

[COMMODOREII]

I have no idea. I just don't understand how these guys can act. Its the difference between a gentleman and an asshole.

[ct1243]

Yep I agree

[Juxtapose]

So he should be expected to foot the bill completely with no reward at all?

[pocketman]

Why do women think all men are the same?

[ct1243]

That’s how they want to think ; I don’t even date men

[KrakenAttackin]

Hey, if I paid for a Whopper combo meal I expect your ass up on the hood of my car.

[ct1243]

A whopper meal doesn’t qualify for a date less more ass

[ct1243]

Lol 😂 a whopper meal really

[KrakenAttackin]

@ct1243 ... and a trip through the drive-through,,😛

[LEADFOOTboi]

have mercy, kraken...

[ct1243]

I qualify for a nice setting Olive Garden ; Martho Bistro ,

[ct1243]

LEADFOOTboi 😌... a whopper meal he said Olive Garden sounds nice right now😛😋

[KrakenAttackin]

@LEADFOOTboi back off man, I'm tryin' to get laid here...

[ct1243]

I see Kraken 🤨

[ct1243]

The hood of you car = ass 😌🤨

[KrakenAttackin]

I'm kidding.

[LEADFOOTboi]

all womens think they quallify for olive garden... but do they really? hmmmmmm... i'm sensing a product of the 80/20 rule

[ct1243]

I don’t do 80/20 a man takes me out he pays the Bill

[ct1243]

Ik@ kraken

[ct1243]

That’s where I go and the value of me determines what kind of man I’m dealing with / you’re not going to take me to BK and call it a day

[LEADFOOTboi]

that's the thing... self entitled woman believes she deserves olive garden... eventho she may not... i woulndnt take this one to OG unless we split bill...

[ct1243]

LEADFOOTboi my first and only date was with a woman she took me to a 5 star restaurant

[ct1243]

LEADFOOTboi I don’t split the BILL unless the date is making me uncomfortable ( I’ll thank you for your time and go ) I’ve never gotten this far with a man

[LEADFOOTboi]

ohhh... so u in the gay crew... different market

[ct1243]

LEADFOOTboi ☕️

[LEADFOOTboi]

i'd have to determine that a woman is WIFE MATERIAL... before taking her to an OG

[ct1243]

LEADFOOTboi haha

[Agem123]

Maybe you're messing with the wrong type of men.

[ct1243]

I’ve never been on a date with a man / stop making this post personal - it’s a general question that I asked

[Agem123]

Oh, stop generalizing then!!

[ct1243]

You’re triggered, why? again ? I asked a general question- for the men of course

[Dave31989]

Why do women expect dinner, with sex?

[ct1243]

I don't know ,

[Dave31989]

exactly

[ct1243]

I’ve never been on a date know what any of it is- seemingly I’m choosing the wrong man. 😂 funny because my first date was with a woman

[ct1243]

My first and only date tbh. I wanted to throw this question out here because yes, I’ve been asked to go out to dinner and I rejected because they had this expectation of sex

[Dave31989]

If you don't like the answers, don't ask the questions

[ct1243]

I know what to do with these answers and the people - report and block

[ct1243]

Bye Dave

[Sarno88]

It's not that we expect it, it's that you have the wrong viewpoint. We don't expect anything out of a dinner, we expect that we played our cards well enough and made enough of the connection and are hoping we're going to get laid, it just majority of the time ends up being after dinner because that's usually when you go on a date