Why do men flirt and sext another woman while in a relationship? Is this normal?

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It’s so disheartening. I’m single but two exes have tried this over the last year while they’re in a relationship and it makes me lose faith.

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CikaZivan Xper 5
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There might be tons of reasons.

Boring relationship, but don't wanna leave her, so he sext/flirt...

They don't take relationships seriously, and don't care whether they might hurt girlfriend.

They are in an open relationship.

Revenge.
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- Asker
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  Distance?
- CikaZivan
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  Yeah

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glock33sig357 Xper 6
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I don't know about anyone else but my reasons are to stay relevant in case you decide to leave the relationship over something as stupid as getting upset over me flirting with other women with no intention of being with them, it also acts as a buffer period to get over you if you do decide to leave me for some reason.
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- Asker
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  I appreciate your honesty. But tbh that sounds like commitment issues maybe, and if someone is always holding back just that little bit it rarely lasts as the other person senses it.
- glock33sig357
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  I found that as a man when you pour your heart out in a relationship it tends to get stepped on when a the woman your with feels that it's not enough or your being too much, and most of us don't ever recover from that blow. Not every man you view as an asshole/ male shovnist pig is one on inside but you'll never know because your not the one for him.
- Asker
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  All that means is that it was the wrong woman, not that women are wrong in general. I mean everything has a natural flo wof time, but if it felt right the she just wasn't the one, that doesn't mean every other woman will respond the same way.

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Alexandrubaschet08 Guru
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Not all mans do that, i know as well jerks who do that.
But i know olso people who don't and blame thous who are still searching for other girls
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- Asker
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  Well it’s nice to know it’s not the majority. Why do the ones that do it so it though?
- Asker
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  *do (not ‘so’)
- Alexandrubaschet08
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  One dud told me he didn't trust his girlfriend and expect her to cheat on him so his logic whas to do it before her. Other one tell me he is bored of his girlfriend and want to finde something new. Other say he lose the atraction and the feelings for her. Other "i'm young, i need to have fun" ... many other more
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- Asker
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  Al of those are poor excuses. Just end it with the poor girls and move on, don’t cheat. It’s so sad.
- Asker
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  All*
- Alexandrubaschet08
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  Don't tell me this thing, tell to my Ex...
- Asker
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  That sucks, sorry dude. Sadly I think we’ve all been there.
- Alexandrubaschet08
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  Nop, not all people go ther
Giggltr0nn Xper 4
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SOME MEN
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- Asker
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  Yeah you’re right, my bad. But why?
- Giggltr0nn
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  It's simple, they aren't loyal and feel like they can get away with aka they're dickheads
- Asker
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  So you think they’d just do it to all girls?
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- Giggltr0nn
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  Oh yeah definitely, with people like that they just don't learn until they've lost everything and they're forced to learn
- Asker
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  That’s depressing isn’t it.
- Giggltr0nn
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  It very much is, the worst part is that there really isn't anyway to tell if a seemingly normal looking person is gonna try and hookup behind your back
- Asker
  +1 y
  I know, that’s the trouble, they actually look really happy in their pictures, which begs the question why they do it?
- Giggltr0nn
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  As far as I can tell it's a mixture of a few different things - boredom, frustration and opportunity. All of those things can come from anywhere - a poor sex life, a poor self-image, work stress, limited social life, family issues... anything really.
- Asker
  +1 y
  Well I’ve not given them opportunity, they’ve been pushing it. I hope I don’t seem an easy target... I don’t think I would because I haven’t given into it.
- Giggltr0nn
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  That's the best way of dealing with it, give them no assurances that you are fine with that because then it's just all on them
- Asker
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  Yeah true
TonyMetal___86 Yoda
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Because they are cheaters and never took their relationships seriously...

If i'm in a relationship why do i have to flirt with a other girl? NO THANKS! I'll flirt with my girl that i chose, i'll never a hurt the feelings of the girl that gives me her heart and herself...
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AlexDeLarge Xper 5
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I've never done that. Can't even find a way to do that even being single now
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- Asker
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  I agree. Why would someone want to hurt another? Life’s hard enough sometimes.
- AlexDeLarge
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  It's been done to me.
Valnac Guru
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That’s immature and something I would never do.
If you are in a relationship, that’s not fair to her to do that!
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- Asker
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  I know, but I'm juts trying to understand why they'd do it.
- Valnac
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  Some guys never grow up, or maybe they weren’t taught to respect women. Either way, you can do much better than him.
- Asker
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  The funny thing is, he's not even a bad guy and he has a good upbringing.
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- Valnac
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  Come right out and ask him why. Tell him it hurts you and he needs to stop.
- Asker
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  I'm the person he was sexting, although I didn't know he had a girlfriend at the time otherwise I would've ignored it.